I have been married for 12 years and always thought my marriage was good until a couple of months ago. Up until then I thought I was Mr. Dad, coaching my childs sport teams, helping out her family and so on. I guess somewhere down the line I started neglecting my wife and although we have been working on our marriage and doing better, I still can not make love to my wife without thinking of the other guy.
I guess the reason is, when I found out about my wifes infedellity it was by mere chance. I was looking in her cell phone at some photos and that when I found nude pictures that the other man sent her.
Well let me get to the point, this man was much more endowed than I am and I can't help but think she is not enjoying sex with me as much as she did with him beside the fact that when we are intimate I feel I can't give her what she wants.
2006-12-25 17:47:56 · 10 answers · asked by Caliman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Size doesn't make her enjoy sex more, believe me. I think it may be more the attention she is getting from him and not at home. It's typical after a couple has been together for so long. You can never stop working at your marriage. many times people think its fine the way it is and stop trying and this happens. If you want to get over it, then talk to her and try to work through it. You may need professional help, or even a separation and new beginning, but don't place all the blame, try to listen to what she says, if it doesn't make sense, then leave.
2006-12-25 17:58:28 · answer #1 · answered by dana j 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Endowment issues are common with guys, and I'm sure it's especially hard for you given an infidelity issue also. If I were you, I would confront my wife about it and talk with her about that very thing - endowment. We may have tough exteriors, but we're sensitive sorts inside. It's a tough issue to break your mind of when it becomes an issue, and the best thing you can do for yourself , and your wife, is get her honest feedback on the subject matter. There's plenty more to consider in sex than mere size issue, and you may be surprised to find she prefers you to the other guy no matter what. But you won't know until you ask her and you two talk about it. If you still have trouble keeping things up after, try some viagra. Seriously, it can only help boost your confidence getting back into the right swing of things with her. And maybe try a few new things (new approaches to the lovemaking), a little diversity always serves to better bond sexual relations. Good Luck.
2016-03-29 06:48:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get male enhancement drugs or have some fat removed from a part of your body and have your penis enlarged with it. I've heard you can add a few inches this way.
Just because a guy has a 'Johnnie' that doesn't make him good in bed! I personally DON"T like a large penis because it hurts after the sex is over and with a 'friendlier' size it's more about sensation and not penetration. I like the subtleties of it.
Don't loose heart because your ego is telling you that you're not enough for her...listen to your passion instead. Go to a place that's private and be alone with yourself. Get in touch with your fantasies and rebuild your sexual confidence by allowing yourself the enjoyment you once had as a young man being with a lady that turned you on, and rediscover what you THINK you lost or had stolen by that hurtful situation. OK?
2006-12-25 18:19:40 · answer #3 · answered by Knuckledragger 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It's not about the sex. Talk to your wife, get into counseling. Cancel that cell phone number and that guy has to hit the road. Did you know that 40% of people in the US have genital herpes and that it can be spread even while they are asymptomatic? Not to mention other diseases. She's really forcing you to risk your own health while she parties around on you. Is she worth it?
2006-12-25 17:54:46 · answer #4 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ooooo - how "delicate" is our male ego? If my wife did that to me, I would point her to the front door with her bags in tow. Who needs that kind of crap? She could have talked to you BEFORE it went that far. You want someone who WANTS YOU and be honest with you when things start to go awry - not after!
2006-12-25 18:09:12 · answer #5 · answered by rokdude5 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can only say that - just because he's "well-endowed" - it doesn't mean he knows how to use it. Bigger is not always better.
2006-12-25 17:51:55 · answer #6 · answered by karespromise 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try some varity sex positions,sex games ..etc
2006-12-25 18:03:44 · answer #7 · answered by THE MAN 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
why dont you talk to her? her words will surely heal your feelings and your thought.
2006-12-25 18:09:48 · answer #8 · answered by labs 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i'am so sorry, i really don't know what to say. you can please her in other ways. If she loves a d!ck more thenyou, then you should divorce her.
2006-12-25 18:19:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
HAHAHA, is this serious???
Wow, do you have like a 3 in. penis or something? You might as well just stop, she probably doesn't even realize you're having sex!
2006-12-25 17:52:28 · answer #10 · answered by Dr. Harry Fingerman 1 · 0⤊ 6⤋