I always find myself in less than fulfilling relationships. And afterwards, I will be so sad that we've broken up. Then all of a sudden i will realize that i either hate the person or just really dislike them and figure out that we have nothing in common at all. To the point where i dont even want to see them.
anyhow, How do i stop being angry at myself for always ending up in such stupid relationships??? because i feel like mostly i'm just pissed because i can't make better decisions.
2006-12-25 17:55:25 · 11 answers · asked by Amelia 6 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Ok this advice is from Oprah, whenever I am feeling down about something that happens I think of this
Any negative thing that happens in your life is simply a lesson.
She spoke of this when she had someone on her show who had been put in jail for drunk driving and got in an accident with her kids and husband in the car.
First, the lesson will come at you as a whisper
If you ignore it it will come back again in the form of a tap on the head
If you ignore this lesson your next will be greater, like a slap on the head
And if you continue to ignore the lessons and continue down the same path you will eventually reach your brick wall moment, something that you may not survive from.
In that show the woman had had previous lessons, small lessons that should have made her think before drinking and driving, but she kept doing it, and soon enough she had her brick wall moment, which could have resulted in her losing her family and her life.
So maybe your lesson is to respect yourself, be happy with yourself even when you're not in a relationship. Because if you don't soon enough you'll reach your brick wall moment, which may be an abusive relationship you just can't get out of until it's too late.
2006-12-26 14:14:43 · answer #1 · answered by moi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You only do what you let yourself do...no matter what...always.
That goes for everyone. It's ok to be sorry if you've done something wrong, but there is really no point in regret.
Don't be angry at yourself for "always ending up in such stupid relationships". You obviously didn't think they were stupid to begin with or you wouldn't have been in them, so obviously you know something now that you did not know before. You LEARNED something...therefore the relationships while not serving the purpose you may have had in mind, were not stupid at all, but actually very useful to you. Firsthand knowledge/ experience is not something that mere money can buy(at least not money alone), you have to give SOMETHING of yourself to obtain it. So don't regret; just live your life, try to do what you think is "right", learn, and be happy.
2006-12-25 18:29:32 · answer #2 · answered by AuntTater 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't change the past, but you can change the future. If you find yourself getting into unfulfilling relationships, think about what you would consider fulfilling and then consider what you've been attracted to; finally, consider the negative traits that have turned you off to past relationships. If you can resolve the discrepancies between these three categories, you will be able to formulate a better plan for relationships in the future.
2006-12-25 18:05:13 · answer #3 · answered by Néant Humain 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a pattern with men. You need to figure out why you go for the same type of guy every time out. Once you have that figured out, you'll find yourself less attracted to these type of men. It will take having some more frustrating relationships until you can see it coming, and avoid those type of men completely.
2006-12-25 18:25:20 · answer #4 · answered by Chatelaine 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've come to realize that I had to go through all the bad relationships to realize what I DON'T want. now I have a clearer picture of what I should look for, ( and look out for) in a potential mate. I'm glad now for the time I spent with each one, I dont hate any of them, I just know better now what I need in order to be able to co-habitate with someone.
2006-12-25 18:00:14 · answer #5 · answered by Big hands Big feet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remember this: Don't regret what once made you happy. The time will come when you will find yourself in the most wonderful relationship, even though everyone has their ups and downs. Good Luck!
2006-12-25 17:58:36 · answer #6 · answered by CR 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell yourself that no matter what youve already been through, you can learn from it. Yes, you might have been through some rough times but you will be able to keep that in mind for the next time. So learn from your mistakes and just keep telling reminding yourself which is good and whats bad. Im sorry youve been through some bad realtionships.
2006-12-25 17:57:50 · answer #7 · answered by mell. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the biggest witness for human being is giving up. mistakes happens so that you won't do the same mistake again...so..no need to feel regret if you make a mistake...but use the mistake to make a better decision in future..that what life is
2006-12-25 18:14:46 · answer #8 · answered by Gaban Hero 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u dont think much about what u do. u shouldthink about what u do .
it is really important as one decision of urs can really make a difference to ohers.
talk freely to them surely they would like u
2006-12-25 17:59:33 · answer #9 · answered by kritika 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey ...just listen to trance and be happy...
TRANCE:altered state of mind..
ww.tranceaddict.com...you can find some best musik here...
2006-12-25 17:58:21 · answer #10 · answered by Spirit of ~^Spirituality^~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋