What do you do when your co-worker keeps annoying you for little things?

Question

The two of us are in the same office.She's 51 and I'm 23 years old.She keeps annoying me, that I smoke too much( Ok I only smoke 4 cigarettes now instead of 12).Then the way my desk is placed annoys her, because she couldn't see the sun(the office is to small, what should I say, the sun is directly in my monitor and can't see the text).Literally everything bothers her.It is winter and I sit in front f the window so my back hurts because of the cold.I ignore her and try to explain to her how the things are, but...she argues with someone who can be her daughter.It is ridiculous. What should i do, this is untolerable.Hepl please, she is ruing the 8-hour work day.

Well, thanks guys, (agree with you DEE DEE and everyone else) but the thing is that this is a big company with over 1800 employees. I work here only 6 months and 6 days. She is here maybe 20 years. Every time the government change, the managemnet board also changes. She even complained to the executive manager to be,that I was the one who wants to get her out of this office. of course the manager supports her because I got employed by my father (he was executive manager before the government have changed).Everything is so complicated.The company is so much in debt, that the new management will kick over 500 employees out of this company.I'm affraid about my father supporting the family.I'm not afraid about me, cause I am young and I can seek another job (I am an English teacher).

Answer 1

OMG i have a workmate EXACTLY like that!!
its soooo hard but you need to tell her to relax a bit and that she shouldnt 'worry' about little things which you have no helping over
if talking to her doesnt work, you need to let your boss know so that he/she may approach and discuss this with her
(talking didnt help for me so i had to take it to the next step - anonymously of course but the boss spoke to her) apparently, others in the office had similar complaints.

shes prob going through menopause .. you know everything annoys them and they just whinge

i feel for you .. REALLY .. goodluck matey

Answer 2

Well, you might speak to your supervisor about it, but it will have to be very diplomatically. Take the position that the problem is neither you nor your co-worker, but the too small and inconveniently arranged space you are in. Ask whether the supervisor can find a better arrangement, or if she would at least come to your office when both of you are there and offer her suggestions on how to make sharing the room a little easier.

It is telling that you say "argues with someone who can be her daughter." Perhaps that is the problem. She may well see your office relationship as a reflection of the mother/daughter roles. If she ever says anything indicating that is the case, you might point out that it would not be appropriate for two people of the same rank to have such a one up/one down relationship as parallels the mother/daughter. That is, she is not your mother or your teacher, and does not have authority over you, only seniority. And on the job, she may or may not have even that.

At the age of 51, this lady has to be a bit bummed out that she is at the same rank as someone less than half her age. It must rub her raw that she is not your supervisor or manager. So be as patient with her as you can, but do involve your manager in setting things up as well as possible, and giving your co-worker the broad hint that she is not helping with her constant complaints.

Answer 3

i'd probably annoy her extremely late at evening with the same aggravating habit. yet i'm spiteful like that. If she will be able to not pay interest for your requests all you may extremely do is ignore about her. right that is a chilled trick. a million.bypass into your manage e book, 2. elect her get admission to, 3. pick "Edit", 4. scroll until eventually you locate the position it says some thing alongside the lines of "custom ringtone/IDringtone/ringtone" 5. elect "silent" and tadaaa! your telephone will user-friendly light up at the same time as she calls extremely than making any kind of noise.

Answer 4

tell the boss. first she must be worried her own jobb is in jeopardy. 2nd, she may just be a snooty person. 3rd she is insicure about her life and because you are young and have your life aheadof you, She may be so jealous that she wants to bring you down with her. If such is the case jump in her face and tell her off, firmly. do not beat around the bush!! tell her to take a jump in the lake!!!4th find faults with her and tell her what they are. you could start with her picking on you. then find whatever disorganization is at her desk. you may even find discrepencies in her work.
I hope this helps and you had a good Christmas

Answer 5

Try your very hardest at work till you get a promotion or you could start wearing headphones while shes talking or ask for a new desk.

Answer 6

Ask her if you can practice your part in a play, and you need her help. It requires that you do CPR on a woman who stresses herself so much over everything at her work that she gets a heart attack.

Answer 7

Thank her for her input and tell her she's not your mom,boss or mentor and to keep her mind on the job. I had an older guy at work try to "help" me also and I had to tell it to him strait, at first he was pissy about it but he got over it.

Answer 8

How easy is getting another job? If it is not difficult, find another job...move on. If it is difficult to find another job, talk to your manager/HR. See if that helps. Also, try to see if you can somehow forge a non-working, outside-of-work, personal relationship with this woman...going to shopping/movies/etc.

Answer 9

Tell her to quit interrupting your work, that if she wants to argue to do it with the boss, you dont make decisions you just work there.

Answer 10

tell her you will report her to the labor relations board. to shut up.