on't even like going to buy food. I didn't buy anyone anything for Christmas, and no one bought me anything. My daughter cused me out and took me and her five kid's to denny's and then said she didn't have any money so i paid $70.00 for the food, I didn't even eat. She told me she wanted nothing else to do with me, because I didn't buy the grad kid's gifts. I've been the only one on other Christmas's that did get them gifts. But last month I spend $1,000 on them, i bought them a washer and dryer. Took then to Ruby tuesdays, and paid to get them out of a snow on the road because of the blizzard. But when I didn't buy anyone anything for Christmas she, (My daughter!) told me She wanted nothing more to do with me and she would not let me see the kids. They are 16, 14, 12, 8, 3, 2, 2. twins on the last. I'm just tired., Of always being broke because my daughter is always spending too much money.
2006-12-26 02:47:14 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Games & Recreation ➔ Hobbies & Crafts
Oh yes I fogot to mention she's stolen 10.000 in the past, begs me to take her to re lobster with all the kid's and i end up spending 150.00 Then she'll tell me i'm no grand parent. Then she'll pull up to my door and say get out of my car. She has really hurt me and ruined my day on Christmas.
2006-12-26 03:05:01 · update #1
And then my daughter will laugh and tell her kid's Denny's was nothing. I've done nothing. I'm no good and the kid's will come to tell me in private, "Grandma we don't agree with her. But they are affraid of her. I'm really in bad shape today. Thanks for your help.
2006-12-26 03:08:51 · update #2
I just read your post and I am so pissed off right now, I don't think I can type fast enough!!!......I am sure Dr. Phil would say, well, you helped make her that way, because you always bail her out...that may be true, however, Mothers, don't want to see their kids struggle, and when there are grandchildren involved, sometimes we think with our heart and not with our head.We don't want our kids to not "like" us....It is easier to just say yes, or do it, to avoid the confruntation of what a lousy mother you are because you won't help....Now that BS ends right now!!!!.....Time to toughen up Mom right now!!!..Your daughter has absolutely no respect for you at all!!!...Your grandkids that are old enough know the "game" your daughter is playing, and they will NOT hate you for telling your daughter to kiss your A++!!!!....I KNOW you love her, and those kids, BUT, enough is enough!!!!.....Are you a friggen doormat????....No!!!....so why are you letting her treat you like that!!!!......No friggen more Mom!!!!!!!.......I can't imagine the amount of stress you must be under, because I would never be talked to like that by a stranger, let alone my daughter.......She is a Master Minipulator!!!....and she is playing you like a FOOL!!!!!.....Oh, this post makes me so angry......Toughen up.....YOU have to be around my age, so what is going to be there when you "attempt" to retire down the road, IF you have anything left, if your credit isn't shot, and how many hours a week do YOU...WORK...to pay her mistakes and selfishness off, which sounds to me like it is totally unapreciated!!!!!!....It will hurt your heart, but you need to learn how to say NO
2006-12-26 03:57:32
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It sounds like your Christmas wasn't the happiest you've ever had; sorry about that. Your daughter and family seem to be the ones with the issues though; she certainly isn't a very gracious child now is she? I'm sure you've heard the term "tough love". As hard as it is it's what you'll have to practice. Dis-associating yourself from your kids has to be one of the toughest thing a parent has to do sometimes but your health and sanity needs to be a priority. If you feel that you've done all you can for her and she refuses to accept responsibility for her actions then let her go! Take care of yourself first. You can contact your health care provider or your local hospital and ask for free care. Believe me, there's lots of help that is offered for a minimum charge or free if need be. Good luck to you.
2006-12-26 03:37:21 · answer #2 · answered by honey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you said the kids are afraid of your daughter, it made me think she might be Bi-Polar ( I am a nurse and have seen many situations similar to yours ) and may be in desperate need of medical help and medication. She may have caused fearfulness in her children due to radical mood swings. Get the complete story from the eldest children, relate your fears to a mental health professional and ask what steps you can take to help your daughter. Meanwhile, take comfort in the fact that you still have your grandchildrens' hearts and offer them an open heart and open arms.....they will never forget you for it. Good luck and God bless
2006-12-26 12:51:49 · answer #3 · answered by jidwg 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You sound as if you are depressed. Your daughter is taking advantage of you because you have allowed the behavior. You are engaged in a pattern of enabling with your daughter. you should seek professional help for you first and then perhaps invite your daughter along. this may be the only way to end the cycle of enabling and abuse. If she "cussed" you out - why would you go along with her to the restaurant and then pay for the meal? If your daughter makes a decision to take her children to Denny's and does not have the money to pay - she should have to face the consequences. Please seek professional help before you are out of money and at your wit's end..... it sounds as if you are almost there.
2006-12-26 03:02:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that your daughter is just using you. Explain to her the situation that you have just explained to us. As well, you should consider seeing a doctor and see if you may have a small case of depression. Good luck and God Bless you and yours.
2006-12-26 02:55:40 · answer #5 · answered by James C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's time you live YOUR life. You have already raised your kids (daughter) and you are not responsible for your daughter's kids.
It is your daughter's responsibility. Don't let your daughter twist reality and make you feel guilty, just because she's overwhelmed with all those kids she has. It's not your fault.
It pissed me off just reading this. You don't owe her anything - you already raised her.
Live your life now and enjoy it!
2006-12-26 02:57:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, your daughter is just using you. Nothing is ever good enough for her. I understand its hard, that is your daughter, and you want to see your grandkids... but enough is enough. They are old enough *most of them* to stand up to their mom and see you if they want to. There is nothing she can do about it. If she fights you, well call CPS
2006-12-26 03:24:11 · answer #7 · answered by just_acali_girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
telll your daughter how she had use your money and it is time for her to take care of u, not u take care for her. U have been takine care for her many years until she get married. And so, it is time for her to take care of u back.
2006-12-26 03:01:54 · answer #8 · answered by deer8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry for u
2006-12-26 02:56:04 · answer #9 · answered by Cristina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋