My cousin's wife doesn't want her baby.
Since she found out it's a boy (at 4 months pregnant) she has made no secret of the fact that she doesn't want him, like him and wishes he would leave her alone.
The baby is 6 WEEKS old.
She calls him bastard. Granted he doesn't understand, but to her friends, all of the family, and everyone who will listen, he's "that bastard". Here's a direct quote from her "Someone change that bastard, I can't believe he pooped ANOTHER diaper".
My cousin doesn't want him either. He calls him bastard too. A direct quote from him "The little bastard is costing me more money that he's worth."
They don't bathe him, they leave him alone for hours (while they are in another room with the TV or radio up loud to drown him out), crying and in poopy diapers.
What SPECIFIC action can I take? These people are rich. They have a nursery fit for the cover of a magazine, live in a multimillion dollar house, and don't want to buy bottles because it costs too much
2006-12-25 16:25:31 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
The rest of the family (our's anyway, her family doesn't like him either) thinks she will come around.
The attitude is "he's better off than most kids".
Complete denial and refuse to do anything!
2006-12-25 16:26:47 · update #1
call child services now!!
i feel bad for that boy, but seriously, she sounds like a prositute that makes money, a "multimillion" house? my gosh, she really needs to...well.. i dont know... after a while, bad karmas gonna come back and bite her in the ***!
that poor..poor boy..
call now please.
2006-12-25 16:30:32 · answer #1 · answered by Hellenic Storm 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are between the rock & hard place on this one. This is abuse, no way around it. And it will only get worse.
The next question . Is it legally abuse. In other words, can action be taken against the parents? Probably not, but it is possible. The only way to know for sure is to discuss what is going on with a local child welfare worker.
IF child welfare can legally intervene, forget anonymity. With a few phone calls, family members will figure out who spilled the family secrets. If his health is affected, you could clue in their family doctor, but I would not expect results, except that you may be pointed out as the whistle blower. Illegal yes, but it happens all the time. Maybe another family member would be willing to approach the parents about adoption.
The choices are all lousy. Even if all the other members of your family baby sit him often & love him silly, it still won't offset the emotional damage from the parents. It will help more than doing nothing, however. I thank God a couple people in my life did that for me.
So, for you, I suggest you talk with someone who can help you deal with the situation. And maybe you will come up with a solution none of us can think of. Good Luck to you & the child.
2006-12-25 16:48:20 · answer #2 · answered by bob h 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quoting you; "They don't bathe him, they leave him alone for hours (while they are in another room with the TV or radio up loud to drown him out), crying and in poopy diapers." That IS child abuse AND child neglect. SHE may have Postpartom Depression, But dad isn't having sympathy post partom depression. Call Child Protective Services ASAP. Right now. Ask yourself, at this very moment, what is that child going through? will he still be alive in the morning? Okay, that's harsh, but there are obvious signs of a child in serious need of loving help. Who would you feel worse for, parents that may cause that childs death, and will most surely cause him emotional trauma as he gets older if they get in any trouble, OR a child who may with the right kindness and upbringing cure cancer or do any number of great things? What does YOUR heart say?
2006-12-25 16:42:32 · answer #3 · answered by hudson_floridamale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reading this made me cry. Yes this is child abuse and something needs to be done. Call Child Protective Service first thing in the morning it may take some time to get the kid out of there but still none the less something needs to be done and it needs to be done now. It was suggested by another poster that you offer to take the kid off their hands. I think that is a great idea. Even babies that young can sense whether or not they are loved. There are so many people out there who want children but cant for what ever reason. Myself I have one a beautiful daughter I'd love another but I'm unable too. :-( That baby deserves a LOVING home. Heck if they live in Washington State I'd take the kid. Please do something.
2006-12-25 16:38:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Report it. You can call it in as an anonymous report. It sounds like neglect. I am not sure they will take the child out for this (unless they find SERIOUS neglect/abuse going on). They might try to work with the mom (who sounds like she has some serious postpartum depression) and get the family involved in what is called a "wrap around" which would mean there would be community supports available to them to help take care of this child.
This is so sad.
2006-12-29 09:26:42 · answer #5 · answered by A M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is outrageous, the poor little thing his is not to blame for the parents bringing him into this world, But, seeing that they did, I would talk to child proction services. Have the baby adopted out to some loving family. Has anyone asked them to do that. They don't deserve him or the multimillion home or each. They should be in jail. Little fella probably has sores on him from not bathing him. Report them.
2006-12-25 16:36:48 · answer #6 · answered by ruth4526 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call Children's Protective Services. They will investigate without telling them who turned them in. Explain what they are doing. After they investigate, if they find them to be fit parents, then call and report them again. Do it over and over until someone fixes the situation. Keep in mind that when they take a child out of the home, they ask family to take the child before they put it into foster care. So, you may be getting a call...
Why don't they give him up for adoption? That would be such a better life for everyone around.
2006-12-25 16:27:55 · answer #7 · answered by bashnick 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
This is neglect and neglect is a form of abuse. Money means nothing to a baby. Being held and played with and spoken to with sweet little baby kind of talking means something to him. And he isn't getting it.
You should report it, but I'm skeptical if the child welfare officers will understand anything short of broken bones and bruises on a baby. If they don't buy bottles, how is the baby being fed? Breastfeeding doesn't seem like something this mother would want to do, since she obviously hates her own baby. Is the baby malnourished? That would tip off the authorities that something is very wrong.
Sue
2006-12-25 16:39:00 · answer #8 · answered by newbiegranny 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is abuse in the form of neglect. Please help this child. You and your family need to call DCFS (Department of Children and Family Services) Try to gain custody of your cousins child. This is very legal. DCFS will investigate your cousin's home and determine if the baby is being treated badly. Do not tell them anything because you want to catch them off guard so they don't try to give the baby a bath 20 minutes before they get there.
2006-12-25 16:39:02 · answer #9 · answered by loveyoumuch 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OMGoodness! Call Child Services - Immediately! Whether they're rich or not, that is no way to treat another human being; whether the child understands you or not. Social workers... Umm, something!! At least the parents could put the (innocent) babe up for adoption rather than being cruel about the situation at hand.
2006-12-25 16:37:08 · answer #10 · answered by the Optimist 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How cruel are they dear friend!
how could they treat a little soul so?
The mercy and love in me asks me to suggest you to take the baby away from them and make him grow with you..
but that's impossible i think
but you can secretly charge a case against them or report the human rights society in your place for illtreating a little kid.
Yes,
they may be living in a multimillion house
but there is something that money can't buy
that's the simplicity and in born mercy of heart.
As long as they keep the baby with them, there is nothing we can do except what i said above
charge a case against them!
2006-12-25 16:33:14 · answer #11 · answered by music_lover 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋