being solitary.. promotes a kind of maturity and wisdom which would normally take much longer?

Question

If u are a solitary or person who keeps to themselves not out of shyness or because of other reasons but because they want to be except with a few select people.. does that make them "grow up" faster mentally and become more mature and wise within themselves then others of there own age counterparts? or is it just coincidence that they happen to be much more mature and wise then there peers. it seems that many more intellectual people are less sociable except to select few people who they keep close... is it all true? ive always wondered... maybe im just weird? who knows. or maybe i should start hanging out with old people who take things into account more of the way i do

good responses and whatnot but a few of u are taking it the wrong way. im not by my self alot of the time because people dont want me around. they do its just alot of the time i prefer to be by myself

Answer 1

Solitude is quite underrated in society today.
I believe that if more people sought some solitude in their lives, they would learn so much more about themselves and the world around them.
You gain wisdom through life experience without regards to solitude.
However, solitude affords one introspection, not only regarding themselves but the world around them.

We live in a meth paced society. And there is an abundance of foolish and selfish people, who know no more about themselves than they do others.

I revere solitude.
I respect it.
Without solitude, how does one discover the true self?
It is impossible.

Do people who are as a norm solitary gain wisdom faster than those who are not solitary people?
That depends.
If it is because they hate life and people, it can be destructive.
But the nature of solitude affords one the ability to watch learn and listen, there is much wisdom to be gained.
People who tend to be solitary view the world in a very broad sense and are often if not most times, very creative people.
They do not need the world to define who they are, because they have done that for themselves.

Answer 2

You're not weird in your thinking at all. I prefer being alone because people don't understand where I am coming from, they don't want to hear other alternatives or options. Being a part of a group is over-rated, you don't know who to trust and when you do confide in someone, they stab you in the heart and say nasty things about you. Shyness has nothing to do with, I could be labelled as so. I keep very few close to me, I think experience has a lot to do with it too- severe traumas in early life, constant mental challenges, that type of thing- sociological attempts make it worse because it is flawed, you have to learn how to read between the lines. Nothing wrong with being outward but it fades.

Answer 3

humans are sociable persons. they need it for a healthy frame of mind and positive attitude.

being in a relationship makes you not see some things. true. it is why you should take your time after a relationship and see what's your way (mostly because you should make some sort of compromises and be receptive to the other person in a relationship). but, you need other points of view (from people of same sex and by people of opposite sex) and try to maintain a healthy productive mindset about things in general and a good balance between your beliefs and the ones of people surrounding you.

the maturity you get from the quality of the social interactions you get (good: diversity, intelligence, open minded, non-extremist, creative and original, pragmatic, sharp, sensitive; bad: low-energetic, dumb, closed-minded, boring, not-creative, not-original, rude, extremist, oversensitive or frustrated)... try to meet and make people open out to you (like when you're traveling) and you'll become more mature, more experienced, more understanding just by sharing the experiences of others

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Answer 4

Let me give you an solid example of why this is not the case: the elderly. Many elderly people become isolated - very, very isolated in many cases. Statistically, they are at much greater risk to suffer debilitating health problems and premature death than their more active counterparts. These more active seniors also tend to suffer fewer mental problems (dementia) than their more isolated counterparts. Why is this? To a great extent it's about talking with other people about everyday things - including but not limited to health concerns. Think of the brain as just another muscle: it requires movement and exercise for it to function well. If this is missing, your muscles - and brain - will atrophy. You aren't thinking this far ahead and through to its logical conclusion because you are young and lack the life experience. With the passage of time you will come to understand that you can never know it all and that is the true definition of 'WISDOM". Knowing that you don't know (and need to find out).

Knowing when you don't know may even prove a life-saving experience. Talk to friends and family about that incessant pain in your stomach and ask them for their opinion of what to do: even when the doctor hasn't a clue himself and sends you away with a prescription for pain killers. Many months later you learn that you have inoperable stomach cancer and about a year to live. This is how my father died: stomach cancer in the early stages is one of the easiest cancers to treat: if you don't ask for advice you won't get any, period. My father died at the age of 68 because he thought he knew it all, and that physicians don't make mistakes. Well, physicians DO make mistakes and had he openened his mouth about his concerns (especially the way he was being dismissed by his doctor) he would still be alive. I use the example of the elderly because they are in fact so easily dismissed by health care practitioners. If you learn one thing today learn this: to question the status quo by being open to discussion and VOICING YOUR CONCERNS and ASKING FOR OPINIONS, and genuinely LISTENING to what other people have to say may end up saving your very life. Remember: "No Man is an Island" and that includes YOU TOO, Sunshine!

Answer 5

I grew up with four sisters. I enjoy their company. I also like to be alone. I feel both have helped me mature and gain wisdom.

If you weren't allowed to be a kid because you didn't have others to play with and kept your head in the books, you may have missed out on valuable social skills.

I never thought any of my friends who prefer to be alone are any more intelectual than I. They simply have more free time to enjoy their hobbies because their hobbies are ALL they have. They also seem to have more hobbies since they have few friends.

"We fear violence less than our own feelings. Personal, private, solitary pain is more terrifying than what anyone else can inflict." -- Jim Morrison

Answer 6

I believe solitude allows an individual more time to think things through rather than find out new things through experience. They may seem wiser in the short run, but nothing beats hands on experience.

Answer 7

Being with people can help you to be wiser too. Anything can be a source of knowledge. But solitude certainly is too, specially when you seek people's companion to run away from facts or ideas you should be facing or taking care of, and are unavoidable when you are alone.

Answer 8

Being a loner causes one to get real with himself and face the truth of what and who he is.
It also gives him the opportunity to do the soul searching that is necessary to correct those things that he doesn't like about himself.
Some people chose to be alone others are alone because no one wants anything to do with them