If you had a severely handicapped child would you take care of the child, or would you institutionalize?

Answer 1

Some of you that answered in here have very deep bleeding hearts and have no right to judge the answers given. The ones that say 'keep it' got the positive votes while the ones with 'it depends on the circumstance' have gotten the bad votes.

You never want to be in that kind of a position because as a parent it would tear you apart. People have gone into bankruptcy over their handicapped child and still not have been able to meet that child's needs. Meanwhile their other children feel resentful and neglected and abandoned and martyrs, because complaining would mean you think you have it worse than your brother the handicap.

It absolutely positively DOES depend on the situation and the circumstances. Severely handicapped children don't just get born to rich families that can afford their treatment. Nor are they born to single child homes or to parents with P.H.D.s

More often than not they are born to crack mothers who can't even tell if its Wednesday or Sunday. To people with 3 children already and are living from hand to mouth. To a new couple that hasn't a clue on how to raise a normal one.

In a perfect world, we wouldn't have these kinda babies. But we do, so don't 'down-talk' in here. There just might be people reading who had made some heavy decisions in their lives already. They don't need teens and drop outs in here telling them that they should have done something else with their child.

Answer 2

I would try to care for my child at home for as long as possible. However it may would come a time I would have to institutionalize the child in order for them to learn some of the things I could not teach them or if they became violent.

Answer 3

take care of my child. why on earth would bring a child into this world just to throw it away into an institution. I have worked with mentally handicapped adults and a particular one that was in an institution for many years before his brother was old enough and able to support him to take him out of there, he was raped in there and treated like a dog. I could never put my child there no matter how hard it would be every day to take care of them I would love them too much to hurt them like that.

Answer 4

I DO NOT JUDGE others for their choices in such matters. I would probably attempt to keep the child at home if I was able to do so because I believe that child is also GOD's GIFT to me. I do not appreciate most of those institutions and would like to have my child cared for in the best manner possible no matter what his general intelligence, He is still "my child". I am a Christian and I would hope that he/she would also.be able to make the decision to become a Christian at some point in their lifetime. I hope that this answer makes sense to you. Have a great week!

Answer 5

I do have a severly handicapped child with cerebral palsey.He's always been home with us, now 20 yrs old and we will continue to care for him as long as we are able and his needs are being met. We do have private duty nursing that helps us while we are at work and while we sleep. This is wonderful for he knows his family and gives us lots of smiles and love in his own special way.

Answer 6

Every parent in this situation has to make that decision.
I live with eight teen boys, some of whom are registered sex offenders with IQ's that range between 45 and 125. Our home is an alternative to the old institutional settings.
Our guys and I volunteered to remodel the bedroom of a 10-year-old autistic child who cannot speak, cannot feed himself but who eats the plaster off his bedroom walls and smears feces on floor, walls, door and windows. We made the room easier for the boy's mom to clean.
In over 30 years of living with problem kids, I rarely heard any say they admired a parent. Every one of the kids who worked on this project admired this parent for sticking with her seriously handicapped son. They knew that there are limits to the ability to tolerate punishment and this woman was remarkably tenacious in her care for her son. I am so glad she is hanging in there because I do not think I could live with his problems no matter how much I was paid.
Good luck. Take care of yourself and your child.

Answer 7

I would try so hard to bare with the fact that my child is either physiclly or mentally handicapped..if i manged to survive i would try to make the best out of it...if not i wouldnt feel good but i would put them in a institution

Answer 8

i think of they in all probability gave then names the mummy and dad basically cherished - As interior the case of autistic youngsters, that subject isn't clinically determined at delivery yet months later after the youngster is born, and the youngster is already named. there are a number of different handicaps that youngsters have which at the instant are not seen at delivery, so i'm undecided the naming of those youngsters had something to do with their handicaps.

Answer 9

It would depend upon if me and my family could give the child the care he/she needed. If so, I would care for the child, but if not, I would check into the best evnironment for the child.

Answer 10

I would consult with local social services to see if there are living assistants available to help in the house. Even my sister relies on constant help for her three young sons (between ages 2-4) in order for them to have individual attention, and they are very bright boys. So certainly a child with special needs would need individual attention and assistance.

If you absolutely cannot handle the commitment and responsibility, with or without assistance, there is nothing wrong with deciding to adopt out your child to a family who can provide the necessary support and environment. I would consult with local centers (in Houston there is the DePelchin Children's Center) to find out what is best for your child, and then find out the best way to meet those requirements.

Whatever is best for your child is what is important, no matter what that turns out to be.