and polite to people.I feel like people arent happy with this and are wanting to 'bring me out of my shell' ( as someone might put it).Why is this , when im happy with how i am? Is it because they see something in me that i cant?
2006-12-25 20:06:34 · 12 answers · asked by tunachunks199 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You sound just like me, i've been a quiet person since a young child, basically forever ,I don't actually class myself as shy, I do have my shy moments like anyone does, e.g when doing a presentation in front of strangers but I just see myself as a very quiet and softly spoken individual, it annoys me when people try to say i'm shy as I wouldn't say i'm a timid person, I just don't like being the centre of attention and I prefer others to be focused on, so many people seem to want to be the centre of attention, shouting over each other, I just don't see the point myself, however people still want me to be louder, when will they understand i've been like it all my life and its my personality, it can't just be changed otherwise I would be false and not true to myself, i've tried to be abit louder in the past but before I know it i've reverted back to my usual self, it can't be helped, louder people feel threatened by quieter people, they can't tell what your'e thinking and don't understand you, as you aren't like the majority of people who have alot to say for themselves but most of it is junk, I only open my mouth when I feel I have something important or useful to say, rather stay quiet and let people think i'm an idiot rather than open your mouth and confirm it, a favourite saying I was told by my father years ago who sees me as a wise owl, I observe people, what they do and say, its interesting alot of the time watching some peoples behaviour and what rubbish they come out with, people see quieter people as iunpredictable as the majority like me have a hell of a temper and can reallystick up for themselves when they feel the need, they don't feel they can read you very well, don't worry be proud of who you are, who wants to be another gobby clone anyway, granted not all louder people are mouthy but quieter people are more unique, others can't work you out and some are even envious, its all about them, they don't understand that some people just want a quieter life, i'm not rude i'm just quiet and will always politely speak to someone when spoken to, thats not bad, its good, don't allow people to put you down for who you are(I know this tends to be easier said than done), its disrespectful from them, rise above it!!!!
2006-12-27 22:58:19 · answer #1 · answered by Rainbowz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never suggest that you change. If you like yourself and you are getting along then you might accept yourself and tell others to KISS OFF!
Psychotherapy is about being to use any of your human potentials at an appropriate time. There are many sub-therapies for specific inhibitions. This would make you a whole person. You might not need to be a whole person.
http://www.cforc.com/kjv/Ecclesiastes/3.html
King James Version of the Bible
Book of Ecclesiastes
3:1
To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:
2006-12-25 20:37:04 · answer #2 · answered by Russell W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that people are threatened by shy people. Confident people just can't understand how anyone could not like them want to be the centre of attention etc and they think there is something wrong with you for it or maybe it makes them feel uncomfortable. If you are happy in yourself, Don't be influenced to change. Shyness etc is only negative if it stops you from achieving something in your life. Mostly it means often you are a better listener, more likely to think deeply and be empathic with others situations
2006-12-25 20:50:39 · answer #3 · answered by sereneicequeen 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell me about it! They probably think that our shyness and unwillingness to participate in conversation or any other activity is a result of fear or contempt rather than personal choice. What can I say? As long as you're happy with who you are try to be courageous enough so as to be able to defend this "deviant" attitude of yours against all these narrow-minded and shallow people. At least, that's what I'm trying to do.
2006-12-26 10:22:53 · answer #4 · answered by maggie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel exactly the same as you do, im definitely no extrovert, but it depends on who im with, if im with the family i can be as mad as a hatter, but when im around people i dont know, i dont how to react, so i just fade into the background, im quiet when i am at work, for example, not because im being rude, by not being talktative, but because there is a time and a place for laughter, and these people at work? i dont have time for them, because they are two faced!
I love myself ( not in a bigheaded sense) but i am me, and there is only one of me, why should i put on a facade? i dont need to change for anyone, and quite frankly only the opinions of yourself should count, the good ones i mean, all of these people around you, just drift in and out of your life, and rarely have no significance to you, who gives a damn what strangers think???
If people are willing to accept you as you are, then relish that thought, because there are too many people out there, trying to replicate other people and their actions, you dont need to be "brought out of your shell" just be yourself,that is who people are most likely to be drawn to.
You describe yourself as respectul, and polite, thats good!! too many people lack those qualities and this is what makes them vile individuals, dont feel you have to change...:) keep being you!!
2006-12-26 00:00:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is because they feel uncomfortable.
When someone joins a group we try to make them comfortable enough to be able to join in and it feels great to see someone, who was initially shy. happily chatting.
If someone sits on the side and doesn't join in it can feel like a
lack of trust in the group, a rejection. It can also feel quite controlling, like the shy person is actually attention seeking.
Sparky x
2006-12-25 20:33:08 · answer #6 · answered by bigcitygirl_uk 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
O.ok. given which you're a minor, you ought to be respectful of your mothers and fathers. Your mothers and fathers are doing what they think of is actual for you. regardless of in the event that they think of this is in 'no longer' serving Jehovah the actual God. communicate to somebody on your Congregation... your learn conductor, an Elder, an Elder's spouse, even. yet Please Do bear in concepts: "We ought to Obey God As Ruler." Jehovah won't ignore what you have suffered for His call. do no longer supply In. do no longer supply up on serving Jehovah God. Pray frequently. I, additionally, am the only Witness in my very super kin, collectively with my husbands kin...incredibly super kin. The greater human beings attempt to get me to renounce serving Jehovah.... the greater I DIG my Heels in. This previous December, my husband threatened me with divorce, if i did no longer supply up, serving Jehovah. i did no longer falter, nor waiver.... and, we're not divorced............yet.
2016-10-06 00:46:37 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they cant see anything you cant, in fact they dont even see what you do, most people feel the need to be "out there" they feel the need to be noticed constantly, because you are happy with exactly who you are, some people find that daunting, they dont know anything about u beacause you dont feel the need to be in the spot light all the time and they find that threatning, carry on being yourself
2006-12-25 20:27:56 · answer #8 · answered by ♠ Merlin ♠ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
whats wrong with that , no one likes a big mouthed ignorant big head in the long run , you are the one that will be respected in the eyes of others
2006-12-25 20:39:34 · answer #9 · answered by paul t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the quiet ones you have to watch out for
2006-12-25 20:14:37 · answer #10 · answered by Sgt T 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋