How would u handle having some1 u love struggling with addiction?

Question

and is it appropriate...or necessary.... 2 distance yourself from them

Answer 1

real full on addiction is a lot more complex than some of these answers suggest and it's not as easy as saying things like "kick them to the curb, let them sort it out, they need to hit bottom" etc. These are cliches and unless a person experiences addiction first had, it is hard to understand just what the best thing to do is. A person with addiction will do things that hurt those they love but not all do. Some keep it to themselves but this in itself can harm a relationship. There are just too many variables to generalize on what to do. The most important thing is that if the addict is loved by someone, they will need them but one must keep enough distance to protect themselves emotionally to some extent. It can be necessary to distance yourself from an addict but not always to the extent of cutting them off completely. The addict doesn't feel good about hurting those they love and in fact will make themselves feel so bad about what they are doing that this will add to them relapsing. Again, it's not the case for all and some addicts will be straight out hopeless in relationships. People should remember that an addict is a human being very much in need of love & Try to find a way to help them any way possible.

Answer 2

It is necessary if their addiction is putting you or your kids if ya have any, into harms way. It is appropriate if you are enabling him, either by taking part in the use, or by having a conflictual unloving relationship. But, if you love the person, and are able to feel safe with him or her, and are not yourself being lured into the use,the I would say, fight for and with the person to defeat the addiction.

Answer 3

It's appropriate if you or your children are in danger or if by closeness you mean giving them money (which they'll spend on the addiction) or otherwise helping them continue their addiction. Loving them and caring for them and being therefore them is good. Cutting them out of your life isn't going to help their addiction problem and could make it worse.

Answer 4

Just be ready for the long haul, remember addiction is an illness and that his behaviour will be controlled by it. Give him/her unconditional love but realise that this may mean that you may have to distance yourself from him in the end. It's not easy. Good luck.

Answer 5

My aunt was an alcoholic and we put her in rehab so many times and it never helped because you have to want to stop doing the addiction to get past it I would distance myself it the addiction is causing you to get hurt and just be supportive and if you do distance yourself tell them why .....

Answer 6

If you love them you wouldn't distance yourself from them you would do as much as you can to help them get better.

Answer 7

it is almost impossible to help anyone with an additction....they need to want help....and in many cases it is necessary to distance yourself in order not to roped into the sickness ....good luck

Answer 8

If you feel like you are being pulled in then yes distance is better. You can't help if you are in the sinking ship

Answer 9

Trinity, you can always send that person to rehab. If he refuses, then leave the boy.

I'm sure it'll be a burden to you physically, emotionally, and financially.

You're better off not being with him.

Answer 10

yes, as much as you love them and as much as they love you neither can coexist with addiction. if the person is seeking treatment it is okay to very carefully resume contact. It is their problem, the best you can do for them is say "I love you, but this is hurting me and I can't cope with you doing this to yourself."
it hurts, but you have to live your life and you have to keep moving.

it's best to seek support when going through this. believe me i know.