My daughter is 11 1/2 months old and we've begun putting her to sleep wake but she screams and screams! Should we continue? It is breaking my heart.
2006-12-25 16:40:32 · 6 answers · asked by airforceq 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Totally agree with Cassandra. Read Dr. William Sears books. His insight and ideas abt Parenting are truly remarkable.
Also abt putting your baby to sleep, here is a good book by Elizabeth Pantley:
The No-Cry Sleep Solution: Gentle Ways to Help Your Baby Sleep Through the Night by Elizabeth Pantley and William Sears
PLEASE stop torturing your child. Her trust in YOU as her mother will determine her trust to anyone else in the future. If she can't trust you bec you ignore her and don't meet her needs, she won't be able to trust anyone else. Ignore those IGNORANT people who urge you to leave your baby alone or let her cry to sleep or don't let her get so attached to you! She's YOUR baby, follow your motherly instinct, not those people's advice. They don't even know what they're talking abt!
2006-12-25 23:19:27 · answer #1 · answered by bogey 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If you have been putting her to sleep for almost a year asleep and she is sleeping through the night I wouldn't change it. If she is waking up alot and you aren't sleeping you can certainly try...but you have to be motivated. By this time she could probably cry almost the whole night waiting for you to pick her up. If you don't have the heart to do it then don't try, you might make sleeping a complete nightmare for all of you.
You can try waiting fifteen minutes, go in soothe her for two then leave(don't pick her up!) Wait twenty minutes do the same thing, wait thirty minutes do the same thing. It may take a week to work but she most likely will be sleeping on her own in the end. If you pick her up after forty five minutes of screaming, know the next time she will most likely cry for forty five minutes. It's sounds absurd but they have an internal clock and they know how long it takes for you to come in and get them.
2006-12-26 07:49:37 · answer #2 · answered by jc2006 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It takes some kids longer than others to go to sleep on their own.
Crying never worked with my kids. TEaching them to have comfort things. Like a blanket, a teddy bear, some music. A night light. And give it some time. Don't let it turn in to a control thing. The crying will go on if she knows you eventually come in.
You can try rubbing her back and saying shhhhhhhhhhhh
She is new to the world and you are her all. I wouldn't choose to make this a deal breaker for her. She needs to feel safe and loved. If she is 2 and still doing that , then I would worry.
2006-12-25 16:52:34 · answer #3 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no harm in putting a baby to bed while still awake. Keep peeking in on her without her knowing. If you go in the room to adjust blankets or change her diaper, don't say anything. The crying is good for her lungs. Make sure before you lay her down that she has been fed,so you don't have to worry about her being hungry. She will be okay.It hurts you, but it is better for her. Try turning some music on real low for her.
2006-12-25 16:50:29 · answer #4 · answered by ruth4526 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
lol I'm sorry your wording is a little odd. It wouldn't hurt to put your child to bed before she's asleep. It's a pattern thing you have to create. If she cries for a few minutes then let her if it carries on and gets to be an angry cry after about 20mins or more then go in and sit with her for a few minutes just dont take her out of bed.
She has to know you mean business.
2006-12-25 16:59:20 · answer #5 · answered by missjewl 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
how should your husband respond if he asks you to sleep alone and you cry and cry all night? should he ignore you? would that be good for you? your marriage? your trust in others?
it breaks your heart because you see that you are destroying her trust in you and in life.
humans never in hundreds of thousands of years of evolution ever separated infants from their parents at night. it's utterly barbaric, something only 'modern' detached humans do.
stop immediately. let her sleep with you as she evolved to do, as nature intended, as she needs.
you'll all get a better night's sleep - plus you'll actually be meeting her needs. always a good thing.
don't listen to the detached parents who urge you to torture your child as they tortured theirs, as they themselves were tortured. stop the madness. love your child. respond to her. treat her as you'd like to be treated.
read something by Dr. Sears, who is adamantly opposed to torturing your baby like this. their lungs absolutely do not need crying. what a pitiful and sad and ugly rationalization for torturing your child. it doesn't hurt you more than her, it hurts her far more. she is learning that she is helpless to help herself and that her mother doesn't care that she is in agony.
oh yeah, how will that help her?
2006-12-25 16:45:24 · answer #6 · answered by cassandra 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋