I have no doubt that my girl is in love with me, we're coworkers, we're engineers so we work on the field, it came out the subject of another coworker..... a guy, , and she said that she has a lotta fun when she works with him, that he's a fun guy, this is the same guy that she once told me (before we went out) she thought was a handsome dude, she has never told me i'm a fun guy, she has told me a lotta nice and romantic stuff but never that I'm a lotta fun, and that just burned inside me, now, she says that she is not interested in him, that yes, he is attractive but she is madly in love wit me, and I just don't know what to make out of it, it's hurting me too bad and about to show her the door for that, Whatcha think?
2006-12-26 01:55:30 · 7 answers · asked by Rick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think you are SERIOUSLY over reacting and you should stop it now before you upset your life.
Good Lord, she said she was madly in love with you, what more do you want?
She may not have told you that you're a fun guy, but that doesn't mean she hasn't told other people that you are.
Women, just like men, can think some one is attractive without the thoughts going beyond that.
For your own sake, give this a rest and trust her when she says she's madly in love with you.
2006-12-26 02:07:20 · answer #1 · answered by Lucianna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After we've been in relationships for a while, they tend to get stale. Spruce up the "fun" with her. How about a suprise weekend get away, even to a local hotel complete with room service and hot tub. All women (and men) need fantasies or want to be desired. So this other man is probably doing that for her. You can only control your own actions. I also think that at the right moment you should express your feelings/fears. Men would rather die than do that, I know. However, have the conversation in your mind first. You will find the right words. Lastly, at the end of the day, I know whose shoes fit under my bed. She is in love with you. Take comfort in that while you work on making your own fun and feelings known.
2006-12-26 10:07:59 · answer #2 · answered by ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes being a fun guy might not be that good because he might also be a flirt and outgoing and love making the opposite sex laugh. Probably she didn't carry on with him because of that. Stay the way you are. She is with you for who you are. If she like the fun guy she would have stayed with him. Don't destroy what might be a very good thing for you.
You are pinpointing on just what she mentioned. What if she mentioned he is a handsome, witty, intelligent, humorous, kind, generous, humble guy, would you go and think you are not all those? Get a grip.
2006-12-26 10:37:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a completely normal reaction. Even if you are 100% sure of your relationship, you will still have feelings of jealousy. You can logically know that she isn't interested, but still get emotionally defensive.
It is best that if she really doesn't care for him to just let it go. But if she is obviously attracted to him, you will have to talk to her about it. She might not even notice that she pays him all that much attention.
And if you are worried about not being a fun guy, maybe work on that. Girls like guys who are fun in public, but romantic when exclusive.
2006-12-26 10:04:33 · answer #4 · answered by peliglad 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are being too sensitive and are overreacting. She probably just assumes that you already know she thinks you are fun. If not talk to her about it. I know guys are not much for feelings but if it is bothering you to the point where you are going to end your relationship over her not letting you know you are fun(which is lame) then say something to her.
2006-12-26 10:06:05 · answer #5 · answered by tiffantre 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are acting like an immature, insecure juvenile. Such behaviour is a real turn off to romantic partners. Don't be a dope.... she is in love with YOU not him. Grow up or at least act that way.
2006-12-26 10:51:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow...I think you need to calm down and get over your foolishness......she says she loves you so what...she can't comment on the looks of another person or their personality without you feeling threatened or wanting to kick her out of your life...you have issues that you need to deal with...good luck
2006-12-26 10:09:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋