I am 6 weeks pregnant with my first child. Is it normal to be so scared?

Question

Although we were trying to get pregnant, I have not felt any excitement about being pregnant. I am terrified about the lifestyle change and caring for another human being. Did anyone else feel this way?

You all have great comments and suggestions. It is such a relief to know that being scared is normal. I feel badly for my husband. He is thrilled and well, I am not. Thanks for your comments!!!!

Answer 1

It is normal to feel that way. I was not excited at all and he was a planned baby who is now 7 years old. I didn't get attached to him until he came into the world. Yes lots of lifetime changes. My husband and I don't have the same friends whom by the way were childless or had grown children already. So get used to that. If you work you will be tired. Try to share the load with your husband. Find someone trusting to babysit once in a while so you and your hubby can go out and enjoy an evening. Go on mini vacation. Within the last 4 years we started taking our son the places we use to go visit when we didn't have him and we are having a ball as a family.

Answer 2

Congratulations on your pregnancy!

It is normal to be scared, especially with a first child. You have never been responsible for the life of another human being, especially one so small and helpless. Hormones go crazy during pregnancy, and although you may be scared now, you can be excited tomorrow. At 6 weeks, the reality of being a mom is still sinking in.

While I was pregnant with my daughter, I was reading "Your Pregnancy Week by Week" by Glade B. Curtis. It is an ecellent book, very helpful with any pregnancy questions. I am now pregnant with my second child, and reading through it again. It has a sequel "Your Baby's First Year Week by Week".

It may ease your fears to take an infant care class. You can also talk to other moms in you neighborhood. You can even find a local mom/baby group where everyone is going through similar baby stages & questions. It helps the moms to know there are others in their position, and gives some socializing to babies as they grow. And nothing beats the support of family and friends - pregnancy and birth are the best time to ask for help.

Once your baby is born, you will just be so overwhelmed with love that caring for your baby will come naturally.

I hope you find this helpful. Good luck with everything :)

Answer 3

It's a time of mixed feelings. It is normal to be scared. But try to cool down. You could look on the positive side, put a book together for your child, plan some things you will do together, buy some baby clothes, or decorate the child's room. Remember, the 9 months will go slow, and it is still your life. When your baby comes, you'll be tied to motherhood forever. This is your time to fly. Use it well and do something good for yourself. It'll be hard to care for a little human, but somehow with your own baby you just seem to get the hang of it. It'll all be OK. Just look around, there are billions of mothers who have done this before.

Answer 4

Hi!! Yes, I am 18 weeks and I still feel this way sometimes, even though my husband and I were trying, we are in our late 20's, home owners, who make well over 100K, I am still very very very scared that financially we will have a hard time. Also, that our lifestyle will change, which I know it will, but I still want to do some of the things we love to do. We live in New England where it is very expensive and hard to live off of one income. Everyone keeps telling me it will all work out, it always does. So keep remembering that and you will be fine. My mother in law always reminds me that becoming a mother is a very natural process. Good luck!!!

Answer 5

I was scared to death, with both pregnancies!! And to be honest, my boys are 11 and 8, and I am still scared. Once you are a mother, you are always a mother!! I get scared when they go to school, when we get in a car, go to the mall...anything. But don't be paranoid and make yourself sick, it's not healthy for you or the baby.
The lifestyle change is hard, but I promise you it is so worth it. Just make sure you have a good support group, and take advantage of them once the baby gets here. You don't have to be Supermom and do everything on your own. Remember, your husband helped get you this way...he can help with the afterwards also.
Good luck to you both and congrats!!!

Answer 6

I felt that way, too. You have plenty of time to get used to the idea. Get some books and read up on the pregnancy process. Then start reading about what to expect after the birth. Plan out the baby's new room.You will start to get excited quickly. Life always has change to it, but we tend to want things to stay the same. Good luck to you!

Answer 7

Yes, it is completely normal. I totally freaked out for my first pregnancy. I even went to the hospital with false labor 2 days before I actually had her, and I was so scared, I unhooked the monitor, got dressed, and went to the nurses station and told them I was leaving.lol I do know by experience though, that you'll adjust just fine to all these changes and you'll be ok. When you start feeling the baby move, you'll start getting excited. Just take everything slow and try to relax and enjoy your pregnancy.

Answer 8

Look hon you just dont think that same after you are pregnant now all your thougts are will it be safe for baby, what about the baby, oh what about the birth or oh can i do this. RELAX!!! You can do it and it will be ok. Just read a lot of books and talk to other parents, get advice and then process it and use what sounds right to you. Ask lots of questions at your doctor appts and all will be fine.

Answer 9

Its nerves, and anxiety. Talk to your girlfriends about it, especially those that have had kids already. Maybe see a psychologist just for a session or two, just to get some things off your mind.

Look into some good books too, such as "What to expect when you're expecting".

Answer 10

well you do have a human growing inside your body.......that's a completely valid reason to be scared, I would be. But once you give birth, and get in a routine for caring for your child, it becomes alot easier to deal with. My son is 2 1/2 and I'm still scared that I am doing something to traumatize him, or shatter is psychy or something terrible like that. But you get over it, teach them to do the right things, and everything else falls into place.