to the main home cleaner of the family?

Question

Ok i've been cleaning the house for yrs, I'm a male, idk if that makes a difference, for the past four yrs I've been increasingly hesitant to clean up the others mess's, do laundry etc etc. I am a clean freak but i'm so f***ing tired of cleaning the same mess's, doing the same laundry over and over. I used to drink beer just to get started cleaning, its so hard to start when there never is a f***Ing end. NEways what are some suggestions, to motivate me clean this damn hellhole, right now i'd rather burn it to the f***ing ground than to look at it. it's not totally nasty, but it looks like it to a clean freak..I seen on tv where women would go buy meth to stay on top of chores. I dunno i just need some suggestions before I go commit arson.. serious answers plz..It's hard to clean with my son or wife here bcoz its a they don't care so why should I kinda thing..

Answer 1

WOW, do I ever understand that sometimes. What works best for me, is make everyone else get out. Make them go to the store for me, take the dog to the park, anything, so I don't have to see them sitting and doing nothing. I can't do it if people are just sitting around watching me.

Answer 2

I'd recommend you AND wife AND son consult together with an impartial professional or maybe your clergy. It seems that there needs to be some compromise middle ground where wife and son would be responsible for at least some of the clean up -- even if it's only to keep it out of sight and limited to a particular house region. The unfavorable thing is that you've allowed it to go on for 4 years. You've almost made it into an ingrained habit that is self propagating (and somewhat self destructive since it seems to depress you so much to clean. Is there some beneficial reward you or wife&son can provide to you after you've done the cleaning? ...or maybe that would be the best time for you to do your regular exercising; that would make the cleaning more constructive and maybe less depressing. From what you write it seems like the cleaning is akin to digging your own grave.) Anyway, my lead sentence -- that's my best shot at your problem target.

Answer 3

i sympatise with your "messy situation" -- and i do not have a wife and a son. plus i have a dog. things being the way they are --you are right there are repetitive chores -- laundry is a main one -- dusting is second one (i hate it) and bathroom, toilet and kitchen constant cleaning...you do it...once, twice, three time and it is up again. In the past a "helper" professional one did help a lot...I trusted the woman and she was excellent. so my advice to you --if you can afford one -- pay someone "good" to do the usual chores...at the beginning it takes time to show your stuff around -- but there are many day workers very reliable and honest that will do the job. Employ them good for your moral. Your wife and son would love it too and it is good for your own health. that is the first advice. the second advice...we clutter because we think we have the space -- and it is true...so restrict your cluttering to one "space only --one roomette, pile all the junk there and visit only once a month". I agree we do not have the energy and motivation to do it all and all the time -- I hope they come up with an electronic gadget to wipe the floors and clean the bathrooms (without scrubbing and kneeling etc.). as for the laundry i found a quick way -- I do visit often the laundry machines...but stuff in it and disappear for 24 hrs. and the next time my shower time is up -- i put them in the dryer etc. You create your own routine the way suits you best. Hope it helps. Interesting subject, thanks for raising the flag.

Answer 4

One get rid of anything not used, torn, too small etc. The less you have the less you have to pick up or clean. Organize the rest, make sure you have a place for everything and everything in its place. Make your son and wife do chores, or start getting rid of the items they leave around.

Answer 5

the owner of the cleansing provider that cleans my domicile reported they use Barkeeper's pal for a lot of issues, alongside with scrubbing my white kitchen sink and cleansing my flat-remarkable range. It even gets all that black stuff off that the conventional stovetop purifier would not. I study on tricks From Heloise to apply rubbing alcohol to get bathing room furnishings (taps and handles) sparkling (in the event that they're chrome).

Answer 6

Try turning on some music. That helps me a lot. Tell your son and your wife that if they don't want to help you clean then they should have respect and stay out of your way when you clean.

Answer 7

You'll need to get the rest of your family involved. They should, at the very least, be cleaning up after themselves. You need to talk with your wife so she knows how upset you have become. As for your son, have him completing chores equal an allowance, money to buy things he wants, games, internet, etc.
They need to learn responsibility.

Answer 8

It sounds like you and your wife need some therapy. If the situtation has gotten that bad, you should talk to a professional. You sound really, really depressed. Laundry and cleaning are thankless, endless jobs and if they cause you that much strife, you need to talk to your wife about it.

Answer 9

I say your wife needs to get up and do something and your son needs some discipline and to have chores to do daily.♥ That's just my opinion though.♥

Answer 10

i know how you feel, it seems to me sometimes that i never stop having to clean up other peoples mess in my house. i know this is odd, but i always put on the song "cars" by gary numan, somehow it keeps me sane and happy, try it. (",)