The money is not the only reason I would be going, I have been divorced for a year and a half and I really want to get away and do this for myself. But I am also in a relationship that I am not ready to take the next step into marriage, but she wants to, I also have a 10 year old daughter. She soes not want me to go. I just don't know if I should stay her for her or my lady friend or do it for me.
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2006-12-26 00:38:56 · 10 answers · asked by bigblock_475_hp d 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
OK If you have primary custody of the kid, then you probably should stay. I assume you don't, but be careful that the ex doesn't raise your support and clean you out more when you get this job. The kid will be fine without you and assume she is already doing fine without you just like the ex. Do not get married before you come over, you have to experience Thailand, Prague, or Ukraine as a single man first. Most jobs allow a very nice paid vacation to any where in the world every 4 months. You won't get this opportunity much in a lifetime.
2006-12-27 20:22:31 · answer #1 · answered by bill g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Retired Combat Veteran and Family Counselor responds to this question:
I've recently been to Iraq things are extremely violent as one can see simply by viewing the news reports.
You have a daughter that is 10 years old. Do you want to make her an orphan? Think about this for a moment, stop thinking about what you want. What would life be like for your daughter without you in her life.
While there are no accurate records currently available, I'll tell you this, american contract employee's in iraq have been slaughtered by the hundreds. They are being killed on a regular basis, more than our own troops are.
Another thing to consider is that your current relationship will more than likely come to an end if you go to iraq if it doesn't it will be greatly different once you have returned. Why? Because you will have changed if you spend much time in iraq and manage to survive and return home in one piece.
If you want to get away and do something there are much better opportunities than going to Iraq. Get on your browser and look up the United Nations website. They have many job opportunities available in about every nation on the face of the earth. Pick one or many of those and apply for the job.
Atleast you won't be dodging sniper bullets and Improvised explosive devices and witnessing the carnage being wrought on the civilians in iraq. If you witness the carnage you'll have a serious case of PTSD when you return.
Above all else realize that you won't accomplish very much, as a majority of your time will be spent caught up in the confusion surrounding the car bombs, and death squad havoc that is being played out at this very moment throughout the entire country of iraq.
For God Sakes Man stay here for your daughter and atleast. Don't waste your life and ruin her's by becoming a statistic either killed or permanently disabled from an incident in iraq.
2006-12-26 09:25:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This has been a great positive experience for a friend of mine. The $ is fabulous if you can get away from the tax problems. This will pretty much set you up for a long time if you stay for a 3-5 year term. This means you will come back with enough to buy a house out right, new vehicle, and big savings account. However, if you are not the writing type you may want to sever all ties and relationships with exception of your daughter of course. Just make sure you send plenty of photos, letters, and $ back to her, or you could lose her. This will make your ex very vindictive, and she will take all of your hard earned $!
2006-12-26 08:48:55 · answer #3 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you have to do things for yourself. If you don't then you will have regrets in life but in your situation it seems that you will regret no matter which way you go. The only thing you can do is weigh your pros and cons. Leaving your daughter is a big con because she needs you in her life. Girls need their father and being without you would be hard especially if you have a good relationship with her. At the same time it seems that you really need to go and get away for yourself and that is very important. I wish I could give you a solid answer but what I can say is do what your heart feels is right.
2006-12-26 09:06:14 · answer #4 · answered by trf_islandkandi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If money isn't the reason for going, then what would be? People, civilians and soldiers alike are being killed there everyday. On Christmas day, the number of americans killed in Iraq surpassed the number of people killed on 9/11. It is not a place anyone should want to be.
2006-12-26 08:43:35 · answer #5 · answered by Liz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not go to Iraq to escape things - they get worse!! Look Been there it ain't as bad as you see on the news... hard work, long days, lots of sand and some danger - I would / am going back... (But given a choice - your reasons suck) - go for the job, go because it's something that needs to be done - but put your house in order first!!
2006-12-26 08:47:29 · answer #6 · answered by kevingdadman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if u r goin then all d best.
But in case ur daughter says u to stay then i think u shud coz she has only u to look over her and there is no relationship as sweet as that of a father and a daugher in this world.
2006-12-26 08:48:41 · answer #7 · answered by vanshsa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay home it is to dangerous, you may not come back alive, your daughter needs her father.
2006-12-26 08:41:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stay here for the sake of your daughter, who needs you.
2006-12-26 08:46:30 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would have to be crazy to go to Iraq. Sorry, but that's my opinion.
2006-12-26 08:40:57 · answer #10 · answered by Isis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋