i dont want to be pregnant now and i want to continue with my studies.. i really very scared now.. i just need some advice. i dont dare to talk to my parents about it... please some one just help me.
2006-12-25 21:27:12 · 33 answers · asked by helpme 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Hello - First...don't panic. Maybe you are not pregnant. Best thing is first to really find out whether you are or not pregnant. Do you know anyone who is old enough to anonymously buy you a kit from the chemist to help you find out whether you test positive. You can also contact help lines via the internet and get some advice. If you find out you are pregnant you are going to need someone you can trust and talk to. Maybe an older friend or someone's mother that you know and trust. Like to help you more. Good luck.
2006-12-25 21:40:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
First, go to your local Planned Parenthood and get a pregnancy test to find out for sure if you are or aren't. I'm pretty sure they even have counselors to talk to if you are pregnant to discuss your options.
Personally, I'm against abortion, so I'd recommend going the adoption route. There are so many people out there that want kids but can't have their own that they would gladly adopt your child and care for it better than you could. Open adoptions are great, b/c you'll know what your child is doing and you won't have to wonder what kind of life they're having. You'll get pictures and maybe even regular opportunities to see your child, depending on the terms of the adoption. Either way, you'll have the assurance of knowing that you did the right thing.
Lastly, let this be a lesson to you. If you're not ready for a possible pregnancy, you're not ready for sex! No birth control is 100%, so you're better off abstaining until you're married!
2006-12-26 05:06:44 · answer #2 · answered by luvablelds 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This just happened to my best friend. What she decided is that she told me that she thought she was pregnant. Let's just say that your best friend always will try to be there for you and will not be busy judging you. We took a bus to Planned Parenthood afterschool since she didn't trust anybody enough to give her a ride there. She took a free pregnancy test there and found out she was pregnant. She fell apart for a while but they explained her options. After about a week she needed time to deal but she felt the need to tell her mom. Eventually she told her boyfriend too.
This secret is very hard for one person to bear. Tell a best friend, they will always to help you and support you! I suggest that if you think you are pregnant get tested at Planned Parenthood with someone who can support you before you start jumping to what you should do if you are pregnant. If you test positive you will have to tell at least one parent and your boyfriend. I say this because if you are pregnant it includes doctor visits, even advice from your mom on how to deal with certain pregnancy symptoms. Your boyfriend deserves to know that he got you pregnant, whether or not your scared if he will or will not leave you is a different matter. If you stay together and you are not pregnant I reccomend using protection (you can get this from Planned Parenthood too) so that you don't become pregnant later on.
Best of luck!
2006-12-26 04:46:05 · answer #3 · answered by Tweety bird 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you shouldn't be having sex at 14. If you do you should be using some form of birth control. If you think you're pregnant you need to be sure of it before you start to worry. For someone your age an abortion might be the best thing for both you and the baby. If you decide to go through with the birth it would probably be best to put the baby up for adoption. But... Before you make any decisions you should know for sure if you're pregnant or not. And then you NEED to tell your parents. These is important and should not be kept from them. I know you might be scared of what they'll say, but this baby is more important than how your parents may or may not react.
2006-12-26 03:37:09 · answer #4 · answered by Wiccan~Momma 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well my suggestions is to go to your local store and get a pregnacy test.... they're not expesive and you will know for sure...
If you are you need to talk to your parents about what you should do. Weather they are happy or not they will know how to help you. If they can't or won't or you don't feel right about going to them than you need to talk to the school nurse. She can help you deal with it. But first make sure you actually are pregnate no need to drag your self through this if your not. Next you need to decide if you want to keep the baby or what you want to do if you ddon't. That is up to you alone with your parents help. You shouldn't be having sex this young things like this can happen.... and your just not ready for a baby. Hope all goes well for you.
2006-12-26 05:22:57 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what are you doin having sex at 14? It think that you shoulld try one of those home pregnancy tests. The only thing is that it would look real weird if you see a 14 year old girl buying one of them. And dont be scared to go to your parents cause soon than later they are going to find out and its better the sooner you tell them.
2006-12-26 18:15:35 · answer #6 · answered by Kenny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, do a test then you will know for sure. If you aren't pregnant, be more careful next time. If you are, you have no choice but to speak to your parents, do it as soon as you can. It won't be an easy conversation but they are going to find out sooner or later and putting it off won't make it any easier.
2006-12-26 04:00:58 · answer #7 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are realy pregnant don't loose time go to Nursingh Home take a advise Lady Doctor's. Otherwise you can fell serious problems. There are you pay just Rs. 2000 and only 15 Min. you will be free of this problems but you will be not free just it, You need after this 3 days completely rest.
PLEASE DON'T MAKE ANY RELETIONSHIP THAT HEARD YOU AFTER .... SEX JUST TIME ENJOY AND MUCH TIME PAIN
2006-12-25 21:37:09 · answer #8 · answered by ILIYAS 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
plz just make sure you actually ARE pregnant
go 2 planned parenthood & ask them if they can tell u how far u are & how your baby's doing
then if u are, bring a friend along with you to tell your parents...your friend will make it easier on you and they will keep your parents calm just by their presence.
you could give the baby up for adoption or keep it
plz, plz, plz dont have an abortion, it IS possible to continue with you studies, when the baby is born, you can get a tutor or sumthin 4 the few months you are out. PLZ dont hesitate to email me, im in your situation as well. & dont listen to people who want to call you a whore, ****, or tell u 2 keep your legs closed...these things just HAPPEN to very, very good girls. this baby is NOT a mistake, if you are pregnant, God has sent you a little baby for a reason. He will provide help for you. im here 4 u as well
2006-12-26 05:05:01 · answer #9 · answered by javalavajuice 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
you need to contact your local health department and get a test done to begin with or just go and get one at the local store. Didn't you realize this was a possiblity when you had unprotected sex...or did you just simply say...it can't happen to me! Good luck! If you are...seriously think about adoption rather than abortion! It's not the babies fault!
2006-12-26 06:08:20 · answer #10 · answered by ck_scorpio40 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋