i am married for 10 ten years with a child (7 years), financially independent but very sensitive and emotional. i am separated for 3 years. my husband was a batterer and an abuser of highest order. now he wants me to come back on the plea that he has realised his mistakes. i am even having a good job offer in his city. my parents also want me to give a try. but i know with my experience he can not change. secondly i have an old friend, who is about to get divorced and we have strong attraction for each other,. i trust him totally and can happily want to have a life with him. but i am confused. my family will not support me in this
2006-12-25 18:00:25 · 9 answers · asked by mishty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sorry to say you are old enough to make your own decision, and your right he won't change and why put your 7 year old through that again. think of your child, its seems your family isn't. you have to do what your heart is telling you, and forget what others think. you want this other guy go for it and don't let anyone take that away. and you don't need anyones support but yours. be happy, and love your son and don't put him back in that enviroment again. because if it doesn't work out the child is going to be hurt again. and i know you don't want that. good luck.
2006-12-25 18:09:11 · answer #1 · answered by misty blue 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't go back to that women basher you already know what life is going to be like with him don't put your child through that again,they don't just change its a sickness.
Go and try your luck with the other guy at least you will have a chance for a better life (I hope).
As for your family they don't live it the way you have,I'm sure if it was them getting bashed they would think a bit different. I am having the opposite problem with my daughter I wish she would leave and really protect her 2 girls from it but she Loves him It makes me sick.I can't believe your family thinks his treatmentou is OK. Good luck girl you deserve to be happy too.
2006-12-25 18:11:28 · answer #2 · answered by deb m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fIRST THINGS 1ST, TAKE THE JOB. 2ND , NOW THAT U R INDEPENDENT, U CAN FACE THE WORLD. U TRUST THIS 2ND GY BECOS U NEEDED A CRUTCH TO DEPEND ON, DURING THE DIFFICULT TIME. IS THE 2ND GY GETING DIVORCED BECOS OF U? THIS U MUST ANSWER TO URSELF WITH A CLEAN CONSCIENCE. .IF UR FIRST HUSBAND REALLY WANTS U BACK AND THE CHILDREN ALSO WANT IT THEN U CAN GIVE IT A TRY. ALL THE BEST .
2006-12-25 18:08:07 · answer #3 · answered by viren k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your divorce from your first husband a completely separate decision from dating this old friend. I think if your family sees that you are not swayed by your attraction to another man, they will respect more fully your divorcing your first husband.
A man who abuses his wife is NOT a husband. Therefore, divorcing him is NOT immoral. (in my opinion)
2006-12-25 18:16:16 · answer #4 · answered by katnkaboodle 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I suggest before you guys do anything together, talk with a local professional who can help you. You running off with the recently divorced friend is not going to make anything better.
2006-12-25 18:04:06 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-28 09:20:30 · answer #6 · answered by quinteros 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband may be a changed man--for the moment. But it will take one thing to trigger an episode.
Batterers never change. Never.
2006-12-25 18:03:17 · answer #7 · answered by maamu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you took a vow in front of God to be one with your husband which you should keep. however, it sounds like this oneness has been broken for a while. Could you let yourself be one with him again? can you trust him? are you and your kids safe? personally, i think that if you took him back, you should get involved in a local church in your area. sanctify your marrage.
2006-12-25 18:08:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
men do not change. men do not change.
2006-12-25 18:05:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋