Can you help me?

Question

Umm well lately i've been depressed and I don't know what to do about it. I know around Christmas some people feel depressed. I guess it might be because i'm single but it doesn't explain why i'm depressed all the time now. I don't want to do anything but stay in my room and read or play games. I can not get my head straight at all. I always feel drawn away from people and I hate that feeling. I know I need to be more outgoing but it's hard for me. I'm really shy and I get embarressed real easy. I can't do anything without worrying what's going to happen next. You know like the future and everything. I obsess over everything now. I don't know what has happened because this is not me at all. It like all happened this year and so I have no clue what do. Umm...I was wondering if any of you out there can help me get over this time in my life? So if anybody has any advice I would absoulutely love to hear it.

Answer 1

I can totally relate to you on worrying about the future and being depressed. When I felt like I didn't have a purpose, or just not knowing what that purpose is, it left me depressed. I think it's interesting that you brought up those three things: depression, being single, and worrying about the future because I think they may be related to each other, but I don't know for sure. But I started searching the Bible for answers as to what my purpose was. I don't know where you stand with God as far as what you believe, but if you question it or don't believe right now know that He wants you to know Him like He knows you...everything about you and everything you're going through right now. Check out this website: wayofthemaster.com and click on the "are you a good person?" test at the bottom right of the page.

But this is what I found in the Bible about finding our purpose:
Proverbs 3:5-6 says :trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths.

I have all these questions about who I'm going to marry and what the heck I'm here for and whether or not what I'm doing now is what I'm supposed to be doing. I don't know where all these thoughts come from but I know they don't come from God. He just wants us to trust Him with everything because He knows everything. He knows the end from the beginning the Bible says. Jesus says in Matthew 6 that we don't have to worry about anything, but if we seek first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness and everything else will fall into place.

I hope this helps you.

Answer 2

You know what we have the same situation that is why while I was reading your question I could relate on it. The only advice that I could give you is try to relax go to mall or any place where you could pamper yourself in that way you would feel good not only in the outside but maybe also in the inside.

Being shy hinder us to do the things that we wanted that is why sometimes we need to come out of our shell and express who we really are. Dont confuse yourself because I know your a special and great person.

I hope your having a good day CiaO.

Answer 3

First you need some help to feel better. Best way to overcome depression is both through medical and psychological help. Depression needs to be taken seriously and is nothing to be ashamed about. Most people have at least one episode of depression in their lifetime. Talk to you family doctor about some medication, take it, and find a counsellor that you can relate to. Talk therapy works. Good luck sweety. I hope you pick up the phone tomorrow, make an appointment at your local mental health center. Life is good, and you are worthy.

Answer 4

Your answer may not be medicine. It's okay to feel depressed, especially over the holiday seasons. I mean, watching TV all you see are happy couples and happy families, I know it makes me feel like every family is happy except for mine. I feel everyone has someone except for me. But really, it's all superficial. If you are looking to have a boyfriend, just know that he 'won't' show up on your doorstep. You are going to have to get out sometimes and not spend the rest of your life in your room. If you feel drawn away from people, maybe it's just because you feel they won't understand you. I have friends that talk to me about their problems, but don't give two cents about mine. Recognize who your real friends are. it's time to do some soul searching. I also obsess over trying to know what's going to happen next. It's like a control thing, I believe. You want to be able to know and prepare yourself for everything. That's a fear that you are just going to have to leave up to fate and trust that everything is going to end up how it's supposed to. if you want to talk further email me [e-mail]

Answer 5

I think the best way is to helpyourself in understanding why this is happening. Read books, watch movies,call friends who you haven't contacted for years.I also amembarrassed real easy---but the best thing that helpedmeto overcomethis was to take things easy and find works I really love to sdo. BEst of luck.Merry Christmas and Happy New Year.

Answer 6

I am single too, most of the times, i prefer to spend time alone, like listening to music, knitting, reading, writing.

It does not mean that we need to be on the go all the time to live our lives. I go out half the time.
We need an amount of socializing, but not all the time.

I always think that i might some depression or PTSD, but then when i went to the psychiatrist, she said i am coping very well for what i have been through. Hmm, i didn't believe her. Anyway, well, life is now, whatever you are doing now, not, whatever we picture ourselves doing.

I have always been the sort who thinks about the consequences before doing something, and sometimes i think that i might miss out on the enjoyment as a result of my over-cautiousness, haha, but what to do, i was born with this innate sense of caution and haha, i don't know what and why.

Do not worry, though. You are all right.

Answer 7

hey missy.
just one more week and the holidays will be over.
holidays are great because even if u dont go out much..u have a lot of free time to do a lot of reading and developing your passions. what are your passions? whats something u can do for hours but it will feel like minutes.

you DO NOT have to be outgoing. who says you HAVE to be outgoing?
if you're shy, you'r e shy. and thats that.
some people are born out going. some are shy. you are who you are , no need to change.

by the way your obsessive personality is good. channel those obsessions to your passions so you can perfect your passions:)
who knows... maybe someday someone with the same passions will go to you and introduce themselves.

Answer 8

first off...if you want to be alone then that is ok...find things to do that you enjoy....

or...if you want to be more outgoing and you are really shy there are certain things that you can join in or participate in that are not pushy or overwhelming. example...local churches often sponsor all sorts of things (im not talking about singles night either). many churches have summer classes for children that you can participate in...you can build all sorts of relations with other ppl this way. also many churches go on trips such as: campouts, movie nights, sleepovers, all sorts of social events. it is a great environment to help get over your shyness because you arent "expected" to be anyone special or impress anyone else. just be yourself and have fun...eventually you will become more confident in your abilities and will start to be more outgoing. if you need any more help or suggestions please feel free to email me or im me.....God Bless

Answer 9

sounds like you need to get a life develop interests in something and get out of yourself, I have been where you are really bad and I still can go there sometimes, its rough, I can empathize with you. you know what I have discovered really helps? I have 3 cats. The way the energy field of a cat rotates is a counterclockwise direction, the opposite of a human energy field. Because of this, cats have the ability to absorb and neutralize energy that affects humans in a negative way. This is part of the healing medicine that the cat holds.
If something affects you in a negative way place a cat on your lap or find a cat to pet. Your energy field will immediately realign itself and inner balance will be restored.

Answer 10

Sometimes depression has phases but sometimes there maybe medical reasons So consult your family doctor for advice You may need medicine