I think I've reached my limit in my marriage and I'm considering divorce. The problem is this: I'm not sure what to do or how to do it, now am I totally comfortable with the decision I'm about to make. We've been together 10 years and have three children. What advice would you give me?
2006-12-26 02:35:08 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Judgmentalism always makes me laugh...LOL
Anyways, we have had 6 different counselors and things go good for a time, I'm certainly willing to make changes because I recognize the investment both of us have made. It's certainly true that I think keeping vows are important; but what if one person keeps them and the other does not?
Trust me when I say this, but I'm honestly fighting for a reason to stay and not looking for the easy way out...however, she's a violent woman. So, under what circumstances would be more harmful for us to stay together than for us to split? Are continued wrongs overcomeable?
2006-12-26 03:09:07 · update #1
I don't know what all is going on that makes you feel like you should seek a divorce but if you are unsure that getting a divorce is really what you want to do, sit down and talk to your wife about the problems you are having and different ways to solve them and maybe consider some marriage counseling. Remember your vows too, "For better or for WORSE". Divorces are to easy and too common today, try everything else first to try to make it work. After you have tried everything and nothing works, then seek a divorce attorney.
2006-12-26 02:43:27 · answer #1 · answered by T.K. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well don't run out and get a divorce yet. You have to earn your way of a marriage. This means that you have tried EVERYTHING first to make it work. Remember you have 3 children who's lives are going to be affected greatly. Talk to your minister/priest or go for couples counseling. This may be something you can work on together. You might find out that you both have the same fears and worries and just haven't been communicating well. Try everything else first. Don't just throw 10 years down the drain. You have too much invested in this one to try and start over again. Besides, like I mentioned before, you have 3 children to think of too. Good Luck! I hope you make the right decision.
2006-12-26 10:40:06 · answer #2 · answered by Bren 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure its the right decision. It hurts everyone involved when a divorce occurs. Maybe you can talk to a trusted friend or counselor to help you sort out your issues.
If you really want to divorce, you should talk to an attorney about filing the papers and starting the process.
2006-12-26 10:37:57 · answer #3 · answered by Stareyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MY ADVICE...
MARRIAGE COUNCELLING!!!!!
ASAP!
Why toss away three good years of marriage, because you fell out of love with your wife?
What? She is unattactive to you now, that she maybe out of shape, because she bore your children? Has the "zing" gone out of your life, because she has to "take care" of your children and has no time for you????
Then its time you get your act straight, and start to grow up!
(Yea, I'm betting thats the problem too!)
Get some councelling, for yourself, as you need to grow up and be a man, instead of a boy who needs constant attention from his wife.
Your not a child anymore, and you need to take on responsibility,as you have three wonderful children who needs a father... And if you not able to be one, then you shouldnt have had them in the first place!!!
Start going to church, and find the LORD, and seek HIM out... It will help your marriage...
I wish you well...
Jesse
2006-12-26 10:40:24 · answer #4 · answered by x 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a clue and live up to your marriage vows:
"...for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, till death do you part."
Unless your wife has been unfaithful, you should be ashamed of yourself, with 3 children.
I personally think that divorce should be against the law (except for unfaithfulness), and that pre-nuptial agreements should also be against the law, with the unfaithful partner losing everything.
I'm sick and tired of divorce, and I hope my law is passed and I hope that if people don't like it, they'll be miserable if need be.
2006-12-26 10:37:07 · answer #5 · answered by Joe C 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
first off find some netural party to counsel the 2 of you
2006-12-26 10:37:30 · answer #6 · answered by furmanator1957 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please try counseling first, ten years and three kids is an investment worth preservation. All marriages have their ups/downs and @ vacation or second honeymoon could renew your commitment.
2006-12-26 10:42:29 · answer #7 · answered by Sweetgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go see a divorce lawyer.
2006-12-26 10:37:05 · answer #8 · answered by parsonsel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
speak with a divorce attorney. He/she will guide you.
2006-12-26 10:37:45 · answer #9 · answered by mstrywmn 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Simply Rip up your marraige certificate and you will not be married any more. (Also set on Fire)
2006-12-26 10:37:28 · answer #10 · answered by I'm 1 up on you!! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋