I'm the blacksheep in my family, and I'm the usual target of insults, jokes and put downs. My parents think I'm really stupid, even if I try really hard to get good grades (never got anything below a B), and my sister just treats me like I'm a retard. Overall, I'm treated like a piece of sh*t in our family.
I'm 14, so coming out is going to be a much later thing, but how and when should I do it? Will my parents and family hate me even more after I tell them? I need advice :(
2006-12-26 01:11:17 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You know, im the exact same way in my family. I swear. Its really rough, i know. Maybe you can talk to some of your friends. Well, i tried that and my friends really dont care. It's kinda sad. You can email me anytime that you want to talk. Im 14 as well and maybe we can get eachother through it ^_^
2006-12-26 01:15:41 · answer #1 · answered by Karen Smith 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well it is good you have a grip on your life as far as knowing who you are. It sounds like you are just the opposite and you family is jealous of you being smart. Here is the thing. If I had to do it again at 14 I would have came out. However that is easier said than done. As far as those insults go you don't have to endure that very much longer. You will be shocked at how when you move out and educate yourself what a small little world they live in. Your parents are your parents and they will love you in their retarded way. Trust me! You are on the right path! Keep you head up!
2006-12-26 09:19:33 · answer #2 · answered by Karrien Sim Peters 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, your avatar looks like mine. How cute. So obviously you're not stupid because I certainly am not stupid... hehe..
Back to the question, I don't think any of us here can tell you specifically the date that you should be coming out to your family. In fact, we can't tell you when and how you should do it. You will arrive at this point in your life on your own. Trust me. It's something that you will know inside of you. Like love, kinda a weird analogy but it's the best I can think of. You will know when it's time. Right now, all I can tell you is that don't let any of those stuffs put you down. It's others' opinions and not the truth. ( i think Christina Aguilara's "Beautiful" said it pretty nicely) So channel all of these feelings behind something that you're passionate about. Whether it's sports or arts or anything else in this world. Good luck out there.
2006-12-27 01:07:40 · answer #3 · answered by T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all let me say that you should never allow ANYONE to treat you as if you are stupid! That is a very strong word and You are not stupid! You get good grades for you and only you! If you family treats you that way it will not stop until you put a stop it yourself! My family is not the most perfect one either but I had to separate myself from them because they were not to excepting of my life choice! The mot important thing is that your happy! Being Gay is a hard life to lead but it is the most free as well. Just be strong and keep your head up and LET YOUR VOICE BE HEARD!! Do not be afraid to express yourself in anyway you please and don't give a flying F**K about anyone who mistreats you or makes you feel less then what you are! Put all your focus on school and get out of there as soon as you can but do it the wright way! Self respect and honor is all we have to live on! BE STRONG and GOOD LUCK!
2006-12-26 12:26:59 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey if I were you I would keep your secret until you're old enough to move out and get your own place. You're already being verbally abused which by the way is against the law in some states. They better be so glad that they're not my parents because I would have to call John Law on their tired @sses and make a police report. Trust me.........that would keep they're mouths shut for a while. You're a minor! You're being abused. Even if it's not physically, it's mental abuse! If you just get tired of that sh!t someday or if you're tired of it now, call the man in blue or whatever color the police wear in your state. I would give my entire family a serious rude awakening!
2006-12-26 09:19:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You need to understand that their dysfuntcion is their fault and not yours. You should wait until you are living on your own so that they cannot make your day to day existence intolerable. You need to understand that they are going to be who they are regardless of what you do. You need to love them and accept them for who they are for your own sake, not theirs, and understand that it may not be reciprocated. Find peace in God for He loves you. I cannot say that I condone or understand Gay practices but I know that he who is free of sin may cast the first stone. Find a good church and know that you are loved!
2006-12-26 09:25:03 · answer #6 · answered by barksabit 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are in an unfortunate situation where there are no easy answers.since you family is not likly to own you after you come out maybe be best to keep it to yourself till your old enought to get out of there.
2006-12-27 03:16:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
MY BEST ANSWER TO YOU WILL BE TO USE MY MESSENGER,OR ELSE I WILL HAVE TO SPEND AT LEAST AN HOUR TO EXPLAIN TO YOU WHAT TO DO OK?
GREETINGS:ROB.
I AM SORRY FOR YOU:THE WHOLE SITUATION SUCKS BIG TIME.
BEEN THERE DONE IT.
2006-12-26 09:42:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋