How old should a child be to start making decisions that contradict their parents feelings? Such as in the event that their parent had made a bad decision that may well cause the family(grandparent relationship) to disolve.
2006-12-26 02:20:18 · 17 answers · asked by bungholian_monk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
kids contradict their parents feelings all the time
but for a child to see that the parents made a bad call, they should be 15 and up
2006-12-26 02:24:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I might suggest that you talk to the parent /parents to question in private what brought the thought into action. Contradicting might be a wise thing also to bring to topic a further and deeper discussion on the whole matter. Is there something that occurred in the past that might have greater meaning to the reasons behind the decision. There may be issues that you are not aware of.
If the person was drinking perhaps that might be a reason to bring the topic to a stop for the moment and I feel that it is a wise decision on your part so that the family does not separate.
Sounds like a very wise decision. The more information you know the better before you get into greater discussions on this matter. Sometimes Parents don't always have the right answers.
Good luck
2006-12-26 02:29:44 · answer #2 · answered by Spirit_Rain_3-SunShineAries 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the way the child is brought up ! In a single child family , in which there is too much of pampering in the name of parental care, the child actually becomes more and more self-centered and narrow minded and takes the branded image of people as seen by its parents. As such, these parents are riding on the back their own children and for their own sake too ! This is realized by the child at a much much later stage in its life , some times it occurs only when the child becomes old ( I mean above 50 Yrs ) when it becomes really difficult to erase such negative impressions created by the faulty parents and become at least neutral in its approach and attitude towards others . By this time, he would have been already branded as a negative and unhelpful person by others !
2006-12-26 02:27:46 · answer #3 · answered by devadossvanaja 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children need to be given more and more responsibility as they grow and mature. Children need to be allowed to make their own decisions w/in a certain framework, so they learn about consequences both positive and negative.
It sounds from the question like it is a teenager being discussed, and teenagers should be allowed a fair amount of freedom, although the parent should still be the deciding force plus should protect the teen from making harmful decisions. It is really hard to offer specific advice w/o having more specific information, but in general the teen should not directly disobey the parent while they are living under that parent's roof. If the teen disagrees with the parent, then things should be discussed in a calm manner,but the parent is still the ultimate authority.
2006-12-26 02:26:07 · answer #4 · answered by Cris O 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't underestimate the wisdom of children I think the younger they are the better the advice since children at a young age are still quite innocent and they will probably tell exactly what they are thinking without sugar coating it. So just think they are telling you exactly what they see and feel it to be and maybe you should take comfort in the fact that your child is no fool and pay more attention to what they say providing its is coming to you in a respectful manor. My youngest is four and he tells me when he don't think something is right most times I will tell him he if he don't have all the fact so he need not worry about such adult things and sometimes embarrassingly enough he is right.
2006-12-26 02:52:55 · answer #5 · answered by Crazy in Love 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever the age is that this child can get out on their own and make a living by themselves. Plus it helps that every decision they make is on the money, like maybe weird hair color! lol
2006-12-26 02:30:47 · answer #6 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 13 and I'm doing that now. I spend time with boys, although my mom doesn't want me to even have guy friends until high school. That's ridiculous, so I took matters into my own hands.
2006-12-26 02:25:50 · answer #7 · answered by cowgirl91 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be a wide variety of ages, with a mother, it could be as young as 8, with a father, it could be, 12-18
2006-12-26 02:22:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
children really accumulate their parents faults, while observing the power balance (15-16 years old), then they will start showing their rebelion, Ups and downs will be the responsibilty of the parents.
2006-12-26 02:27:41 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I would think that when they were ready to move out of the house then they make there own decisions ...
2006-12-26 02:26:01 · answer #10 · answered by TalonsMomma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋