i've been date with this guy almost 9 months & im really fall in too deep in this love. But last a few weeks i found out that he's married & i really feel frustrating about this. I wonder why he's not been sincere all this while,i'm trying to have a talk with him but seem like he's avoiding me by giving excuses he's too busy! When i ask him why he need to hide that he's married,he say no comment about that!!!Damn it,its not that only about hurts but its all about depressions.I'm playing with mental games now....i know that all is said & done but until now i still love & miss him so much. I'll be grateful if u all can send some good advice & encourage message!!! Thank U,love u guy so much.....
2006-12-25 17:28:21 · 18 answers · asked by v_iolet1978 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You are saying that you were this guy's girlfriend for 9 mos. and you never knew he was married? Now, you are the one that does not want this relationship to end, and you want him to give you an explanation as to why he was not sincere with you? You do not want to give up this guy no matter what, do you want this guy to tell you that he is going to leave his wife for you, and do the same thing he is doing to his wife, you should be feeling sorry for her because this guy is the type of man that is always going to cheat on her. Good riddance! and I hope you will not make the same mistake in the future.
2006-12-25 17:48:47 · answer #1 · answered by a.vasquez7413@sbcglobal.net 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I have been in the exact situation and I got out of it. I still wonder if that was the right thing because I still love him so much and I wonder will I ever love another man and keep thinking there must be some reasonable explanation for it. Then I look at the facts and look at it as an outsider would and it looks like I did the right thing. Rule of thumb for me, the hardest decision tends to be the right one! It's like grieving at first but even though I am not over him (yet) I know I will, I have some smashing mates who aer there for me and hey, I was in love before I met this guy, it has to happen again right? Chin up girl, be strong and remember you are not alone. x
2006-12-27 11:10:23 · answer #2 · answered by pie_eater459 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bless you! this sounds awful, he should have been honest with you from the start. you are obviously in love with him but if he was in love with you he would have told you that he was married. please call it a day and find someone honest and loyal, which he obviously is neither. there are loads of decent guys out there. so keep your chin up, dont even bother about him, he says he is to busy to explain why he never told a woman who he is with that he wasmarried?? he is no man he is a liar and a cheat! i really hope you get rid as it will only end up with you being the hurt one. good luck and have a lovely new start in the new year! x
2006-12-26 05:59:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sad thing is, he doesn't love you or he wouldn't have put you in this predicement. He has cheated on his wife and lied to you; what makes you think that he is/was/or ever will committed you? He is a self-centered jerk that has used you and is too chicken to face you in light of his lies coming to light.
The best thing to do would be cut all ties, eliminate him from your life and move on to find someone who is available who will value and appreciate someone like you that has so much love to give. Don't waste efforts on loser you are presently involved with.
2006-12-26 01:40:20 · answer #4 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really think that al you deserve is to have to share a man with another woman? Trust me thats all your ever going to get with this fella. Even if he dumps his wife, after getting together with you in this way its only a matter of time before he does it again only you'll be the one who is in the position his wife is in now. Even if you do'nt believe this now, it will always be there in the back of your mind, and you will never be able to know 100% that he is'nt doing the same to you, after all, do you think he's never spoilt his wife or given her all the special treatment and promises he gives you? and she thinks she's the only one. Your not in love with him babe, your just another one blinden by his bulls##t.
2006-12-26 02:19:49 · answer #5 · answered by Carl H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way that i could give is you must go away from him bec. you know that he's a married man already and he has the obligation and you can still find somebody who is willin to take your past and shows resapect and accept you. you should know this that each one of us has a plan why this happens to us maybe to sthrengthen us and to prepare us to a bigger burdens
your still young and he didnt deserve to recieve the love and care that you showed.there's a lot of guys out there so why worry.
2006-12-26 01:35:46 · answer #6 · answered by jobz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing for you is to try and forget about him. He's lied and cheated you and I think he was just passing time with you. if he had been serious in the first place, he would have hid nothing from you. So you must go ahead and break up.
2006-12-26 01:49:40 · answer #7 · answered by foney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
much as it is hard to do, please do move on. this will only end with more hurt and agony should you continue with this. you are made for more than that. someone who is true and sincere to you.
yes, it is going to be painful, but you will eventually emerge a happier and stronger person.
all the best :)
2006-12-26 01:37:44 · answer #8 · answered by veelaoui 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your on the road to no-where.He`s a lying cheat.I guess if they don`t give their phone no or their real name then You know Your a real loser,getting sucked in.I think You must know the answer
2006-12-26 01:43:52 · answer #9 · answered by JULIA E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless he really loves you, he'll leave his wife. Otherwise your fighting a losing battle and he's just using you. Don't carry on. Leave him alone - and if he wants you. He knows where you are. Be strong girl. xx
2006-12-26 06:48:36 · answer #10 · answered by happy soul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋