My BEST friend of over 5 years is married as am I, but for some reason our wives got into thier head we are doing GAY things together. On occasion we have hugged, and even told one another "I Love You" but that is it. We have NEVER even seen one another naked, and dont really care too. His wife started it, but lately my wife has been listening to her. This Christmas was the last straw, His wife blurted out something like, "Did you like what your BOYFRIEND gave you, give him a kiss!" I about gagged on it and got really upset and called her a dirty mouthed and minded bit@%. Well he got mad at me, and I insisted that he admit that we are NOT lovers, but then my wife got into it, and now, I am in the Dog House! And everyone is mad at me. Like super mad. I think my friend is avoiding the topic and doesn't know how to handle the problem, and the wife just wants me out of the picture, for good! My friend is like a brother to me, any ideas how to quash this issue once and for all?
2006-12-25 22:22:46 · 7 answers · asked by Long Beach Moose 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Let me give it a try ..if i were you
i would get all of them in a room , Begin by apologizing to your friends wife, explaining why you got upset.
Its important to also share what you feel about your friend and how he is a brother to you.
Also its important to connect with your wife and make her understand that she has got it all mixed .
As you do this remember to focus on issues and not people. Do not make any personal comments on your wife / friend or his wife.
Even if they make personal comments on you ignore.
Lay things as they are in open, be honest and truthful and them give them time to think and mull over what you say.
Don't expect immediate affirmations but give it time
Don't be too verbose , don't rake up past issues,
Be focused on this issue , be concise , be issue based and be in control .Don't get angry or shout and prepare your self.
All the best Buddy !
2006-12-25 22:30:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I in basic terms argue whilst i understand that i'm precise. If evidently i'm incorrect, which generally does not take place, yet has, I say sorry. that's something a guy is generally hesitant to do, tremendously whilst he's caught in a lie, consequently he would decide directly to circumvent the arguement, understanding that he replaced into busted and can't win. i do no longer decide directly to argue. I attempt and settle the score. If that may not conceivable, I do away with myself from the situation and don't look returned. that's a waste of time if one person is in denial and the different needs to restoration issues. it is the actuality.
2016-12-15 08:18:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you better start with ur friend, ask to meet him or call him. Go straight.. tell him what u feel.
Say sorry, tell him how u appreciate his friendship & how much he means to you & how important ur friendship is. Tell him u r ready to fix all the mess u caused & agree together on how to fix it all.
Frankly I think his wife is weird, she doubts u & u r a man.. What wd u do if u were a lady then?!! But still if she is the wife of ur best friend, u will have to handle her for his sake.. Practically, they are a package!
(but once u gain ur friend back, he can help u restore the relation with his wife.. he knows her best)
Last but not least, ur wife! She is the most important.. & it is ur responsibility to gain her trust, speak to her, appologoise for ur rudeness & for embaressing her by what u said on christmas.. Speak to her, explain that ur friendship is pure & that u would never betray her..
Wish you all the best of luck!
Goofy
2006-12-25 23:44:40 · answer #3 · answered by Ouzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure that you and your friend will be friends again because it's had to forget the friendship and the bond you have build. I can see that u are very close friends and you should go and speak to all the three together and tell them that u r very sorry of how u got angry and shouted at her and tell them that u and your friend r very close friends and it doesn't mean that u hav an affair or something try and convince them and i'm sure that they'll belive u and forgive you and you and your friend will be friends as u where before, goodluck ;)
2006-12-25 22:29:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest, tell your friend how you really feel. Why you did what you did, etc. keep the door open and let time heal the wound.
best of luck to you!!!!
2006-12-26 00:00:19 · answer #5 · answered by suzanne_sauls 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u dont need 2 explain nething 2 ur wive...ur damn wive r out of her mind 2 think so...ur wive's having a prob ..let her solve it herself ...whn u knw u r crrct ...whr lies d prob thn..jus let it b
2006-12-25 22:28:13 · answer #6 · answered by prachi m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give each other a w**k, if you enjoy it, you're gay!
2006-12-25 22:26:17 · answer #7 · answered by taxiburt 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋