Found out the divorcee is actually still married?

Question

What a shot in the a** when I found out that the woman I have been seeing for almost a month now has still been married to her husband and cheating behind his back. I go to school and work so with my busy schedule guess I was not able to devote the time to find all this out earlier. I don't think that is an excuse but who could tell when you at least expect someone to be honest at some piont. Well guess it is back to the single scene and better luck next time. My question is how do some people sleep at night?

Answer 1

same thing happened to me i was with her she said she was divorced

Answer 2

Apparently she sleeps in other peoples bed at night and has such a good time that she doesnt even care if her husband finds out or not... (Especially when its been going on for a month with you...how many others has she caroused around with?).

I feel sorry for her husband and kids if there are any involved...

The best thing is to tell her never to bother you again. You dont want to be involved with this woman, because she will do the same thing with you, if she breaks up the marriage and goes with you... She is a confirmed cheater and she makes no bones about it. A sneak is as bad as a liar, because she is doing some powerful lieing at home.

I wish you well..

Jesse

Answer 3

Well.... I am technically married however, my husband has been out of my home for nearly 6 years now..... He has a girlfriend, and I am seeing someone too... I held off getting the divorice because of his threats to take my children and my home.... Now that the threats are gone I plan to follow through with the divorice. Did you get the woman's story???? and I guess more importantly do you LOVE her? if not, go ahead and move on... it will be better for both of you in the long run.. If you love her, then just love her. God will work out all of the details.... who knows, but know that the relationship had to have had some purpose for it to exist. Even if it was to be a catalyst in ending her marriage. I hope and pray that you find peace. And by the way that's how I manage to sleep at night-- prayer and God's grace.
~peace to you

Answer 4

Man that is a**. At least you know now and did not get in too deep. I think that people are able to shut things out or FORGET what they are doing is wrong and that is how they sleep. Also I think people lie to themselves so much they believe what they are lying about. Not everyone in this world is honest so I think that you need to keep a guard up just a bit because people can hurt you without even trying to.

Answer 5

I've been where you are, and it sucks. Does she still live with her husband? If that's the case, I'd kick the ho to the curb. If she doesn't, though, perhaps there's another reason why they are still married (i.e. divorce will cost too much).

Not all divorcees are bad, though. Sometimes, it just pays to do your homework before you get into a situation with someone who's been "divorced" for less than a year or two.

You deserve better if she lied to you. I hope you find what you're looking for.

Answer 6

Well, now you have some insight as to why her marriage fell apart! I often wonder how people like that sleep at night too, and it used to tear me up wondering why things happened or how someone could do such horrible stuff to another person - especially one they professed to love or care about.

I think all we can do is let it go & know that the choices they make will come back around on them. I sleep great at night because I have a clear concience, & when I go to bed I pray not for horrible things to happen to my ex, but for him to have the life he deserves. That's horrible enough - haha!

Answer 7

It's happened to me before also. I dated this man for almost 6 months. He swore to me that he and his wife were seperated and the divorce was taking so long due to them not being able to reach an agreement on things. I'm not sure how he got away with his lies on the other end since he would stay with me all week-end long sometimes. Anyway, he finally told me the truth and it was devastating. His wife was pregnant!!!! I felt physically ill and told him to get the **** out of my house and never come back. I guess he felt the need to lie because he knew I'd never agree to date him if I knew the truth. But I'm like you, how could he lay down and sleep at night knowing what he was doing was wrong. I felt bad for me sure, but I really felt worse for his poor wife. She's the one that got betrayed even worse.

Answer 8

Congrats. You are asking a very relevant question. It is amazing that some people can even face themselves in the mirror. There must be something lacking in some people, to enable them to behave so wrongly, yet to feel no shame. As for your ex girlfriend, I suggest that you should inform her husband that he's married to a cheater. She deceived you, and him. Don't let her get away with it. Cheaters count on other people keeping silent, so they can keep playing sex games with extra partners.

Answer 9

Honestly some people just have no trouble cheating and lieing, its as though it comes naturally to them and doesn't faze them a bit.
At least you can stick to your morals and not keep the relationship going now that you know.
Good Luck getting back out there on the scene! :)

Answer 10

good question! it's a good thing you found out now rather than down the line after investing more time and energy into the relationship. There are honest people out there-don't give up!

Answer 11

Lots of people cheat, the numbers that admit it are only the tip of the iceberg. Be happy that you found out before her husband did.