2006-12-25 16:21:29 · 20 answers · asked by txtwister48 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't do it. You need to give yourself time to get your life back in order. Although you may feel lonely, your only getting yourself in a situation you will regret later. Then it may be much harder to get out of it.
2006-12-25 16:23:25 · answer #1 · answered by tamlovinlife2 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO No No NO NO NO! If you are recently divorced, you haven't healed from the first time around! He may be honestly in love with you, and maybe you even with him. But give yourself at least 2 years before living with someone else. Your decision would be based on all the wrong reasons to have someone living with you now. (lonliness, sex, money etc) So WAIT! Give yourself a chance to find yourself again and see what you really want out of life.
2006-12-26 00:26:22 · answer #2 · answered by Ikeg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say keep your distance...and what do you mean he wants to move in? doesnt he have a place of his own? You should give it time esp. if the divorce happend in the last year- year and a half. You need time by yourself to figure things out or else you may make the same mistakes in this relationship as in your past one. Just take a break from the whole "pleasing the man" thing, it wears on your womanhood an soul.
2006-12-26 00:25:57 · answer #3 · answered by adrixia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ohhhh hon, as someone who is newly separated after 14 years of marriage I couldn't imagine moving in with ANYONE so soon. Now I'm not sure if you initiated your divorce and you're just ready to move on and start your new life, but my advice would be to wait. Wait until you've had some real down time, time to be on your own and figure out who you are and what you want in your new life. Best of luck to you, I hope you find much deserved happiness.
2006-12-26 00:30:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that you should not do it. You are too vulnerable right now. Furthermore, the divorce rate (although you are not talking about marriage) on re-marriages is like 80-90 percent if people re-marry in the first 5 years after marriage. It is said that it takes 5 years to recover emotionally from a divorce.
2006-12-26 00:28:00 · answer #5 · answered by Legal_Beagle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't do it. Why would you want to throw yourself into another relationship right away? Take some time, make sure you have figured out things from the divorce. If you have kids, concentrate on them and not on finding a guy. If you have no kids, work on yourself for a while first.
2006-12-26 07:20:38 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it for at least a year. By then you'll know you're not on the rebound. When I went through my divorce, I started dating again right away. Big mistake! It' very tempting to get right back on the horse when you fall off. You're looking for reassurance that you're still desirable, but it can lead to making some really bad choices, ones that you'll really regret down the road. Wait a while.
2006-12-26 00:28:47 · answer #7 · answered by eyeque195 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take my time and get to know him really well.I heard that it takes a whole year to know if you're compatible.Whether his family is close,their love for God,how they celebrate their holidays,etc.Family plays a big part in a relationship.You just got out of a marriage and it isn't a good idea to rush into a living arrangement.Get to enjoy your single life and try dating him as well as others.Living alone will help you find out more about yourself and what you really want for yourself.Don't jump into something that you will later regret. Good Luck.
2006-12-26 00:55:03 · answer #8 · answered by Ms Lety 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
should give yourself a little time to get over the divorce, don't be too quick to just get into a new relationship, and get to know him before u let someone move in. sometimes we are so much in a hurry that we pick the wrong person, and don't spend the time necessary to get to know that person.
2006-12-26 00:28:52 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too much, too soon!! It takes a long time, to get over a broken marriage. You have to give yourself some time to greive, to understand, and heal, before you are ready make logical emotional decisions. Give yourself that time. If he really cares about you, he'll wait. Right now, you are vunerable, and maybe he knows that and is using it to his advantage. Why should you provide him a home?
2006-12-26 00:41:09 · answer #10 · answered by bella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT RUSH IN TO ANYTHING!
Give yourself time to be single.
Don't settle down with the first fish that passes by.
You got divorced for a reason.
2006-12-26 00:30:57 · answer #11 · answered by Mark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋