i'm bisexual---how can i best determine what gender i will eventially settle down with?
2006-12-26 00:33:17 · 11 answers · asked by jjimmy 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I'm completely heterosexual and certainly trying to be more acceptable of the LGBT people...so, please consider that my answer is the best I can muster, but given sincerely.
I would assume that as a bisexual, your love interest might be a little harder to determine because of the attraction you may feel on either side of the fence. In any relationship, it's sometimes a struggle to determine if the attraction you feel to someone is physical, emotional or a combination of both. But I would say that I'm 100% sure that the person you settle down with will be the person that you have an emotional attachment to.
Remember, as you get older and your partner/spouse/significant other (I'm not sure which term to use...) gets older, sex will not be so much about getting off as it will be about sealing the bond you have with the other person. You will start replacing sex with activities you enjoy doing together - fishing, hiking, movies, walks, dining out, etc., etc. For this reason, it is extremely important to make sure that an emotional bond exists between the two of you.
I guess in your situation you have to decide if gender is going to be the important aspect of the relationship or the nature of the companionship that exists between the two of you.
I hope I've helped...
2006-12-26 00:55:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Agree with the person who said that you can't really make that determination -it will just happen. It might even be that you tend to prefer one gender over the other -but then you meet "the one" who happens to be of the other gender. Don't try to figure it out ahead of time -and don't believe that you can't settle down with someone if that's what you decide to do. You don't have to cheat just because you're attracted to other people (everyone is attracted to people other than their significant other -but many of us don't cheat).
2006-12-26 15:19:20 · answer #2 · answered by Dragon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
gender is irrelevant if you're bisexual. It'll be the person you settle down with.
EDIT for Rob: Honey - the urges are there but the decision is made, you don't have to expect all bisexuals to want to cheat on their partner with a differently gendered love-interest
2006-12-26 02:14:30 · answer #3 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It has always been my philosophy that true love knows no gender. Look for love, it will determine who will be your mate for the rest of your days. On both the pro/con side, by being bisexual, you have the whole population available to you!
2006-12-26 03:46:52 · answer #4 · answered by truckinotter 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just said you are bi-sexual.
Why are you talking about settling down?
You will not be able to.
Because:suppose you get married have kids:suddenly you get guy urges ?
Then what?
Go cheat?
The same situation reversed:you live with a guy:suddenly you get a woman urge
Then what?
Cheat on him?
Nasty.
If you settle down,make them first understand that you are bi-sexual.
But let me tell you from experience:the gay part is stronger but the straight part is easier,for it needs no explanation.There is your easy way out.
Date girls,date guys and see what suits you best.
greetings:Rob.xxxx
2006-12-26 00:50:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
The same way you know anything about your future. You can't. You'll "settle down" with the person who speaks to your soul.
2006-12-26 00:43:10 · answer #6 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
why pick one just based on what sex they are. find the person you can't live without. that's the one to settle down with
2006-12-26 01:53:03 · answer #7 · answered by Ron N 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By seeing which gender you're attracted to the most. And see which one you can spend your entire life loving and not for what you're "supposed" to love
2006-12-26 00:39:50 · answer #8 · answered by antichristdrew 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just follow your heart. When love someone, either a guy or a girl, you just love him/her. It's all about who you love. But for now try relationships with different people, and see what happens.
2006-12-26 00:41:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
hmmmmm.
faithfulness and love loyalty will keep you with whoever your
paired up with.
if your young now dont make THE Vow yet;just be safe and MERRY CHRISTMAS
2006-12-26 00:49:50 · answer #10 · answered by chupracabra'smama 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋