My ex and I were married for 20months after 5yrs together. Although the divorce (6months ago) was amicable, I'm not sure what the etiquette is for sending greeting cards. I've just been informed by my ex (we're on good terms) that he & his new wife are also expecting a baby.. I'm not sure what to do. Do I send a card to the couple &/or my ex in-laws? I didn't send a card last year when we were separated.. it was just too painful to.. What do I do?! Help please..
2006-12-25 17:40:16 · 26 answers · asked by Betty M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you and the in-laws are still on good terms with each other than yes. I still send my ex in-laws Christmas cards and their son and I have been divorced for 29 yrs. But they were good to me and we remained friends.
As for the ex, do what you feel comfortable doing. He shouldn't be expecting you to do anything for him anymore. If you don't want to then don't. And really you don't have to explain yourself to anyone, my dear.
You have a right to get on with your own life and everyone should expect you too.
2006-12-25 17:48:03 · answer #1 · answered by myninny54 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-23 00:14:14 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assuming that you live with your wife a gift, not a card, is appropriate, specifically jewelry no cooking tools. If the separation involved a restraining order, you should not send your ex anything. Your question seems to be about your new wife being left out. A cool gift and a smooch and she will be puddy in your hands. All relationships begin with some attraction with the other, keeping good relations with your ex is a credit to you.
2016-05-23 07:08:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would send a nice card something about peace and blah blah.. then and print off some information on Valitrex (herpes) medication and insert it in the card, give it a lick and send away!
I am kidding, I would send a nice card if it felt right to you, but I would keep it a fairly generic written one, I would stay away from the 'Thinking of you and your family on this special day' type cards!
2006-12-26 12:53:21 · answer #4 · answered by B G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send a card to the in-laws but forget about the New family.
2006-12-25 17:44:18 · answer #5 · answered by LSD 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think for the in laws it depends on how close you were, but don't see anything wrong with it. As for the ex, I think no unless you have children together, then a card or small present from the child is appropriate.
2006-12-25 17:43:08 · answer #6 · answered by dana j 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dont think there is a parliament sitting to discuss laws on etiquete......lol. If you feel you want to sent them a card, then go right ahead. There are no rules, its how you feel...its a sign of goodwill...not about etiquette. Just remember you married him, he is not your flesh and blood, and even if he was, it doesnt mean you are obligated to send him any kind of Christmas cheer. I have a sister who is greedy and horrible...I refuse to send her any Christmas greetings....I dont know if it is etiquette or not, I just know she doesnt deserve it. Maybe its wrong, I dont know. I just know, I need to feel comfortable within myself, and if sending a christmas card to your ex makes you feel good then do it. If you feel it is expected of you but you dont want to do it, then dont. This is your life, it is not about etiquette...it is about what feels comfortable for you.
Merry Christmas.
2006-12-25 17:49:51 · answer #7 · answered by rightio 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree. If you are on good terms with him and his family, then by all means, send out cards. It shows that you are a mature and confident person, especially to send one involving his new wife and baby.
2006-12-25 17:45:17 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Been there - done that. I wouldnt bother. Most ex's wouldnt expect anything. You can express your sentiments through a mutual friend but that would be as far as I would go.
2006-12-25 17:44:33 · answer #9 · answered by rokdude5 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Only send a card if you want to send one. You are not required to send a card to anyone. Do what makes you feel good, not what makes them feel good.
2006-12-25 17:42:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋