I am planning to space my children around 20 months apart, do you think this is too close?.
2006-12-26 02:02:13 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
My 1st 2 children are 2 weeks off of being 1 yr apart. My oldest daughter was born 12/04/02 and my middle daughter was born 11/23/03. my 3rd daughter came when my 2nd daughter was 18 mos.(05/15/05) It can be hard sometimes, but as one child is growing out of one stage the next one is going into it, so you get kind of an idea what you might expect. I dont know what it's like with children of the opposite sex. Since I have all girls, its pretty fun. I am due with our 4th in the middle of July, and this one will be 2 years from my 3rd daughter. So I think you should go with what you can handle. but be careful, sometimes Mother Nature can throw you a curve ball. Thats how I go my 1st two girls! Good Luck!
2006-12-26 02:52:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My children were 5 years apart so they never had anything in common with each other. They love each other but nothing n common. They never played together, or attend the same school at the same time. My sons children are just a year apart and they get along great and enjoy each other. They have about the same friends and enjoy pretty much the same things. The oldest is a boy the other a girl. My daughter's first two children were 14 months apart, 20 months difference between the 2nd and 3rd child and 3 years and 3 months between the 3 child and the twins. The three older children are very close together and they love their baby brothers. Just the 2nd child is a girl the other 4 are boys but she doesn't care she loves her brothers. Therefore I think having them closer together is best. They have more in common and are much closer and can play better together.
2016-05-23 07:44:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. I have 3 children and am pregnant with my 4th. They are 20 months apart, 17 1/2 months apart, and when the baby is born in April there will be 14 1/2 months between the youngest. I love having my kids this close in age. It's so fun. They play together and love each other. It can be demanding some days...but then again, some days having only one child is very demanding, that's just parenthood. It works out well for me because my husband is very loving, supportive and involved with our children. If you like the age distance, then I say go for it. It's so much fun! Good Luck!
2006-12-26 02:09:53 · answer #3 · answered by Steph 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best friend has two boys that are that are 13 months apart. And things seem to be ok for her, but in my opinion from just see what she does I wouldn't want to kids so close together. You have to keep in mind that they will both be in diapers and maybe both be in cribs still at the same time. Neither of them can communicate well enough to tell you what the problem is all the time so it will be a big guessing game. I think the perfect age to have a second child is when the first is about 3 or 4 years old. Good luck!
2006-12-26 02:07:17 · answer #4 · answered by Nicole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son was born August of 1999, my daughter was born July of 2001.
I think they are spaced apart in age just fine =) The hardest was getting my son to not steal his sister's bottles and potty training my son while he seemed to not want to yet. But the potty training thing could be an issue for anyone - regardless of other children or not or how close together they are in age.
I think I'm more nervous about baby #3 - due July of 2007 and the age gap there then I was with 1 & 2. Most of that is because my sister and I are 5 years apart and faught a lot more I think, then my own kids do.
Also, one thing I found out with my son, is he was young enough he could understand his sister's cries, even when myself and my husband were still learning what each one of hers meant.
He would run and grab a diaper if he knew his sister needed it, or even the can of formula if she was hungry. It was amazing.
2006-12-26 02:10:29 · answer #5 · answered by lilly_rose_starphase 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL, my babies are 11 months apart! It's a lot more work but definitly worth it! When they are so young they grow up never remembering life without a sibling, and the jealousy issues parents with children spaced farther apart have to deal with are almost non-existent. My sister and I are 10 months apart and have always been extremely close, to this day we are great friends.
2006-12-26 02:47:01 · answer #6 · answered by dolly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think this is too close. I am one of four children. We are all less then 24 months apart and we all turned out great. It was also great that we were able to be friends growing up.
2006-12-26 02:05:34 · answer #7 · answered by Jfranc1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're worrying about it too much. Back in the day people just squirted out kids and went on with life, and they weren't as messed up then as we are now.
My mom had a kid a year for 6 years. I was born 3 years after the youngest (I'm 41 now). When she was 22 my mom had 4 kids under 5 years old, two in diapers. We all survived, and we're all responsible, reasonably successful adults with intact marriages and successful kids.
Forget what the shrinks and the experts say. The shrinks have all been in therapy themselves. Parent with common sense, compassion, and by listening to your gut.
2006-12-26 02:14:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have 3 girls, 2 years, 4 years and 6 years old. I think it's perfect because they can play together, grow up together, and help each other. It's a little hard, but I wouldn't recommend more than 3 like this or you may have a heart attack at a young age from all the stress. LOL!
2006-12-26 02:05:54 · answer #9 · answered by lilmama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont. of course mine are going to be 11 months apart if i go full term.
my oldest 2 are 24 months 16 days apart. 2 and 3 are 9 yrs apart. 3 and 4 are 2 yrs
2006-12-26 02:07:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋