...another lover? Let's be honest with ourselves since we have no way of knowing each others indentity. If you were in a bad relationship and unhappy, but still living with the spouse or companion and you met someone else that makes you happy would you leave the significant other?
2006-12-25 20:29:10 · 10 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am getting a variety of some really good answers. I personally am not married, but I have seen so many others on here posting about having b/f & g/f's while being married, etc. that it just made me wonder if fidelity is a thing from the past. My personal view is one relationship should be ended if possible before getting involved with someone else, but everyone is entitled to their own opinion. I was just curious...so I asked the question to get answers! Hope all of you had a Merry Christmas!
2006-12-25 20:52:43 · update #1
Michaelknight_2000: I may have taken your answer seriously, but I decided to read your own questions that you put out there. I doubt you're a marriage counselor for starters, but if you are then why didn't you follow your own advice? You are divorced and remarried to someone that won't stay out of your email or private matters. Makes me wonder why? Trust issues possibly...why? Practice what you preach before throwing stones at others for failed marriages. Doesn't look like you tried hard enough either. Your relationship with your ex is so bad that she didn't inform you of your daughters death..and no one else did either? And you're on yahoo answers complaining? That question can't be for real. You may want to play counselor, but some of these people take these answers very seriously....speak accordingly so you won't damage someone's life. Oh yes, and it's "I" not "i". Shift button to far away for that pinky finger to reach?
2006-12-26 04:57:30 · update #2
i'd try to work things out with my spouse til i get tired of it...
if he doesn't change, time to pack his bags baby...
yeah, i'd go for someone who'll make me happier than him who just leaves me at misery...
2006-12-25 20:38:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I won't leave my significant other no matter how unhappy i am. The perks with staying with her regardless of happiness are just to good to give up.
Before i would consider leaving, i'd go get counseling for myself.
Any relationship can be salvaged and happiness found within it, trouble is, it takes a bit of effort on all parties part to attain happiness.
Relationships have to be worked on and nourished, or they wither and die. Most find it easier to walk away or divorce rather than work to build a happy fruitful relationship.
Many people are just too damned lazy to work on their relationships it's that simple.
2006-12-25 21:26:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honesty ? . . . No I would not leave my significant other for another lover. How do I know. . . because I was in a relationship just as you described, was approached by another and did not 'cheat' on my significant other. I have a policy . . . divorce before you date. I divorced the significant other, now I date. End of story.
2006-12-25 20:34:06 · answer #3 · answered by onelight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were not married to them, I would leave especially if things were not right between us. But I wouldn't go moving in with another person for a long time. I'd try to learn to be happy alone for a while and possibly date others. Afterall, you really don't have anything to offer others unless you are happy with yourself. godloveya.
2006-12-25 20:48:02 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I would not leave my significant other even though we're not married, we are commited to eachother and keeping our relationship great. Why would I be in a hoirrible relationship? Unless it was like a few months old and I didn't know any better.
2006-12-25 20:38:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends. If I thought my current relationship wasn't salvagable, then yes, I would leave, but then maybe I wouldn't if I had kids. Who knows? I'd try to make my current relationship work, but if I was really miserable and I felt that the new relationship would lead somewhere, then I'd pack my bags.
2006-12-25 20:38:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leaving a significant other isnt like leaving a husband or wife. Yes , I would say I would leave a significant other. They are just that significant and not a spouse. There is a major difference. A spouse you are commited to and significant other you are not.
2006-12-25 20:32:31 · answer #7 · answered by lovie12346 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
absolutely not. If the relationship or marriage were over, then have it be over first. Then move on.
2006-12-25 23:16:16 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me but I would have left a long lime before
2006-12-25 20:38:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would depend if there were other reasons to stay, like children.
2006-12-25 20:38:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋