2006-12-25 20:40:37 · 14 answers · asked by farm3465 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
don't try to make things work
too stubborn
bad mentality
2006-12-25 20:46:10 · answer #1 · answered by st_boss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My view concerns a couple of reasons.
Most people (men and women) place their main importance on physical attraction when deciding on getting to know someone in a dating/ potential relationship candidate.
Then, they move too fast into the relationship, then eventually marriage. They don't take a long enough period of time to really evaluate their partner. Initially, you have all the warm fuzzy feelings of having someone in your life, and then the physical part of the relationship, and early on everyone is still in part on their best behavior and not wanting to mess things up.
That period needs to be cleared. Once the novelty wears off and both are comfortable in the relationship, that's when they start completely letting their guard down and act normal and the true evaluation can begin for a long term relationship/ marriage potential. You learn their values, their quirks, personality, see how they are with their friends and family... one of the telling things in my opinion is to see if there is actually a friendship there- after a long time, do you still enjoy conversations with each other, have interests and activities that you both like to share, etc. That's what will carry the relationship far into the future if you truly enjoy each others company. Unfortunately, I think a lot of people out there don't want a partner and friend (or else you'd never hear the excuse "you are just a friend") and end up with someone that they have little in common with.
But taking the time to find out these things is what a lot of people don't want to do. I hear people that went from dating to marriage in 6 months. Way too quick.
So I think it's from men and women who are place less emphasis on who the person is and rather what the person looks like (and other materialistic issues), and not taking the time to truly get to know the person before committing.
2006-12-25 21:06:10 · answer #2 · answered by Cruel Angel 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The simple reason is people go into marriage for all the wrong reasons. Men and women both don't look deep before they leap. They don't seem to realize what it takes to make a marriage work. It takes real love' commitment' Understanding and a willingness to put the other first and a will not to give up when things get ruff and a few other things that a lot of people never learn.
2006-12-25 21:03:54 · answer #3 · answered by Sarcastic Sid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because DIVORCE is the only legal option the law allows. Husband forges your name and "steals" $15,000 on your visa? Well, divorce him then.
Husband hides 3 separate checking accounts so he can support his adult kids and ex-wife for THREE years? Then, divorce him.
Husband has a business & creates phony invoices to play games with IRS? Hey, divorce him.
Yeah THAT'LL teach him. Big punishment that is. He keeps all the stolen proceeds from his wife and the WORST thing I can do is divorce him.
2006-12-26 01:57:32 · answer #4 · answered by upside down 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because a lot of women are self serving biatches. Also, women get fat and lazy and let themselves go after they get married. Also, women think it is OK to get divorced. There is no social stigma anymore. Also, women have unrealistic expectations of being "happy" and they get huffy and puffy when they don't get it all of the time from their husbands.
I'm glad men are finally catching on and opting to co-habit with their partner. Breaking up is usually less financially devastating than a divorce.
2006-12-25 20:45:54 · answer #5 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets say i keep one wife and we have three kids I have to pay all the expenses of the three kids. I now will have no money and nothing but bills to show.
If they are children from three separate marriages then there is three other men paying 20% of their income into the same house hold because of the broken marriages. Momma knows if it doesn't work that money is still coming in for the kids.
2006-12-25 21:36:49 · answer #6 · answered by Red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because men have no right of passage into marriage. They have no idea what to expect. Some have no role models because of divorce and others fear it because of divorce.
The main reason is that they fear losing their childhood. But that's the point. The role of a husband requires a higher level of maturity. Some aren't willing to face it.
Others forget to keep up the romance that got them the girl in the first place. They stop, expecting to ge the same results.
And instead of CONTINUING TO DATE THEIR SPOUSE LIKE THEIR SUPPOSED TO, they lifetime journey.
2006-12-25 20:45:41 · answer #7 · answered by L. F 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It takes 100% effort from both people to make a marriage work and then it is still hard.
Too hard for many people, they just give up and get out.
Then in a few years they do the whole thing all over again.
2006-12-25 21:42:05 · answer #8 · answered by older mum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because a lot of people rush into marriage with the mindset of, "If it doesn't work out, we can always get divorced."
2006-12-25 20:44:03 · answer #9 · answered by Tomato Soup and Grilled Cheese 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because people are stupid and for them is easier to divorce than to communcate
2006-12-26 06:29:02 · answer #10 · answered by NONAME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋