I have few friends, I spend a lot of time with my family, but I cannot confide in anyone.
There is a lot going on in my life at the moment which has been hard to deal with. Inside I know I am deeply lonely and have been for years. All I wish for is for an old friend to reply to my emails but she doesn't, it hurts.
I have trouble socialising and I am, "controlled" a little by my husband, but I can't and don't really want to change that.
2006-12-25 23:39:12 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I dont like his control, but I have little choice in the matter. I can't socialise on my own due to a language barrier as well.
2006-12-25 23:44:26 · update #1
Get out and join some society whereby you can meet different people frm all walks of life. How about some sports that you can indulge in like yoga, pilates... u can meet some friends there as well... If you are waiting for that friend to reply.. she may not becos she might hv her own problems or time constraints.... Its not abt you socialising, if u want to , you can. Why get"controlled" , you are a person and u shd live yr life fully.... How long will we live in this world, do we want to look back and regret when its too late?
2006-12-25 23:45:29 · answer #1 · answered by The Babe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Where is the language barrier? You obviously have a perfect handle on the English language. Does this mean you are in a foreign country?
As far as control goes, yes you CAN change that... but like you said, you don't want to. You obviously get something from being controlled otherwise you wouldn't put up with it.
As far as wishing for an old friend to reply to emails, why wish for someone from the past when you can make friends with others in the future? Join a language class (whatever language that has been your barrier) and you'll meet many friends who struggle like you do.
You have many options and if you waste them now you'll find that time slips by and you have wasted an entire lifetime. Get some great hobbies that you can do with others as well as by yourself. Join the language class.. Try and get a tutor in your area.
Do the things that you are afraid of. Make a list. It's a new year!
Good luck
2006-12-25 23:58:30 · answer #2 · answered by mosaic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you confide in your family? Why do you let a man control you? I feel bad for you but you have to take control language barrier or not. If you are feeling like this maybe therapy could help thus giving you a confidant and helping you with your issues. Do you go to church? Maybe a priest or a paster could help you too? Anyway God bless you and I will say a prayer for your well being.
2006-12-25 23:51:52 · answer #3 · answered by nylatinanurse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it possible that the control your husband tries to use is also his attempt to keep your social circle small? That's a typical trait of controlling men. If you don't want to leave, then, well, not much you can do about it unless you like to deal with the consequences he will force on you.
2006-12-25 23:41:12 · answer #4 · answered by ssc 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have relaxing... savour each and each 2nd.. time is going. we can look returned yet can no longer flow... the two loneliness and rejection reason a feeling of being disconnected that ends up in feeling unhappy, on my own, no longer "sturdy adequate", or maybe melancholy or melancholy. those emotions and reactions are area of human psychology. those emotions additionally bring about a definite quantity of dissatisfaction and decrease our overall happiness and ability to be triumphant. yet, that is not mandatory to proceed to be in those states. WE DO administration our state greater suitable than we regularly know. The therapy for the two of those issues, from my own adventure and in coaching human beings, is a controversy of adjustment to the perspective which we carry that creates the thoughts of loneliness. There are additionally concrete movements we can take to come again to a determination those emotions. So, i've got geared up a itemizing to persist with each and each time i've got faith i'm in that state, as a reminder to the state this is empowering and ends up in larger fulfillment in relationships. you're able to be able to locate it functional to you on your own pursuit of continual happiness.
2016-10-28 09:33:54 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its really boring being lonely
i'm happy for the fact that you participate in yahoo answers at least it keeps you busy...anyways, you know whats going on in your life but you have to ask yourself if its worth the stress keepin it inside of you...and if your old friend isnt replyin your mails probably she doesnt use that mail any longer, you really need to move up, open up, grow up, love up, and most importantly, mix up....it really helps
happy holidays!!!
2006-12-25 23:44:19 · answer #6 · answered by ceaser 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just go out and see, enjoy the world around you. See the
beauty of the things that God has created. Make friends
and talk to them and be happy...
2006-12-25 23:54:32 · answer #7 · answered by dodadz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looking at the problem as you have stated I would be inclined to give just a brief answer lest it should read like a lecture. PLEASE LOOK WITHIN AND MEDITATE WITH CONCENTRATION REGULARLY. You may get a satisfactory resolution if not a perfect solution. Good luck
2006-12-25 23:53:33 · answer #8 · answered by braj k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am writing, a lot. Im writing books, stories, memoar, letter, blog. It really works for me.
2006-12-25 23:56:34 · answer #9 · answered by buzzrina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oooh...looks that u need some1 to talk to
just add me ill be ur friend and i listen :)
i promise ill do my best to make u feel less lonely
ahmed-__-91@hotmail.com or elnahelahmed@yahoo.com
2006-12-26 00:41:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋