Joe used to be really really close to his mother. His mother is a very invasive person who tried to change him for 30 years.Joe tried to set 'bounderies' and he got guilt trips, tears, and questions at why he was so hurtful to her. At 31 Joe was so angry he almost hated her. He moved away. Joe flourished in self confidence and anxiety started to slip away without someone looking over his shoulder, telling him what he was doing wrong. But lately Joe has not been angry at her. He has not felt love for her. He felt nothing. Sad about the relationship, but his feelings for his mother where absent. No good, no bad. Nothing. When he looked at her... there was just still air. Could this be indifference? Now he swings between love, anger, and absolutely nothing.
My questions are:
1) is the 'nothing' indifference?
2)when swinging between anger and love, and suddenly 'nothing' appears... is that the road to permanent indifference if nothing changes?
2006-12-25 16:33:23 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
sounds like indifference, but then a new emtion comes in and you care (either way ) again. It doesn't sound like you will be permantely indifferent, but it sounds like you are accepting things and in having differnt expectations... you don't expect what you need from her.. so you feel it is a dead relationshipo and you sometimes don't care.
2006-12-25 17:30:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, nothing is not indifference. It is understanding and coping. You were obviously emotionally hurt by your mother. Now that you have gained confidence and the emotional pain stopped, you look back and just accept it. This doesn't mean that you don't love your mother. Neither that it mean that you are indifferent to her or that you hate her. You still love your mother although she has disappointed you in the past, you learned to accept that and love her anyways.
No, you cannot be indifferent about something forever because something always comes up which causes you to change your mind.
2006-12-26 00:45:54 · answer #2 · answered by yayabearsis 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's love. His mood changes because he doesn't get from her what he wants or needs as her son so naturally he will be angry at times. He'll be happy when things go well. Indifference? Every time I see my mom I don't get excited like it's the first time in 21 years. That doesn't mean I don't love her or what I'm feeling is indifference. It's monotony. He's had his mom for 31 years? yeah, he loves her.
2006-12-26 00:43:45 · answer #3 · answered by meesh_1985 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing show your maturity and it show you have achieved a level in what you needed to achieve. Indifference cannot come within mother and son. It may come with wife or a co-worker... Between mother and son its just Love...
2006-12-26 01:35:24 · answer #4 · answered by senthil r 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋