Guys & Gals in late teens or early 20's please answer?

Question

I recently have noticed many people in their late teens(18-19) and early 20's feel it is absolutely necessary to live with their bf/gf just because they think it's the thing to do in to pop-culture. They also feel they need to spend the night, or many nights with them because of pop-culture as well. It seems alot of this ideology is pushed upon them current TV shows like Howard Stern, Road Rules, The O.C., and basically anything that's on MTV or VH1.

Do you, or did you feel your values were impressed upon you by TV shows or by your parents? If you answered by TV shows, how did you feel when you found out that's not the right way to go, and lastly, what will you do when YOUR kids follow this same ideology or whatever is prominant at the time they're in this age group?

So far the first three people have not answered the question.

Alex - did your parents & grandpaernts live together before they were married?

Answer 1

ok let me take a stab at this. i think my core morals were instilled by my parents the whole right thing wrong thing part. television may have played a small role in how i behave but it has never been a great dictator in my values or beliefs. ive always realised tv is tv and not reality. not even if its reality tv. i want my kids to be who they are and hopefully take somthing from me and whoever my partner may be of course tv is going to have an influence but i will try to instill good values in them from the get go so they dont get sucked into the whole in crowd thing.

Answer 2

everyone formulates their values based off their life expierences. whether you get it drilled into you by your folks or getting it from the tube, it's all apart of living and learning. what pisses me off about rants like your's is that you take away all possibility that the person watching the tv has any ability to filter the information being shown and sort through the bad and the good. you can't assmue that someone is narrowminded and a "slave to the media" based on the programs they watch. i'm not denying that it may be true in some cases but don't be as narrowminded as the people you're trying to attack and open up your question a little. If two people want to live with each other I doubt their inspiration would come from the tv, think about what you're saying before you talk and make a fool out of yourself.

Answer 3

I dont feel that its neccesary to live with your mate. Now a days (in America) its just accepted so people do it more. I think people would get married at this age, but do to our economy, we can't because, you just can't be fresh out of High School and support your self with a 7 bucks an hour type of job. So people dont want to get married until they are financially stable. My mother and father were married by 20. Thats because back then, people were able to support themselves. I think that at 20 people are ready to move in, but money is the issue. As for MtV and VH1, when do they show people living together as partners? All I ever see on MtV and Vh1 is flavor flav, the real world, beauty and the geek and show that get canceled before you can see them.

Answer 4

I am in my early 20s and I have live with my boyfriend. Personally, I don't know that I learned it from tv or my parents. There are many reasons we moved in together. #1 companionship. We enjoy being together. #2 it is hard to be out on your own alone. I have done it. It is easier to have someone there to help you out. And I am a girl so I have someone there that can give me a sense of security. It is also hard to live on 1 income. Everything is so expensive. But to answer your question I didn' get it from either my parents or the tv

Answer 5

I can positively tell you, being in my early twenties, that I despise T.V. and pop culture. I follow my own path, as an individual, and I refuse to allow media to control my future. Frankly, I don't give a damn what other people are going to think of my separation from MTV and VH1. They can be clones for all I care, it's not my problem.

Answer 6

Uh, Jimmy boy, there's been plenty of hooking up and shacking up since the 60's; long before MTV etc.

People have a natural and healthy desire for companionship and intimacy and sex is just plain pleasureable - one of life's most fundamental connections between two people.

I hope my kids have a wholesome, active, positive, healthy sex life before, during, and after marriage. There's nothing wrong with sex, my friend and to suggest marriage as the only time to have sex is pretty silly.

Answer 7

I moved in with my bf before we were married, it wasn't from the influence of tv or from my parents, we both thought we were ready for it and we were. I wasn't going to marry someone if I didn't know how they lived or if I could stand living with them!

And who are your to say its wrong to do so?

If my children decide they are going to go out and get a place with their signigant other than more power to them, as long as they can pay the rent and get by without asking others for help

Answer 8

Absolutely. You would be ignorant to say that the media and "pop culture" has not tried to enforce its values upon you, albeit political, familial, spitual, sexual. It's gross.

Answer 9

uh no!!!
maybe they enjoy spending time with each other and it is a way to do it, what should we do? live at home until we are ready to marry and then suddenly find out we are not compatible?

Answer 10

so ?