My husband is in the Coast Guard. In August, we were transferred to Juneau AK. With the exception of the last 2 yrs. I have spent my whole life in Maryland. My 8 year old son has adjusted very well and of course so has my husband, but I can not adjust. I just want to go back home so badly. I find myself doing nothing but wondering what everyone back home is doing, what there weather is, etc., etc., etc. No matter how hard I try, I can not stop thinking of what they are doing, and hoping that they will all still be there when I return in 4 years. I will not drive in bad weather, so I pretty much stay home 24-7. The darkness and the snow are horrible. So far this year we have had around 70 inches of snow. Sun rises at 8:47 am and sets at 3:08 pm. This darkness drives me crazy. Plus, it is either raining or snowing. The sun only comes out maybe twice a month. Can anyone help me. Thank you in advance.
2006-12-25 16:42:41 · 5 answers · asked by tamlovinlife2 3 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Thank all of you so much for your help. I really, really appreciate it.
2006-12-26 09:55:33 · update #1
I'm not sure there is a cure. :( I know how you feel, my husbands in the army, and we just moved to germany. The weather is about the same, there's no sun, I can't drive. I feel for you on so many levels. I have a phone bill that's sky high.. I even look forward to talking to my inlaws. The holidays are extremely tough, and I've cried to my husband begging him to send me home. :) Of course, that won't work. The dark makes it dreary, and anyone who hasn't experienced the sun going down in the middle of the afternoon really can't grasp it. My husband loves it here, of course. And everyone will tell you that it will get better, but who knows? The military does provide people for spouses and children to talk to, but when you are to the point that you don't want to leave the house, its hard to find the will to want to go. The important thing is to not give up. Everytime I want to grab the first plane out of here, I remind myself that this is not forever. Alot of people want to travel, and never get the chance. I know that that's probably sounding stupid to you, it sounds stupid to me, too. But you have to find something that makes you happy. I am angry at the military every day, but I can't go on just being pissed all the time. Maybe you could see a doctor and have him tell you what you can do to get through this. Some people will take anti depressants or anti anxiety medication just for a while until they adjust better. If it helps, just know that you aren't alone out there. I assume that you are a strong woman; you are a mother, after all. I hope that you can find something that makes you happy. :) I hope that we all can.
2006-12-25 21:26:58 · answer #1 · answered by skyy_1984 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I totally feel for you - know how you feel. The only thing you can do is change your mind. Now that may sound ridiculous, but you will drive yourself crazy if you can only think of going back home. I'm in a similar situation - I keep myself occupied, I try to find ways of enjoying where I am, I light up the house with every available light, and I talk to people as much as I can. You can get through this. Life unfortunately does not come without difficulties and we just simply have to find ways of getting through them. And make sure you talk to your husband so that he understands. Don't badger, fight or complain because he is trying to do his duty, but try to get him to understand. You can get through this, you can get through this, you can get through this. Keep in touch regularly with your family and friends, and try to put yourself out there and talk to people where you are.
2006-12-26 11:22:18 · answer #2 · answered by Isabel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you are living in a place that has such a short day, you might be experiencing Seasonal Affective Disorder. See a psychiatrist, who can help you know for sure what's going on. Often this disorder is treated by exposure to light from special light boxes.
2006-12-26 04:38:58 · answer #3 · answered by drshorty 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you. I moved to Texas for about a month and I missed California so bad that I couldn't take it. I had to come back home. You should make some new friends or start doing some volunteer work. Keep yourself busy until you can go back home.
2006-12-26 00:47:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey i feel ya. First time in my life i moved and i was so depressed. There ain't much you can do, that i know of. Do you have friends and family back there? Write them talk to people back from home, it helps immensely. My sympathies it's one of the most emotionally painful things ever.
2006-12-26 00:47:36 · answer #5 · answered by Gen 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋