Hi, a very good friend of mine is a certified Jewish American Princess, by her own description, and while she has many great qualities, she is so demanding and high-maintenance that it has become unbearable for me to continue hanging out with her, or so it seems. Her favorite expression is [quite seriously]: "Its all about ME." I have given her a ton of chances and even tried to gently prod her to be less demanding, but it doesn't seem to be working. My question is whether inculcated behavior like this, which is not necessarily just a cultural thing, but more endemic to self-absorbed people in general, is capable of being changed? I have come to the conclusion that she needs to grow and attain more maturity on her own, and that I can't spend all of my time trying to change her. The question is: can high-maintenance people, impossible people ever change, or should I just continue not being her friend?
2006-12-26 01:18:24 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
She will change when she falls in love. First, there will probably be a few boys who moon after her and make her even more stuck up. Then she will fall.
Be available for sympathy when it happens. Because she may fall for someone who does not treat her like a princess. He will probably seem like a king to her, and out-rank her. And she will learn that it is NOT all about her, but all about him.
2006-12-26 01:30:10 · answer #1 · answered by auntb93again 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So long as people continue to actually give in and treat the "princess" like royalty, she'll stay that way. The best way to help her is to not put up with her selfish behavior. If that means not being her friend anymore, then you're likely better off without her. People like that CAN change... but they must learn that the world does not revolve around them. The loss of a few valuable friendships might just do the trick, or at least having loyal friends that still know when to put her in her place.
2006-12-26 01:28:29 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remind your friend that the obverse of priviledge is responsibility, and that princesses must endure hardship to become true princesses. If there is no hardship, then true princesses never learn how to be queens. Also point her to the Bible, and the Proverbs 31 woman. This woman has value far above rubies, and the list is extensive...ask her how much of it applies to her. It's also about work, a concept that your princess has no concept of. In her tradition, show her the example of our mother Sarah...many hardships there, but much priviledge. So if she claims the priviledges, ask her how she earns them. It ain't about birthright, it's about works.
If she continues this silly behavior, then keep her as a more distant friend, but don't feed her wants. This only continues her delusion of superiority, not her growth as a true Queen of Judah.
2006-12-26 01:30:25 · answer #3 · answered by Dodi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can continue being her friend as long as is not you maintaining her habits. Obviously her parents have not done a good job by her. I actually feel sorry for people like that because they are shallow and have a lot to learn about the real world which sooner or later it will be very cruel to her. So, you can wait until she awakens from her dreams or just move on to something more real.
2006-12-26 01:24:38 · answer #4 · answered by Pinolera 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i do no longer think of in an analogous way. even nonetheless, people who grew up that way nonetheless are -- and distinctive are not Jewish in NYC & la. I meet lots, lot much less these days. i think the tip of TAB brought about the decline. (this is a comedian tale.) Edit to Plushy - i think of you had to be a eastern to like it! i will image the device in the library basement & the squealing, guffawing crowd around it with the perfect nails & properly, appropriate each and every thing. I drank in in simple terms in pressing moments - it had the main caffine of something. ...yuck.
2016-10-06 00:54:15 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her hooked on crack, sell her to an outlaw motorcycle gang and after six months to a year, rescue her send her to long term treatment at an isolated facility.
And she will just be the same.
Once a JAP always a JAP.
2006-12-26 01:39:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Change will come by her own doing not yours.
2006-12-26 02:28:44 · answer #7 · answered by drg5609 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who would want to marry a JAP? No wonder the Jewish population in the US is in decline.
2006-12-26 01:49:22 · answer #8 · answered by Mardy 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Nothing is impossible, but I think this is close.
2006-12-28 13:33:08 · answer #9 · answered by abcdefghijk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋