and suddenly they seem to be acting more than a friend is it fair to let it play out to see what happens? If you are happily married for 7 years...although normal trials like any marriage...and all of a sudden you and a childhood friend see something new in each other after knowing each other for 25 years....should you see what might be there?
2006-12-25 16:17:39 · 15 answers · asked by Eastcoast beachgirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
no , please don,t even think about it,,,i don,t know what you , or your friend are going thought now, but i can assure you it is transitory, at best, if you were meant to be together it would have happened long before now...take a step back , and remember you are friends , and you are married..if you want to remain friends... if you indulge this ( what if ) episode it most likely will not end well, you risk losing all you have, with your husband, and your friend OK,, good luck...
2006-12-25 16:23:54 · answer #1 · answered by vanshusband 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK...I think the key words in your question were "happily married for 7 years".....let me rephrase..."HAPPILY MARRIED" you are the one who said those words not me! So, in a way, you almost answered your own question. You are already happy, what are you looking for then, are you just bored with life and curious to see if you can get any happier from here? You are correct about one thing though, every marriage does face trials, and perhaps this is a test from above to see if you are strong enough to withstand temptation and remain loyal to your husband. I believe that perhaps you are letting your feelings play a huge part in this...and I am a strong believer that there should be a balance between emotions and rationality. In this case, your emotions are swaying you one way, and common sense is the only thing holding you back. You know that it would be wrong to pursue something that is "more than a friendship" outside of your marriage, and by asking this question you were just curious to see what kind of advice society could give you....but should you really listen to society? You know they are not the best givers of valuable advice!...Look around!
You know its wrong, period. Think about how much it would hurt you if your husband was asking this question instead of you....
2006-12-25 16:35:59 · answer #2 · answered by Yul'ka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You run the risk of not only losing your husband but also losing your lifelong friend when the fling is over and it's to awkward to be in each others presence.
2006-12-25 16:48:04 · answer #3 · answered by having_a_blonde_day_lol 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must not be happily married. If you were then this wouldn't be a thought in your mind for you to even be asking this.
2006-12-25 16:21:56 · answer #4 · answered by Lovemykids 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't think your marriage is worth second guessing your new found feelins for your friend. Ask yourself, are you willing to risk damaging your marriage for your new feelings for your old time friend. You'll have your answer. Good luck.
2006-12-25 16:20:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely.
2006-12-25 16:19:44 · answer #6 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Please do not do this to your husband..
Absolutely NOT>>>>> If you want to have a life with your childhood friend then end your marriage and move on with this guy..Do not have to spoons in the pot at one time...It is not fair and nor is it right,,,,,
2006-12-25 16:23:46 · answer #7 · answered by ~Mysti~ 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
negative you are married that is a vow you DO NOT DO NOT do that you are freaking married that is all i have about that with out getting very pissed P.S. read the Bible you can get a few of your answers from it
2006-12-25 16:25:01 · answer #8 · answered by jbird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! Good grief, aren't you MARRIED?
Perhaps you don't value personal integrity. In that case, go for it and see how many regrets you can earn.
2006-12-25 16:20:41 · answer #9 · answered by zilmag 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER LEAVE THE ONE YOU LOVE FOR THE ONE YOU LIKE. YOU SHOULDVE THOUGHT OVER THIS BEFORE YOU EVEN GOT MARRIED, YOUR GONNA HURT YOUR HUSBAND AND HE HAD NO IDEA YOUR FEELING THIS WAY.
2006-12-25 16:22:48 · answer #10 · answered by milly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋