there is a boy...no he is not my bf ,nor am I in love with him…my problem is that he has been a family friend for long n now comes to my home to visit and whenever he comes he opens the net n does his work on orkut n all those stupid communities.well,I too have been distracted a lot by the net,but when he comes,my distraction increases…today so happened n I wanna stop myself from deviating from my studies…as it is I have been very distracted lately n my grades have gone down horribly..previously I came in the top most category,but now…I have gone down pegs n pegs. I know this will wear off ,but I want your help. I cant tell him to stop coming to my house n he is so influential I mean…these things are very influential,I know I am harming myself like this…plz if anyone here knows harsh facts tha would make me sit up or has rhetoric in themselves plz do try n motivate me…I cant talk to my parents bout it nor anyone else as I am very shy bout these matters…but if u all can help…plz do help
2006-12-26 03:08:42 · 4 answers · asked by globe 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
no i cant go anywhere the first answerer has suggested
counselling is not possible
i dont want to share it with a friend
2006-12-26 03:20:14 · update #1
Remember, any influential abilities anyone or anything has over you you are the one who allows them this power. Take control of your life and stop giving things and people power they would not have if you did not give it to them.
2006-12-26 03:14:30 · answer #1 · answered by Immortal Cordova 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try this:
"Trevor, I'm glad you can come over and visit with us, but I need to study for a few hours. Why don't you go talk to (Mum, Dad, the dog) while I finish my work?"
Notice that you do not offer him a choice. Then, get right to work and don't get involved in a conversation with him.
To help you do this, pretend that you are your mother's age, and that this boy has no influence over you.
Good luck!
2006-12-26 03:22:38 · answer #2 · answered by silvercomet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you tell a counselor at school?
Can you go to the library to study?
Can you go to a friends house?
2006-12-26 03:13:33 · answer #3 · answered by Russell W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds as though you have a crush on this person... your making every excuse so you can stay in the room while HE is there... you are blaming yourself for things that he did not do....give up the insanity... go study in another room.... get away from this person.......
2006-12-26 05:58:50 · answer #4 · answered by ﺸÐïåMóñdÐôññåﺸ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋