I am at the beginning of a divorce and I just want to know if people actually find happiness after divorce. My husband never beat me or anything like that, if that was the case then I wouldn't be asking this question.
2006-12-25 15:12:50 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was with my ex husband for 5 years then we got married. We stayed married for another 6 years. Eventually got divorced in the 11th year. We had 2 children together and I left the marriage and filed for divorce. it took 2 years for us to be able to sit and talk and laugh about life. For many years after that I called him my best friend. We had to be hinest with eachother as to why the marriage failed. And yes for many years it bothered both of us when the other got into a relationship. But those feelings do fade with time. It has been about 8 years now since we split and we are both very happy in our lives. So yes it may not seem so right now but there is a light at the end of the tunnel.
2006-12-25 15:23:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I divorced my husband last year. He never beat me either, but he was verbally abusive. Not long after my husband and I divorced, I met the most WONDERFUL man and we are very much in love. If I thought this could have happened to me, I would have left my husband a long time ago!! But I had low self esteem because I am over weight. I never thought another man would find me attractive. Well, I am happy to report that I was wrong!! My new boyfriend loves me the way that I am, and he treats me better than I could have ever imagined!!
I hope that you have the same luck as I did, and find a wonderful man. BUT... if not, you need to know that you will be FINE on your own. Reconnect with old friends... Meet new friends... Try something that you have always wanted to do. Enjoy life... It's the only one you have.... There is NO dress rehearsal! Good luck!!
2006-12-25 15:35:37 · answer #2 · answered by Cyndie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just celebrated my 18 month anniversary and I can truly say that I am so happy and at peace with my life now. I never thought that I would ever be happy after a divorce. as my marriage lasted 15 years and 3 kids, but he was so controlling and narcissistic that it feels so good to make my own decisions for the 1st time in my life. I haven't been on a date at all since my divorce, but I know that I am happy because I am finding out about me, and I don't need a man to make my life complete, I only need to know God and know myself and all the good things I can and do accomplish. I moved to another state to start over, got a better paying job, bought a brand new car, none of which happened while I was married.
GL. You can and will be happy.
2006-12-25 15:35:06 · answer #3 · answered by TotallylovesTodd! 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My ex and I are 6 months divorced, friends say we are both much happier. I know I feel better, more relaxed, I smile more and think of what other people might need rather than what they can do for me. But there are days, like 2 days ago when I asked "those divorced/widowed after 22 yrs, how do you do it". Some fantastic answers so I know there are even better times ahead. Happy right this moment, yes, full filled, no not really, more like scared to death, but the possibilities are what helps me get up in the morning. Hang in there.
2006-12-25 15:30:20 · answer #4 · answered by wheeldave2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just spoke with an older women having divorced after fifteen years of marriage, living single afterwords for years. She said that she wish she'd known how to weather the difficult times better and learned more ways to connect, than to simply divorce as she had.
Few if any, of the people men or women, that I have known, divorced due to differences, moved onto bliss and happiness.
2006-12-25 15:30:27 · answer #5 · answered by AnswerGuy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been divorced for 8 years and am extremely happy now...I have been with my partner for 5 years now.....takes time and a lot of water under the bridge and you may find yourself being wary of the whole single scene but you will get there
good luck with the next phase of your life
2006-12-25 15:19:56 · answer #6 · answered by panda64 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me , I am very happy now . It takes a while. I was single for 6 years and some of those years were not to great . Then I met my husband I am married to for 3 years. I have never been this happy in my entire adult life.
2006-12-25 15:59:36 · answer #7 · answered by lovely 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am divorced and I am happy now. I wouldn't say extremely happy because I'm not capable of that, but for me I'm pretty happy.
2006-12-25 15:45:20 · answer #8 · answered by Beth T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me...hi...hello!
It will be rough for the first few months, but happiness does exist after divorce. Hang in there.
2006-12-25 18:59:04 · answer #9 · answered by shortfrog 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been through several, and it hurts very much when it's happening. Sometimes, though, you start to realize that he did you a big fat favor when he left. It's kind of like being fired from a job you don't much like anyway, and then getting a better one. The rejection hurts, you'd rather have been the one to quit the job instead of getting fired, but life goes on.
2006-12-25 15:17:17 · answer #10 · answered by cruztacean1964 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋