And you know what except my husband no one said thank you!!!! Can you believe it.His family are such pigs what I give them is never good enough, i got a sweater , a spa kit and some other ****!!!Stuff that didn't cost a couple of hundred bucks and i had to buy stuff for his second cousins!!!!!!!!
2006-12-25 23:48:00 · 16 answers · asked by Kay 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Other - Holidays
I know what you mean.........I spent $10K and more on my BF family...then the Saturday before Xmas we broke up...and I didn't even get a chance to give them the gifts!!!
2006-12-26 18:12:42 · answer #1 · answered by Sherry Baby ( Ethan's Mama ) 6 · 7⤊ 1⤋
Make a list of people you would want to buy gifts for if you only had $100 to spend.
Start shopping today, and do it all year long (Not buying - shopping.) Keep your eyes out for perfect presents for those people. The criteria is how well it fits them - not how much it costs.
Next year, when Christmas season rolls around and you HAVE to have presents for certain people - make a series of contributions to a charity - Save the Children - from whom you can get acknowledgements, and to each of your ungrateful relatives, give a note saying that a contribution of $100 (or whatever amount you wish) has been made in their name to this charity. They can't complain about saving poor children around the world - you'll be free of the "Got to buy a present for cousin Charlie" syndrome - and you might feel better about yourself on the day after Christmas.
Enjoy the remaining holiday days and if you can, stop worrying about the money. Or the unugrateful relatives.
2006-12-26 08:12:46 · answer #2 · answered by Uncle John 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop buying things for everyone and control your money. Make them homemade gifts instead of throwing all your money away on them. Spending $200 on a gift doesn't make it a better gift than something homemade or something that costs $20. Shop year-round at garage sales and thrift stores and keep an eye out for that perfect gift for everyone.
OR, suggest you pick names next time and everyone buys for only 1 other person. Set a spending limit, like with all my faimilies it is $30 and we did a white elephant gift exchange for one family this year and it was the most fun thing I have ever done in my life. Look up white elephant online if you don't know what that is.
2006-12-26 07:54:02 · answer #3 · answered by trishay79 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It is not a competition to see who can buy the most expensive stuff. Besides they were using common sense not everyone wants to go completely overboard. You seem to think because you want to spend loads of money on someone they have the duty to do the same back.
But Christmas is bogus and unbiblical but you seem to take the occassion way too far. A small gift is all that is needed so next year keep it simple. You cannot buy respect.
$25 K on christmas? The day is forgotten about in less than
a week, it is a bit wasteful to blow that kind of cash.
P.S. I would kiss your a.s.s if you are willing to throw that kinda money at me, lol.
2006-12-26 07:51:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
why do people buy presents for people if they don't want to? Why did you "have to" buy presents for his second cousins? I have a feeling that the world would have kept on turning if you hadn't. Don't buy presents for people you don't want to, don't spend money on them if you don't want to. What are you looking for, validation? compliments? If you are counting and comparing costs of presents then obviously you don't like doing what you're doing, so just stop. I'll never understand people's obsession and I'm sure none of this makes any sense to you and I'm sure what you would say in response I wouldn't understand either. Of course they should have said thank you, but just because they said thank you does not mean they are grateful and just because they didn't say thank you does not mean they weren't. I don't know how many times I have said thank you for some present I did not like, does it really make a difference?
Stay out of the malls, or spend the money on yourself, you'd be a lot happier.
2006-12-26 08:09:52 · answer #5 · answered by thoor_ballylee 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You had to? If it is your money, then don't spend it on them. If it is your husband's money, but he expects you to do the shopping, then don't.
Unless there is a gun to your head, you don't have to do anything.
Furthermore, if you have $25K to spend on Christmas, that's more than ALOT of people make in a year. I would assume you and your husband are pulling in some bucks. Not everyone has that kind of money. If you or your husband want to spend that kind of money because you are generous, that is one thing. But if you are only doing it because you expect the gifts you receive to total $25K, then your heart is not in the right place. Either way, you are whining about something that only YOU have the power to fix (either the situation or your attitude).
2006-12-26 07:54:13 · answer #6 · answered by ssc 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
When I married my hubby 35 yrs ago, the first spending cut I made in yr 2 was spending on relatives beyond brothers and sisters. We did not get anything in return but the Christmas card during year 1.
$25K?? Either you have a high credit line, or this question is bunk. (I think the latter.)
Thanks for the 2 points.
2006-12-26 07:56:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh wow. I hope you didn't use credit cards. You're going to get a huge bill in the mail.
Next year since they are all pigs get them stuff from Family Dollar or something. That would be funny. Use their own medicine.
2006-12-26 08:36:23 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah* 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even though the internet allows everyone to remain anonymous, you still have a lot of guts for letting everyone know what a fool you are. What did you really expect? Next year, give em all 5$ gift cards to wal-crap. That'll show em.
2006-12-26 07:57:17 · answer #9 · answered by davidm_42 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well next year you will know better and giving Christmas gifts comes from the heart and if you don't know some one that well don't spend a lot of money on them. and $25k is a lot of money to spend on Christmas so either you went way over board or you have the money to spend anyway. maybe next year you can donate food and clothing and toys to the homeless shelters and at least you know they will appreciate it.
2006-12-26 07:56:30 · answer #10 · answered by parrotsarenoisy 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I just want to say that even though we have known each other for a short time, "you feel like family to me!".
Seriously, dump them and the dollars aren't the issue as much as being grateful and polite. Manners and being humble is just a basic requirement for real friendship and without the basic friendship being a relative is just not enough!
2006-12-26 08:01:18 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋