Why do I feel so ugly? What can I do?

Question

I know this question has been asked many times before but I couldn't find a satisying answer.
I'm 14, and I know you're going to say, "oh you're in puberty, you'll grow out of it", but I have felt this way for a long time and that kind of answer isn't going to help. Every time I look in the mirror I am disgusted. I absolutely hate the way I look and the person I'm becoming. I have become so self-conscious...every time someone makes a joke with me, I wonder if they are serious and get afraid. I worry about being "clingy" and fear that people only compliment me out of pity. I am not especially pretty and I know that but it's not like I only have bad skin or something...the way my features come together just doesn't look nice.I feel like my cheeks are insanely fat. My profile view looks hideous. I get insanely jealous of others. I've gone in and out of depression for awhile but never felt so bad about myself, and so, what can I do? I barely even want to get out of bed being this way.

I understand that it's not going to be this way forever, but I mean it's practically all I think about. What can I do NOW to help me?

Answer 1

I'm not sure how much i can help but here are a few tips:

*DON'T wear a lot of makeup

*find something in your life that makes it worth getting out of bed everyday..it can be whatever a hobby, a friend, an activity.

*If your feeling jealous just try to think of some things that you have and she doesn't or just list all of your positive aspects..

*as for your looks see if you can change your hair style or something to better accentuate your looks..

i hope this helps you a bit..and also try to be optimistic cause otherwise you'll be miserable and miss out on a lot of things...believe me i know from experience and i'm only in middle school cause i've had a friend who commited suicide...

Answer 2

Hey I thought that way too! oh those middle school days...I found that when I hung out with my friends I forgot about it and stopped worrying about it, might be different since i'm a guy.

Second thing is, when you look at something for a while, it starts to look better, remember that. second second thing, you'll find out later, looks really aren't anything, butter-faces get a lot of attention too, and not-hott girls still have fun. In the end, a guy doesn't care if you aren't hott

Tip. Amazing fit body can pull up a girl's hotness by a TON, get out there and do some excersizes.

Answer 3

Stop looking in the mirror so much and torturing yourself. Surly you have a couple of features that you admire. What's your hair like, or your eyes? Focus on your best features and accentuate them. Do you have a nice voice? Are you smart? Are you a good listener?
People ARE complimenting you so just say "thank you " and leave it at that. Is it possible that all those that compliment you are wrong?

Answer 4

You have your entire life to be beautiful. I know how it feels to look in the reflection and think "worthless". It may just be that you don't like the way you look and others do...modesty. And jealousy is human...it happens. I get jealous of people when they get invited to things I don't, but just think...there could be plenty of people out there who would be eager to have what you take for granted. The only advice I can bestow is don't read beauty magazines...they're not REAL women so don't be jealous of them, and to change something about you on the outside, just to pamper and make yourself feel good! Get new makeup, buy new clothes, go get your hair colored!~ best wishes...

Answer 5

Look at me [ http://www.myspace.com/blackberrygrape ] and look at my body (avatar). I sure as hell did not look like this at 14 or 15. I started to grow into my beauty when I was about 17 years old (I'm 18). This is normal and you will learn to love yourself.

When people say that you'll grow out of it, they're RIGHT! You WILL grow out of that awkward phase.

What you can do now is just do whatever it is that makes you feel good, you must have something attractive about you whether it's your personality, something you're good at or whatever. All you really have to do is surround yourself by good friends and maybe try to get a hobby so you won't have time to obsess over looks.

Answer 6

Sweetheart, it sounds as if you are depressed.....maybe you could talk to your family doctor with your parents/guardian....to see about getting some medical help for this......there are alot of "red flags" that you indicated about that makes me believe that you are depressed or somethng.....I am a spiritual advisor, mentor...my email is [e-mail].....maybe I could help some, too...who knows....good luck honey...

Answer 7

if it is so bad undergo plastic surgery
or try with shenaz Hussein product & treatments But if some gentic featurs from ur parents then only plastic surgery is possible.
or why do u feel so ?think positive.

Answer 8

with time, you're gonna accept yourself and seriously, most teenagers are like you, really.