My husband wants to name our baby if it is a girl after his mom first and middle name. He already told everyone eventhough I object to it, does anyone have any ideas how I can make it known that I really don't want to name her that. Or how much say so should I give him in naming the baby??
2006-12-25 19:26:56 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Baby Names
Don't you have a tongue in your mouth?Or you don't speak your husband's language?
SAY THAT!
Say "I don't want to name the baby after your mother" or "I don't want to ame the baby after anyone".Say what you want: "I want the baby to have the name......"
2006-12-25 20:36:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
You have to live with this name and you if you really dislike it then you need to speak up but have a compromise ready.
Maybe just the first name or the middle name and call the baby by the name you chose.
How about a variation of the name? Such as if her name is Margaret you could call her Megan.
Are there any nicknames that you love?
If you let us know the names maybe we can brainstorm together on a compromise!
Good Luck! SD
2006-12-26 03:17:59 · answer #2 · answered by SD 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are the mom! You're the one birthing the baby! Hello!!! Do not allow him this control! What about YOUR family??? My ex would not let me use "Lindsay" for the middle name because it sounded too much like my mom's name (Lynda). So we used NO family names at all! This is a HUGE decision and cannot be made unless both people are on board for it! If you don't want the baby named after your MIL, then DO NOT use the name. Why would he tell everyone this unless you've let him think he can do it? I hope it's not too late! Good luck with this. Can you pick a first name you BOTH agree on and then use a combination of your mother's names for the middle name?
For example, if your mother's name is Anne and your MIL's name is Marie, use Mariana for the middle name.
2006-12-26 00:16:15 · answer #3 · answered by ReeberKaseyMarcus 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Is his mother living or deceased? If his mother is living, I would object because I feel strongly that the baby should have her own individual name different from any living relative. If she is deceased, I would discuss using either the first or middle name but not both. Perhaps you could combine your mother's name and his mother's name for a nice tribute to both sides of the family.
2006-12-28 15:06:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this problem with my husband about his Grandmother. Thank goodness I had all boys! Her name had been Ruth Christine. I do not like the name Ruth, especially with our one syllable last name. She had been called Christine anyway, so I had promised that if we had a daughter, her name would have the middle name of Christine. Our first name choice changed with each pregnancy, but the middle name was always Christine.
Like somebody else also said, you could suggest using a variation of one of her names, like Laura~ Lauren, etc. My brother and sister-in-law did this with their daughter. Her mother's name is Rosa, so their daughter's middle name is Rose.
Insisting that both names are promulgated onto your baby is a bit much. Maybe you could take one of her names and another of his grandmother, aunt, or sister.
Naming should always be a compromise, even if you do take turns. If one of you hates the name, you may subconsciously take it out on the child.
2006-12-26 05:37:01 · answer #5 · answered by Barefoot Chick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people have 2 middle names so you can name her what you want then name her his moms name for the middle names.
2006-12-26 04:32:41 · answer #6 · answered by somebodyhackedintomyyahooanswers 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it should be a joint agreement. Your husband can't just tell you what he is going to name your child. Just like you couldn't tell him that you're going to name your child what you want with none of his imput. Try to talk it over. I have no idea what your mother-in-law's name is like, but see if you can agree on using her first name as a middle name or something like that. When it comes down to it, it's not just his decision. Put your foot down and tell him that you don't want to name your child after his mother, but that you would be willing to compromise on something else. Or, maybe you'll have a boy and there will be nothing to worry about...unless he decides to name it after his dad. Good luck to you.
2006-12-26 08:27:56 · answer #7 · answered by L80bug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with most everyone else. compromise. if u really dont like the name, stand your ground.let him pick on of his moms names for a middle name, or a version of one of her names (middle best) to be a name in the babyies ( the carol = carolina ex) or even work it so that the initials will be the same. i mean, u already took his last name. does he honestly want his daughter to be a copy of his mom, even in name? nope. u should each make a list of names u like. and compare them. cross off any that are definate "no's" to the other parent. then work on the ones that are left. its a new person. go with a new name!
2006-12-26 02:47:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Easy way to solve this. He can pick one of his moms names and you pick some names. Flip a coin to see which name and which position it will go. then flip for your name and that be that. I hate my mother in law. I how dumb any way. If I were his mother I would intervene and say " I am honored am chose to have my name as her middle name and the baby have her own name. Good Luck anyhow!
2006-12-29 09:03:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like he's trying to push it on you as he is telling everyone. You need to explain that the name has to be something you both agree on. You can also have each person pick out a name - my favorite is that you pick out the first name and he gets the middle name (but that's just me).
You need to explain that you know he's excited but the child is both yours and his and the naming has to reflect that.
You guys will be able to work this out....
2006-12-26 08:05:12 · answer #10 · answered by T&M's Mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The name we give to our children is something they are going to be stuck with for the rest of its life. Try to convince him that it can cause confusion during family gatherings when both name sakes are together and someone is directing a question to one of them. Does he really want his daughter to be a "Mary Ellen Smith Junior?" A name for the baby should be something that you both agree on as both of you created the baby. The child is not Grandma and should have its own unique name. Why don't you re-ask this question but tell us what Grandmas name is maybe someone will come up with a unique variation to her name?
2006-12-25 23:28:36 · answer #11 · answered by marilynn 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋