my husband and i are separated,his such a lier,cheater and he took advantage of my luv towards him,his iresponsible and lot of girls around and had a babies with the other girl now living with another one,i didnt know all about this until her mom told me,and we were not together during our marriage just twice a yr visited me and our kids in my country,because he working abroad,im still inluv with him but i have to let him go and not accept anymore because i forgave him once when he left me and accept him again but he did it again and he always chose the girls between his own family,he doesnt give any childsupport and im so confusing if i will file for the childsupport for the kids,or it is just a revenge feeling i have for fooling me around and belittle of my personality as a human,and not respecting me as a mother of the kids,i admit im still inluv with him but its added pain for me that he abandoned my kids and his not thinking hows the kids are and not remembering them,do i file?
2006-12-26 01:24:07 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
YES YOU FILE! Filing for child support is not a revenge thing... ITs a NECESSARY thing. He helped make those kids, He needs to help pay for them.
2006-12-26 02:18:47 · answer #1 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesnt sound revengeful but it may be better for you to sit calmly,,step back from your situation and make a plan,,,,you bring up your kids,,,,are they entitled to financial help from their father?,,if yes,,get that financial help,,you may love him but you know he is bad for you and unfortunately this is something that may take a while to go away because feelings tend to be like that.you need to concentrate on what your head and not your heart is telling you,,,there are laws to protect you and your children and they are not made to make you feel better they are made for the good of the people involved so use them,,,,you will feel much better when you take control and stop worrying about how things look,,he has choices and apparently makes them at his own will so you should do the same,,it is not unreasonable to want support from the father of your kids and sooner or later someone new will come along and im sure they will be more happy if you are an independent,secure strong minded individual.dont put your life on hold for someone who doesnt quite understand how to treat a partner,,in the future his burden will be a heavy one and he will have brought it all on himself.
2006-12-26 01:43:38 · answer #2 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you confused about? This man is a bum and you need to find the courage to let him go. You also need to immediately file for child support; not because of any feelings you may have for him, but because your children are entitled to this money. Understand that a man who won't provide for his own children is not worth your luv. Wake up.
2006-12-26 01:34:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
file a case dear... there is nothing you are gonna lose more... you have already lost many things... now let the children get proper education and he should be responsible for that...
dont worry about the reason.... watever may be the reason... it really doesn't matter.... cos according to me... you are right in both the reasons.... of course the reason foor your children is far better than any other reason... but i will suggest that forget about the reason and get that guilty feeling out of yourself...
that guy has spoiled yourlife... you have all the rights to ask for chilsupport.....
go for it lady... all the best
2006-12-26 01:30:21 · answer #4 · answered by mitr_hamesha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Supporting his children has nothing to do with anger. Parents are responsible for making sure that their children are taken care of and that means providing financial support if the parents are divorced. Definitely file for your children's sake. They deserve to live the kind of financial life they would if their father was still in the picture.
2006-12-26 01:27:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
File for divorce, file for child support...I'm going to guess you are probably going to have difficulty in actually getting child support from him, but file nonetheless. I am going to venture a guess as well that you won't have to worry about fighting him for custody.
2006-12-26 01:27:04 · answer #6 · answered by Sunidaze 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi,you sound such as you're somewhat having a no longer uncomplicated time and that i desire that issues would be greater effective for you and your infants in the longrun... the respond is definite,your husband,even nonetheless he has yet another baby,needs to look after the scientific,training and usual maintenance of all his infants,yours blanketed.He had no difficulty bringing them into this international,so he wouldn't have a difficulty helping them till finally they're old adequate to do it for themselves... Goodluck...
2016-10-28 09:40:10 · answer #7 · answered by roca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definately file for child support...that has nothing to do with revenge...it is about taking care of your children and holding him to his responsibilities...good luck
2006-12-26 01:30:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just divorce him and get the child support. You won't regret it!
2006-12-26 01:27:51 · answer #9 · answered by delux_version 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
wake up girl.
go an talk with an attorney asap.
There's plenty other fishes in the sea.
2006-12-26 01:27:44 · answer #10 · answered by MISSY 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋