Me and my best friend of 9 years always fight on and off about any stupid stuff. We would argue and stop talking for months and either I or she would call me and we become best friends again. I though she would call me for x-mas and she didn't and it's been about 4 months since we haven't spoken. Do you think she'll cal l eventually???
2006-12-25 21:17:56 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
swollow your pride and call her if you wanna talk...
2006-12-25 21:21:44 · answer #1 · answered by crimson_carnage 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend for 2 years, and we had similar bouts, Then it started getting ugly, Her emails were filled with rage and swearing, and then, she would use silence on me. I say, call her, tell her you cannot take a friendship with so much fighting, that even Christmas is forgotten between you. Let her know, you are not waiting for her cals any more. If you keep waiting, she can do this to you for 9 more years. Is that really a friendship?It sounds more like a war.
2006-12-26 05:24:21 · answer #2 · answered by wehweh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know.
But you certainly don't have to "stoop" to her level if she is going to play this "game" of sorts and not talk to you. Call her. Wish her a happy holiday and keep your phone conversation as simple as possible. Don't start up the conversation about whatever caused this friendship to go bonkers again. If she "goes there" and wants to be friends again then you both have to establish certain ground rules to keep your friendship stable and brush off all of the "stupid stuff" that you would have fights on.
If she continues to be angry, then perhaps you should consider looking for a new best friend and treat this person as an "associate".
2006-12-26 05:24:13 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her up in see. I hadn't talked to my mom in about 4 months i was very upset with her, although i knew i needed to forgive, i was still angry with her. I felt sad and empty for about half of christmas without knowing why.I was going to keep waiting to see if she would call me, but after talking to some other family members I just had to call my mom. So i called her, and she didn't answer, and i was a little sad, but i think i knew in my heart she would call me back. And about 5 minutes later she did, and we ended talking for more than an hour.Then I felt better for the rest of the day. I also got mad at a friend because of something that she had done, and i didn't talk to her for about 5 months. Then one day i just said this is stupid, and i started talking to her again. But the point is, I dont know if my mom would have called me on christmas, maybe i bet her to the punch, or maybe she was just waiting on me to call her,maybe she wasn't going to call at all i dont know, but now we have plans on preparing a new years dinner, which is something we have never done before. But i think you should call your friend up, she may be waiting on you to call her this time. Maybe you said something that hurt her and you should apologize.9 years is a long time, you dont want your relationship with her to be ruined forever. Call her up, apologize, and try to work things out. Then give her a little time. Hopefully she'll come around, atleast you'll know that you did your share of trying to patch your relationship up, then it will be up to her. Good luck and Happy Holidays!
2006-12-26 05:41:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anestyalaska♦ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not make the first move for a change. It won't hurt that much to be the to call. Afterall, 9 years is something. Merry Christmas.
2006-12-26 05:20:41 · answer #5 · answered by mared 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should call her first it's been 4 months that both of you are waiting for each othe to call & it's about time for you to call her you can't wait . this friendship will end if u do'nt call C'mon move a bit be yourself & think about that 9 yrs
2006-12-26 05:28:19 · answer #6 · answered by hotty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,why won't u call? Just be the better friend and call her & see what's up with her.Good luck & best wishes.
2006-12-26 05:30:50 · answer #7 · answered by ..pAniC aTTacks.. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call her tomorrow and wish her a Merry belated Christmas then and tell her ya love her to death.....if she doesn't love ya now , she neva loved ya b4...thats what friends r there 4 to b there 4 each other...start doing that for her...she;s prob. thinking the same thing bout you rite now" y ddnt she call me on CHRISTMAS" LOL...yer funny hun...dnt 4get to call her...you better do it...heck, call her right nw.
2006-12-26 05:26:08 · answer #8 · answered by Momma An-g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
and do u call her a best friend? don't know if she'll call, but u should talk to her and find what kind of friend she is....best wishes :)
2006-12-26 05:24:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a better friend,Happy Holidays..
2006-12-26 05:28:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would expect she would call but she might not, in that case I would call her first or text her. Just see what happens,
2006-12-26 05:48:47 · answer #11 · answered by Out of Reach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋