If a child is over 21 yrs old, and they see that their parent has made a harmful, or wrong decision?

Question

is it ok to go against the parents decision even if it might offend?

Answer 1

of course!ok lah!

Answer 2

The child and parents are both adults. Who's right is it to say that a decision is wrong? Has the decision infringed on anyone elses rights? I would say unless it drastically alters the child's quality of life then, stay out of it. So many people feel that because they are related to someone, that it gives them the right to be disrespectful. Think about this..If we were neighbors or perfect strangers would I react the same way? Do I have the right to offend them just because I don't like their decision?

Answer 3

Alright, you got me on this one. Your old enough to be on your own. Your old enough to have a fair amount of wisdom. You see something happened between your Mom and your grandparents and you don't think your Mom handled this too intelligently. She did something stupid and got caught! It happens. Grand parents tend to be a little too forward with their unsolicited advice and your Mom wants too punish them. If words were used to hurt then the lack of words make a good counter punch! Problem is you feel the need to intervene. I would say Kudos to you for your good heart. However, this may be a time to sit back until all the ammo has been expended. You may find that you are on the losing end of both parties! Let them sort it out after the first few weeks. After that then come in with your wisdom and solve all the problems. That sounds a bit harsh, sorry, I don't sit well with children who still live at home countermanding my authority.

Answer 4

Depends on what country you live in. In the USA being 21 is being an adult and fully capable to do as you please, however I do know that in some countries, in some cultures, being 21 doesnt mean much. You still have to listen to your family. Consult someone else in your family to see if you are making the right decisions. See what they think. Sometimes you might think you are making the right decision, but realize much later that it was completely wrong. Good luck

Answer 5

Absolutely!

A person is not a 'child' once he/she is over 21 years of age... They are an adult, and likewise, have to make adult decisions for themselves.

If something is harmful for them, then they must go on thier own and forget the advice from thier parent.

Only "you" can make the decision for yourself, and your future... Parents can only do so much, then they must let you 'mature', or you will be socially stagnated and never gain independent status, that will let you live on your own.

I wish you well...

Jesse

Answer 6

Yes, it is okay, but the other side of that is that is it wise to listen to the counsel of older people. Plus, consider the damage your decision might do to the relationship, and decide if the damage is worth the decision. I have gone along with many things in my life because the relationship was more important to me than being right.

Answer 7

well you must respect the fact that they are the parents and why that they made that decision but NO if they making something harmful to you that may really hurt you.. you must think about that...

Answer 8

If they are over 21 then they are not a child and need to do what is wright for them anyway.

Answer 9

I applaud your desire to be moral. However personally, I would really have to weigh what was wrong/harmful and the full extent of such because to me Loyalty is everything.

Answer 10

At 21HE IS FREE TO TAKE DECISIONS ,HE MAY ALSO FIND FAULT WITH HIS PARENTS, BUT HE NEEDS GUIDANCE FOR SOME MORE YEARS TO BECOME INDEPENDENT.AVOID CONFLICT GIVE RATIONAL EXPLANATION FOR EVERY ACTION,TREAT HIM LIKE A FRIEND,KEEP THE RELATIONSHIP INTACT.