Women who have very little self esteem, come from a chaotic background, who usually self-mutilate, etc. Should I be concerned and start looking for better quality? I need serious answers only.
2006-12-26 00:20:29 · 6 answers · asked by [ΦΘΚ] PIяATE 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
There could be something lacking in your life that makes you seek women that need mending, so you would be able to try mending them and feeling like you have accomplished some thing good. Do you maybe feel that your attraction to them stems from you knowing that in comparison, your life is somewhat better in quality than theirs? Or that you perhaps are hidden in low esteem as well, and feel that is the best you can do; that is to help/save them because if you have nothing else to give, women wouldn't see any good in being with you?
2006-12-26 00:48:20 · answer #1 · answered by Craiova 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You and I may be a pair.
I think we're subconsciously looking for people to protect, people to "make better". I sometimes refer to my self as a safe house or a 'saver'. It seems that I am attracted to men who are really hard on themselves and at times verbally abusive. Some people just have the quality of wanting and needing to help people. I mean if you can get yourself out of the habit, then I suggest you do! And look for a better quality in a woman. Someone who is self assured, positive, and can lift you up as well as herself. If your like me and can't seem to get yourself out of this habit, find someone who has issues that you can deal with. Meaning some people are really over the top with their problems, but others contain it well and have other qualities that you like. Find that person and work with them! Good luck to you.
2006-12-26 08:57:01 · answer #2 · answered by eb 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are a "rescuer", or maybe your personal self esteem causes you to feel these are the only women who want to be with you.
2006-12-26 10:04:29 · answer #3 · answered by June smiles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
many a social climber goes this route, she'll have all the problems in the world and as soon as you solve them emotional and financially she will move on, the hidden agenda
2006-12-26 19:15:04 · answer #4 · answered by bev 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have alot of sympathy for those people who have such background...it may because u experienced such or may saw one or may be sensitive to there feelings and you want to comfort them... i think theres nothing wrong with liking people like that....its up to you whether to continue liking people with backgrounds as u described, now for me, well, just continue it...as long as u like not to be forced to do so....
hope to be a help...
2006-12-26 09:08:18 · answer #5 · answered by princedrewe 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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Damsel in distress syndrome. You want to help.
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2006-12-26 08:23:29 · answer #6 · answered by Fun Haver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋