How many people have you had sex with after your Marriage who was not your spouse?

Question

Hai all. lets be honest. When you did something like this, was it just for once or was is regular. Did you ever feel you would rather be with you physical partner than with you spouse. In this way have you ever felt in love and left your spouse? Or did doing this actually strengthen your relationship with your spouse?

Answer 1

I have not had sex w/anyone else once I married my man.
However when we didn't spend enough time together I had some temptations but never fell for it.
Then I bumped into an ex boyfriend several months ago, and felt unbelievable passion, lust and also love. However never thought about him before this or rarely. He wasn't good for anything in life except a good roll in the hay with. It at the time confused the hell out of me for a few months. I was dangerously close to cheating but just could not do it, which I am so thankful for. I just fantasized about him a lot until finally I never thought about him again. Some people just have that sort of charisma, and sexual energy but in most area's of their character actually have no real substance and are not cut out to be a lifetime partner.
My husband has all the qualities I could ask for in a husband and then some. I am so lucky compared to just about every friend I have.
Anyway, it can be a confusing experience esp. when for some reason or another you feel temporarily distant from your spouse for some reason or another--kids, work, ect.
It's important to have faith, be faithful, and in time things work out, as no relationship is w/out it's ups and downs.
If I were you I would not cheat. It feels good to fantasize sometimes, but it's healthier to include some of these fantasies w/your partner to bring you closer emotionally and physically.
Sometimes I wonder how realistic monogamy really is. However I always believed that it is up to the individual to MAKE IT realistic. Who wants to really end up hurting another person like that? It can be a very devastating act in the end and selfish.

Answer 2

I am 52 years old. I have never in my lifetime been with two people at one time. If I find I am not compatible with a person in one area then I will try to work out ways to get it working. If my efforts fail, then I wont cheat....I will move on. I dont believe you can have a fullfilling relationship with anyone if your love is not your love, your lover, your friend, your confidante, your best buddy. If you are not being fullfilled in any way, then I believe if you want a relationship to work, you try every avenue possible to work it out with that person, and not find an alternative partner to meet one or all of your needs. I also believe that you should realise you have made a mistake, accept it as a mistake without all the recrimination/guilt and move on. I dont believe in taking the easy way out. I believe you need to work on those problems and if those problems cannot be resloved then you move on and find what you need with someone else without the baggage. You move on as a free person, able to give yourself fully. It is not fair to the other person if you can only give part of yourself. Love on the rebound is very true...you find someone because you are lonely and you dont really look at anything else. To be a responsible loving, caring, partner, you first have to know yourself. You have to like/love yourself if your are going to be true to a partner. If you seek people out because of lonliness you are not being fair to you and you are not being fair to the person you hook up with.; My suggestion to anyone who has recently broken up with their love is to spend time on their own getting to know themselves again, getting strong and realising that they are important people and who they are with do not determine the person they are.

In short, if you are having to compomise love, eg. finding physical satisfaction from someone other than your spouse, then you are doing both of you a disservice. If you dont want to work on your problems, then you may as well leave and find someone who can satisfy ALL your needs.

Answer 3

Keeping such relations after marriage is like keeping your self on Fire. There is no good end. You will end you faith in your spouse's eyes for ever. You will loose you own earned property. So be care full before you step froward.

Answer 4

that's what he needs. even nonetheless, intercourse is a classic healthful element- especially between 2 people who're committed. He needs to take your actual desires in to attention aswell in any different case that area of your marriage will possibly no longer artwork- if he's no longer gentle on your desires too. What occurs in case you do no longer desire intercourse on your wedding ceremony night? Will he understand? that is not some thing you could turn on and rancid at will. you surely could inform him the way you sense and tell him approximately your desires till now you dedicate to him. have faith me virginity etc isn't any enormous deal- that is preserving truthful and interested in a minimum of one individual for something of your existence that concerns.

Answer 5

None. We sometimes fantasize about sharing someone else, and may actually do so with much mutual enjoyment. But to ever lie or cheat is to destroy a wonderful thing. Why would you marry someone if you are capable of doing this?

Answer 6

I wouldn't cheat on my spouse.

Answer 7

I have only been with my spouse.

Answer 8

the answer to that question is going to my grave
if i ever do any thing that between me and God
every aspect of your life need not be revered

Answer 9

I have a very strong consciousness, hence, I am not built for the aftermath torment....

Answer 10

there was no one before my husband and theres been no one after i married him . you wanted a honest answer so there you go .now how many have you had ?