i've a friend and we are quiet closer.he know i've bf and i also know he has a gf.now he has a problem with his gf.he always tell me that he really comfort with me and he always happy when we're chat together.he also told me he really loves me.i've told him i can't love him more than friend because i've bf and he also has gf.i don't want our relationship stop and i also don't want to hurt him.what should i do??
2006-12-25 16:30:48 · 11 answers · asked by swe3tsiLence~ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
1st u ask urself who do u like the most? who u feel comfortable with the most? ur bf or ur friend? if u have feelings 4 him to, then u love him back. u have 2 break an egg in order to make an omlete. so no matter whats is ur decision, im sure someone is gonna get hurt, im sorry to say this. but what u can do is make the pain lesser. hmm.. if u have feelings for ur friend, u tell ur bf honestly n u love ur friend back. n if u dont have feelings 4 ur friend n u love ur bf so3 much, u can tell ur friend in a nice way that u like him n feel comfortable with him but the pasionate feelings u have only ur with ur bf.. or u can ask ur bf to help u.. but make a wise decision k girl..
2006-12-25 16:38:01 · answer #1 · answered by jzen 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This isn't too complicated really ,,,,,You have a decision to make is all ,,,,,, If you have feelings for this individual then you have to question just how genuine your feelings are for your boyfriend as opposed to what you feel for your friend ,,,, Your friend has the same decision facing him where his girlfriend and you is concerned ,,,, No one can make this decision for either one of you ,,,, No one can live your life for you ,,,, That's why decisions of this sort can't be made by anyone else other than the principle players or the people immediately involved in this situation ,,,,, Good luck with this no matter what you decide ,,,,,
2006-12-26 01:29:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the harsh reality of your dilemma is that at the end of the day something has got to give! you will not be able to sustain both your relationships the way that you are currently doing it.
when it comes to relationships (and thereby i imply,involves peoples feelings) its always best not to disregard another. Remember: u ought to hav loyalties to your current bf and not the newbie.
Homework: take a piece of paper and down the names of all of those effected by this. now, write down for each person, how your decision will affect them (+'s and -'s), do yours last since your hav the deciding vote!
2006-12-26 01:45:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it's not necessary to always reciprocate and second thing, if you love your bf then you got to set your boundaries. If you fool around, I'm sure the expectation from his side will always remain strong. Love and lust happens everywhere and anytime but not an opportunity to earn some body's respect by being faithful to the person you love sincerely from your heart.
2006-12-26 00:35:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
U need time 2calm down. The more important thing is r u love him 2? If not, then u shd tel him the truth. As my opinion, u cannot make it longer, if no u wil be trouble. U shd take care ur bf's mind 2. wil he mind?
2006-12-26 00:40:34 · answer #5 · answered by kyle 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, First of all do you like him? Well if not just tell him the truth its better now than to do it later when he gets really into you ...well if you like him you can tell him or just break up w/ ur bf its ur choice
2006-12-26 00:36:25 · answer #6 · answered by Sexayy Ladieee 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
better wake up...he might just use you as his shock absorber every time he has a problem with his girlfriend...he knows that you have a boyfriend so he must respect you for that...If he is really a true friend.
2006-12-26 00:40:43 · answer #7 · answered by dimma59 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him right away, how you feel, cuz if you don't, the longer you wait, the more it's gonna hurt him.
2006-12-26 00:33:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is how my husband and I got together. You really shouldn't take it further than friendship until you are single, we didn't.
2006-12-26 00:35:38 · answer #9 · answered by haniels_host 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop it.
2006-12-26 00:34:33 · answer #10 · answered by lovey 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋