I have a MIL who is absolutely not happy that i married to my hubby.I love him a lot and I don't want to loose him.She has indirectly told a 100 times how he has god so many proposals of rich ppl.She then goes on to say that she is going to give a car,site etc on her daugter's wedding.note:I was totally against the fact that such kind of money should not be given on my wedding as I consider it as a 'dowri'.and i knw my hubby wouldn't like it too.but she keeps taunting me on this.she keeps telling me indirectly that i am no fit for my hubby.note:she says all this by smiling....and when i have told that it hurts(to my hubby),he doesnt say anything to confront me..he only gives me a hug(i knw he loves me)...
when i am not around,.she says indicates that i am some kind of no match for him...
when ppl are around she does as though i am her deaar persson etc...and when nobody is around,she keeps taunting me on my smallest mistake in kitchen/anything.she keeps screaming
2006-12-25 15:47:29 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Your husband if he truely loves you would stand up to you....He wouldn't stand by and let anyone torment his wife like that, I don't care who it is!! Don't let what your MIL says bother you, she knows that she can hurt you by saying this because you let her know it...Act as if it don't bother you and she will see that her nagging and stuff isn't getting to you. Try to stay away from her instead of setting yourself up for more BS from her. To a mother no woman is good enough for her son she will always think that. Let your husband know that you don't want any problems in your relationship, but if she is going to treat you like a nobody then you don't want to subject yourself to that abuse. Your husband is probably afraid to stand up to his mother, (TRUST ME I HAVE ONE OF THOSE) the way I dealt with it was, I told my finace that I wouldn't play second best in any mans life, and neither should you....I explained to him that I loved him and his mother was driving me crazy all the time, he finally stood up to her and you know ever since then her and I have no problems. Keep you head up hon, it will work out...Good luck!!
2006-12-25 15:55:21 · answer #1 · answered by Floridapurrfection 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is a very decietful woman. I would not give her too much control in your marriage. Put your foot down now. I waited too long it sucks. She is very jealous of you. You took her baby away and she doesnt want to cut the cord yet. He sounds like he loves you, but hugs do not make the problem go away. Next time you see her tell her your thinking about moving to another state where the jobs are better. She is just beginning to see how much control she can have, she is testing you. Be good to you look good for you and him. do things for you and him. Dont call her let her call you - let the machine pick up a few times. If you dont get a grip she will be controlling your kids too. Your perfect for him and she is downgrading you financially. There is more to life than money bitches like her belong on a nasty soup opera or sitting on her lazy *** at the country club looking like an ignorant ***** drunk on a martini. Treat her like she is 5 yrs old, really talk to her as though you picture her as a five yr old who is needy.
If you got it flaunt it in front of her if you dont go ahead and let her walk all over you - until you go nuts, or lose your true love. Its up to you. Toughen up softie. If she can dish the **** she can take it too. Be a ***** to her and be a sweetie to your love.
2006-12-26 00:16:23 · answer #2 · answered by Gabs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, you're dealing with an immature woman, who is having a problem letting go of her son to you. Maybe her marriage isn't as happy as yours. Your husband sounds like a sweetheart. He really should talk to his mother about her behavior in a gentle, but firm way. Tell her that he still loves her, but now he is a grown man with his own life, which happens to be with you. I would also suggest that you not be around this woman until her son does talk to her, and she backs off the negative criticism. She could use a different approach with you, and try to understand you don't yet have her experience in the homemaking arts. Talk to your husband, and support him positively in his efforts to try and improve the situation between you two. Good luck.
2006-12-25 23:57:40 · answer #3 · answered by Chatelaine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him before you get married and insist on moving away from her. Atleast an hours drive.
She is going to ruin your marriage. You will be in divorce court within 2-3 years.
2006-12-25 23:51:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your husband about creating boundries. You are to cleave to one another now that you are married and shouldn't allow in-laws to sabotage your relationship. Be friendly, polite, and courteous to your mother-in-law, give her all the respect that is deserved her status; but you both need to explain to her, that you love eachother, and that her unhealthy influences will not be tolerated.
2006-12-25 23:53:36 · answer #5 · answered by AnswerGuy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You needs to focus on your married, not your in-law. It is hard enough to work out in the married. Have mercy on your husband. This is his mother you stress out about. Think about him with a double or triple stress to stay married with someone he love.
2006-12-25 23:56:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
watch monster in law and that'll give you some tips
2006-12-26 00:08:55 · answer #7 · answered by Sxoxo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should try not to talk to her..
2006-12-25 23:52:47 · answer #8 · answered by Promise 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋