v r in deep love for 8 years. but now i started having hate feel upon him cos his kind of move towards girls(his move is not bad, but he has girl friends at large number since he is in cine field).i know he is a gem, but then i have an uncontrollable possessiveness where by i fight with him daily, but he builds an tajmahal in his heart every day for me. recommend me an solution please.....
2006-12-25 16:55:40 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to do one of two things. Do a course to build up your self esteem and know that he loves you because you are deserving of his love.......therefore you wont be paranoid. Or you can get rid of him because he is deliberately trying to make you jealous. A person who needs the opposite sex as friends and who has someone they supposedly loves, but still likes to flirt is pretty insecure. Is it you or is it him? That is the question you need to answer first. I get the impression that you are not possessive, you are just reacting to the things he does to get you jealous. If you knew he really loved you, you wouldnt feel insecure and/or possessive. If he doesnt do anything to make you feel insecure, then you really have to build up your self confidence.....there are plenty of self esteem courses out there....maybe it would help you like yourself a bit more. Lots of women are insecure, but I believe they are insecure because of the way they have been treated in the past or are being treated now. A woman who knows their man has only eyes for them, will not be paranoid and will not be possessive....they will know where their man's loyalities lie. If your man is doing nothing to make you insecure, then you really do need to attend a few courses in self esteem.
2006-12-25 17:22:17 · answer #1 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do have the same problem as yours, the only thing I'm doing now is to be silent and pretend your not affected, if he really kind of moves toward girls ,well he will for sure compare you from other girls, your kinda gentle,simple, not ****** and understanding, reverse psychology is what i mean, show him the same care you did, the same love and i know he will think of it seriously that if he will do bad, it will be his lost not yours>
2006-12-26 02:22:33 · answer #2 · answered by rub 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationship is not about to possess someone. I suggest you read the book - Men from Mars, Women from Venus. The author has a thourough description about men & women.
2006-12-26 01:17:40 · answer #3 · answered by Vince 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋