2006-12-25 15:33:51 · 36 answers · asked by PATEL'S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
YES...
2006-12-25 18:24:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
it's not necessary. many religous people believe it's necessary to wait to have sex. however, the majority of the world not only cannot wait that long, but feels that they get to know more about a person, and feel more comfortable with their significant other after doing the deed. There is vital information to be found out from comitting the act, that might be useful to know before marrying someone!
2006-12-25 15:37:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely NOT. In fact, the question is faced by a number of persons, especially, the ones getting married in near future and the cause is the anxiety or fear of 'failure' to 'perform'.
Let me tell you that the sex is basically an instinct, just like hunger, and we need not be trained or perfect in that. Equally true is the fact that a good number of us are psychologically programmed to fail in our first ever attempt due to various reasons e.g. over-excitement (first time), fear (of failure), atmosphere & situation (newly married and yet to go for honeymoon and stiil trying at home), exhausted (marriages are really tiring) etc. etc. The phsical dysfunction is not even 1% and it may or may not be curable, whereas psychological one is up to 90% and the good news is that it is '100% curable', because it is just a state of mind.
So, the word of mouth is that one should practice it before marriage to be at least experienced in it.
NOT WORTH IT, I tell you WHY?
1. You will cheat on someone or get cheated for that and that would always give you a sense of guilt. Further, you may have more anxiety & worries than pleasure.
2. You would pay for it and that would mean a lot of security issues. It is not safe (remember AIDS, STD & VD).
3. You would even go ahead with the future mate. Is it worth it? You have a life time ahead to induldge and the 'first' one should be a special & peaceful (mentally) one. MUST WAIT FOR IT.
4. Even if you find some willing partner for it, I would recommend that you wait for the 'first' one with your life partner.
HAVE A NICE TIME AT THAT SPECIAL ONE ONLY...
GOOD LUCK.
2006-12-25 17:33:31 · answer #3 · answered by sharma.kulbhushan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's is not necessary, if you're with a woman that's pressuring you to have sex, then ask her to wait until you're sure that it's what you want to do (or if you're religiously against just say so), and if she gets upset and starts saying that you don't want her etc, then she isn't worth sharing yourself with. You are not some kind of toy that's passed around. It is not necessary to ever have sex. It's your decision, and always will be your decision on whether you want to or not.
2006-12-25 15:42:19 · answer #4 · answered by who_is_audrey 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
not necessary but I think that with the high divorce rates you need to know that you can talk about sex and have a good intimate relationship before marriage. What I mean is that without intamacy before sex you are marring your friend.... Being friends is alot easier than an intimate relationship. You would be increasing your chances of divorce unless your conservativism would counterbalance that.
2006-12-25 15:38:51 · answer #5 · answered by James B 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
there is lot more than sex to do before marriage. let sex be something to do after marriage. the problem is that urge to have sex is far better to enjoy than sex. once u have sex that urge never comes back. so just pamper, cuddle, kiss and tease till u get married sex will not be an issue. u can have all the sex after ure marriage.
2006-12-25 17:05:11 · answer #6 · answered by yourfreind_forlife 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so hurry. This is long time suffer for you. Before its sweet. But after 5 years of marriage, don't run away from your wife's boring sex experince
2006-12-26 00:16:03 · answer #7 · answered by rockylike007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily, for the only thing you can prove to yourself that the opposite sex is not after sex only. I was a virgin when before I got married.
2006-12-25 15:53:25 · answer #8 · answered by teylor 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes. What are you going to do if the sex is really bad, and you're married already?!!?! Are you going to go through the rest of your life not experiencing good sex? Better to find out before than after the marriage.
2006-12-25 15:53:46 · answer #9 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Necessary? No.
However, if sex is an important part of what you seek in a relationship, it would be nice to know if the two of you are compatible in that area.
Talk about it with your intended. See what happens.
2006-12-25 15:37:27 · answer #10 · answered by bionicbookworm 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
ni it is not necessary it is when you both feel right to do it if not then wait until you get married
2006-12-25 15:41:02 · answer #11 · answered by funkysha916 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋