Why is it not ok to date someone you work with, what are the problems?

Answer 1

because if things dont work out between you two then your likely to bring the problems into the workplace.

Answer 2

I have been dating my neighbor for the past year and a half and I'd have to say that it is the same as dating a coworker. If you two have a disagreement, you will see each other practically the whole day and if you can't necessarily control yourself sometimes than you may end up having an argument at work which definately isn't professional. Also if you two break up, you'll still have to see each other and be reminded of the good and/or bad times which may hurt either of your feelings.

Answer 3

Because it could interfere with your (both parties) job performance. You may become too busy worrying about what the other person is doing that it complicates the relationship. If someone else in the office or a client looks at them (or you) the wrong way or your "love interest" happens to look at them in a way that you "misunderstand", it could cause a lot of problems. Don't you understand this?

There are at least 2 women at my job that I'd love to have a real relationship with but I won't do it because of this. It's just not a good way to have a relationship.

Answer 4

You should not be around each other all the time, you should have your own space, interests, careers, circles of friends, etc. This helps the relationship to not get too stagnant.

Also if you break up with someone you work with the atmosphere can be very awkward.

I met my partner on the same course as I was studying. Due to obvious shared interests we continued onto another course together. We are doing fine, but I think it would have been better to study apart and keep it seperate.

Answer 5

"don't get your meat, where you make your bread"....as everyone has said before, it only creates problems, drama in the workplace. Only once, have I been successful at breaking the rule, my bf and I met at work and we dated for about 4 months before anyone knew about it. We had the same work ethic though, we left it ALL at the door, both of us completely focused on work. There was no talk, no gossip, no one knew. He got promoted and I got another job just so no one could complain about "favoritism".
People love to talk, stir up trouble, when you have a relationship at work, everyone feels free to get "involved". And sorry if I offend any women, but too many women love to share every sordid detail, the good, the bad, the ugly about their men (or women). I think he and I "worked" because neither one of us talk about the other.
And we're still together.

Answer 6

It seems to me that the main problem would be if you broke up. It might be awkward working around each other, especially if the other person cheated on you or something. However, I think it depends on how closely you work. My husband and I work together and he works in the same department but a different area. It works out fine. And, hey, if you are willing the take the chance, things could always work out.

Answer 7

50% or more of all relationships break up. Many of those break up badly.

So, if you like your job, you have to face the reality that dating a co-worker can lead to finding a new job. And this can happen rather you break up or stay together.

I met my ex-spouse through work. Because we were both competitve and both wanted to rise through the company it became very uncomfortable for me to try and compete against him, so I ended up quitting and finding a new job, I still regret it.

And, as an HR manager I was faced with the aftermath of a nasty office breakup. The two of them were so angry with each other, it spilled all over my office. We ended up sitting them down and giving them the option of deciding to either get along and shut their mouths or quitting because as a company we could not tolerate the situation. They decided to get along and one of them quit and found another job within a couple months.

Work romance is a risky game and only worth it if you know the potential worst case scenarios.

Answer 8

Let me tell you from personal experience.

I dated this woman at work and everything went well for six months. I won't bore you with why we split, but afterward, it was pure misery working there and having to see her everyday. Especially when she started dating someone else. We would avoid each other and when we were forced to be in the same room together, the tension was so thick you could cut it with a knife. I will never date someone at my workplace again. Do yourself a favor: stay away from workplace dating.

Answer 9

Because if you have a fight or break up... you will bring your personal problems in the work place and the management will be forced to get ride of one of you... and perhaps both of you in order not to take sides.

It cost the company time and money to fire you and find someone else to replace you.

Answer 10

If it turns out bad you still work with that person. If your a boss there all so could be some other Issues. And depending on company policy. Really its a judgment call. Usually in my book there a more negatives then positives.

Answer 11

Should the relationship "sour" it can cause problems with having to work together. If the relationship "blossoms", you then are in a position where you of you may be able to reward the other with raises, bonuses, etc that where not earned.